wispurs: If you really want to get over a fear of snakes, then I'll be very happy to help you with that, as best I can from a distance, anyhow. If you don't want to get over it...then that's fine, too. Simply resolve to yourself that you don't EVER have to hold a snake again if you don't want to. There's nothing wrong with that. I've had snakes in the house for about 7-8 years now...and my husband has never touched a single one...ever. He's content with that, and I respect his feelings about it.
exotica: If your friend is that scared of the snake, then it seems likely that she'll never touch it again, and therefore will not have a chance to "be careless" with it. Rather than try to force her to see the world entirely from your point of view...try to simply accept that she doesn't really get the whole snake-thing. Consider the snake to be your pet, and respect her feelings to want nothing to do with it anymore. Does her panic attack make sense? Not to me, really, and I can see it doesn't make much sense to you, either. But that doesn't matter, because it was obviously real to her and she is the one who must deal with it the feelings it generated.
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