carlene16, i feel for ya i really do...& i totally understand your frustration. i told my dad a little bit ago that i wanted a snake for a pet & his response was, quote -
" no no no you dont need a snake. they're disgusting, creepy, weird lookin' things. dont get a snake, get a lizard." unquote.
im almost 30 & that stung quite a bit. but you know what? im an adult & i have the power to do what i please, when i please (within the law of course) & there aint a danged thing he can do to change that, plus it helps that i live 3000 miles away from him so, yeah.

also, my fiancee doesnt like snakes either & definitley is opposed to me getting 1 snake & when i told him i wanted 3...possibly 4, he about shot threw our roof!
he's trying to tell me im only allowed to get 1 & i just tell him like it is, which usually goes somegthing like this-
" i want 3 ball pythons & MAYBE a nicaraguan boa & there aint a darned thing YOU can do about it so dont tell me no!"
when i want something, im like a pit bull on a t-bone steak. ya aint getting it away from me lest you be hurt tryin', lol... im kind of a "b-word" sometimes but you know what? i have my heart set on those 3 maybe 4 snakes.
it's not like i'm gonna ask him to do anything for them. i plan on being their sole caregiver unless my daughter wants to help with their daily care. i plan on being the one to do everything required to keep them healthy. the only thing he'll have to do is drive me to pick them up & drive me & them to the vet (should they ever need to go). thats all i'd ask of him when it comes to the snakes, thats it.
he's just trying to pull the "controlling man-card" on me but i keep growin' the bigger set of balls.

ok sorry for my rant, lol.