Hey everyone, as some of you know I am soon going to be a daddy (Due December 27th) to a little girl we have decided to name Raygan. I am super excited to be a father and start a new chapter in my life, but I..as most new parents (fathers in particular) am having a bit of a down spell about my future. I would like to make this thread to get some motivation from others along with help from other parents on continuing on the happy road.

Currenlty I work in a Level 1 Trauma Center in the emergency room as a Nursing Assistant, my job is to basically care for the patients in every form minus giving medication and stuff of that nature. I work 3rd shift 2300-0700 (11pm-7am) and make $10.82/hr with a $1.95/hr 3rd shift bonus so $12.77/hr. It's a pretty good gig, but not where I see myself working my whole life. I am mainly keeping the job because it's good pay for not having gone to college (Nor do I really plan on going...tried it and couldn't push myself hard enough to get through even 2 months) and the benefits are good...considering I went 3 years without health insurance and that was bad enough. I would really like to get a job in the construction industry, preferably road construction or work for a electric company repairing telephone poles and power lines...neither need a degree just training and both pay pretty decent...more so than what I make now.

Me and my fiance are currently living with her mother, since she got taken out of work (due to being so sick from the pregnancy) and then was latter laid off, so now I have all her bills to pay as well which is taxing my mind along with the worries of my bills.

We really want to build our own place as we already have a 1 acre plot to build on, we just need the money to do it. Plus we know plenty of people in the construction game that we could get plenty of help building it without having to foot the huge fee to a contractor. We want to start building as early as next summer, but I'm still second guessing if we will be able to get the money to build....we aren't planning on anything fancy, jsut a starter than can be added on too. About 2 bedrooms, a living room, bathroom, and kitchen. We would however like a basement which will increase the build cost quite a bit.

Here is where I am having trouble feeling motivated.


And keep in mind I am not making this thread to say I am not happy or excited for my baby to come, because I have never been happier!


I have been keeping snakes on and off for the last few years, I got a couple balls to start breeding with but my mother made me sell them and since at the time I didn't have any place to put them I had to. Fast forward to me and my fiance getting our own apartment...I had my own animal room where I kept my rats and garter snake, with the space and intent to begin buying some more BPs again. Fast forward a month or so, we find out my fiance is pregnant, we had been trying but I wasn't expecting it to happen so quickly or easily due to her endometriosis. Then once my fiance lost her job I couldn't afford the apartment plus all the other bills so we moved out and into her mother's house like previously stated.

I now feel like I may never have the chance to get more snakes, I feel like everytime the oportunity to get some comes something else prevents me from getting anything, same for many of my other hobbies...I have my car sitting in pieces in my parents garage because I still don't have the money to finish the body work and it's been that way for 2 years. I totaled my car 2 weeks ago and want to get another car that I want, but can't condone getting another loan right now.

Like I said I am super happy to be a daddy, but it seems like all the dreams I had before we got pregnant are a puff of smoke and are gone...will I ever be able to get the things I want and be able to do hobbies I enjoy instead of either working or sleeping....


Please let me know it gets easier and that everything will get better, and that my goals to breed pythons will happen in due time...and if not atleast lie to me...Lol.


Just need a little motivation...


Thanks to anyone who can help me out.

Kevin