I'm really at a loss. About 3 weeks ago my sister moved with me back to WI. Since then she has become depressed. I have tried everything to make her feel welcome, but nothing seems to be working. Tonight as we were leaving dinner at my friend's house she dropped the bomb on me that she wanted to go home to NH. I'm just getting back on my feet after being out of work for a month. I don't have the money to send her home and honestly I think she should get a job and pay for her trip back. I don't think that is going to work out though because she's depressed that she doesn't have a job but is making zero effort to find one. She stays up all night and sleeps all day. I get that she's lonely and she's too shy to venture out on her own. If she didn't sleep all day and actually helped out around the apartment I would have more time to spend with her when I get home from work, but it doesn't seem like that is ever going to happen.

I really just don't know what to do. I don't want to pay to move her back after I just paid to move her here, but at the same time she's clearly not happy here and I don't want to force her to be here. I honestly didn't want to move back to Madison, WI. Yeah I have some great friends here but all of my family lives in NH or MA. When I got the job offer for my current job I told them I needed sometime to think about it, right after I hung up the phone my sister said she would be happy to move back with me. That was a what made the decision easier and I accepted the job. I wasn't expecting things to be perfect, but I think she was. I think she was expecting things to be magically different out here, which obviously wasn't going to happen.

I don't know if I should send her back (which would cost a good sum of money since she doesn't drive), make her tough it out, just ignore the fact that she said anything, or something else.