Maybe you can make a new thread and people can give you advice. There is 100% a fix-able reason why your ball pythons do not eat and how the last one starved itself to death, and I guarantee it is husbandry related. Feeding live is definitely more enticing to snakes, sometimes even to a ball python who is in an improper setup, which is why he ate.
Once you have your husbandry fixed up, your snake can even be switched to frozen thawed and you don't need to make 50 mile drives.