Really sad and dissapointed

[RobNJ]

Okay, I know I'm not the first and I don't know if I'll be the last either to post about something concerning comments on the forums. I was reccomended to this site by people who said this was a great site with supportive people who really know their stuff. Well, from what I have seen, that is half true.

When someone is posting for help on this site I see a lot more bashing and blaming instead of helping. This has definitely affected what I post on here. If I need help I don't ask on here I call my herp vet, because if I am asking for help I'm not looking for criticism. I know there is something wrong or I wouldn't be asking so there is no need to tell me or anyone else that we are horrible pet owners. I just wish people realize that when someone is being vulnerable enough to ask for help that it is not the oppurtune time to be hurtful.

Being passionate does not excuse being rude and purposefully belittling to anyone. Seeing a snake (or any other animal) in pain makes me feel sad and tear up sometimes, but that does not give me the right to climb up on my high horse and be rude to someone who isn't looking for a fight. I do realize that everyone is entitled to their own opinions and they can say whatever they would like. Even so, using a little curtousy and profesionalism has never hurt a situation and being polite has never escelated a situation.

I'm not calling anyone out, I just hope the people that need to see this do see this. Also, I do apologise if anything is spelled wrong, I am dyslexic so spelling is not my forte, and I do hope that any typos present do not take away from the message. Thank you all.

Thanks for speaking your mind...it's always appreciated, but...

You've been a member here for a month. I suspect once you've been around a bit longer you'll see that it's not as bad as you seem to be seeing it.

I would agree with this. The vast majority of the community here is IMMENSELY helpful and genuinely concerned. In any forum setting, internet or otherwise, you do get a few elitists, one uppers, or those who find security in taking a condescending tone with others. They're pretty easy to weed out, and once you figure out how to, you'll be far better off. That being said...

im not here for them im here to continue learning how to properly carefore\breed my animals an if it means some not so nice words here an there so be it.

This about sums things up. You are here for you. With practical, "real life" experience, as well as participating on this or other forums, there will be a bounty of valuable knowledge gained. Many opinions and statements here are of incredible help, while there are others that need to be taken with a grain of salt...but at the end of the day, you decide what you gain(or don't gain) here.

Hope you can deal with any potential negative feelings accordingly and that you stick around for a while!