New baby BP / First time snake owner question

[Badgemash]

On pooping: it happens, just tell her to be happy it was on her since washing your girlfriend is easier than washing your persian rug (or in the case of my first snake "accident" all over my super fancy new mattress ). Also consider taking your GF out for ice cream or something to show her how much you appreciate her trying to overcome her fear to make you happy.

On feeding: I feed all of my snakes who live on paper in their tubs. Some of them get multiple feeders (the mouser, the big girls on ASFs, and the male who prefers a mouse appetizer to his rat main dish). I have one baby who is on aspen, she is fed in a separate tub. I had a boa who got aspen imbedded in her mouth when her rat moved at the last second and she missed. Fighting an angry boa (poor girl was in a fair amount of pain, trying to close her mouth just pushed the aspen deeper) made me very leery of feeding on any kind of wood substrate (coco coir being the only exception). If that baby starts stressing (refuses, regurges, bites me, etc) then I'll reevaluate either her substrate or how she's fed.

On biting: 99% of the time it is very fast, it's already over before you've processed that it happened (much like it is for the rodent). I'm not saying they never bite and latch on, but it's not common. The shock of it happening is worse than the bite, which is like getting scratched with sandpaper (speaking obviously only about BPs here, if this was a retic of course that would be a different story).

Ultimately the best thing you can do is research the the typical routines of relatively experienced keepers, and work out how to best apply them to your animals and your situation. They are individuals, just like we are, what works for some won't for others and you just have to keep trying until you find what works best for yours.