my grandma tita is slipping away. she's 88, has alzheimers and is in the hospital again with pneumonia. the doc's gave her minimal chances of surviving the night and from what my dad was saying this morning they had some difficulty with her breathing last night.
my mom called yesterday and i got to talk to my grandma for a minute. (she was awake but intubated). i told her i loved her and my mom said she was trying to say it back.
watching her slip away and waiting is taking it's toll on my mom. she doesnt want her to die alone but suffers horribly listening to the gurgly breathing all day .
they want her to pass naturally (if her heart gives out they wont try to resuscitate).
as much as i love her and do not want her to go it would be devastatingly cruel to "keep her around".
for her sake, and my mom's, i hope my grandma passes peacefully and unaware .
we love you grandma.