some major life changes

[heathers*bps]

So my life just took a drastic turn.

Yesterday, I left my husband. Ok, he's not really my husband but we've been together close to 6 years, we have kids and a house, so close enough to a marriage. Anyway, things have been pretty rocky between us for the past couple of years, and I just couldn't take it anymore.

My 4 year old and I are staying with a friend for right now. Which is kinda stressful because she has another friend with her 5 kids staying here as well. Talk about a full house
I'm extremely thankfully my ex let me take my car. It's still officially his car ( all in his name ) but he's going to transfer everything to me when I get insurance and get paid. I NEED my car as its my livelihood, I deliver newspapers as a job. And trust me, it came as a huge surprise for him to let me take it. He use to always tell me if I leave him he hopes I have a good walk/good luck finding a new job.....blah blah blah.

Now if I can just let him let me have my snakes. His theory, he paid for them so they are his, even though they all have been bought FOR me. Anyway, to make a long crappy story short, I will be taking a small hiatus from the forums. I have a lot to do in the next couple of weeks, find an apartment, get ALL new furniture as I have absolutely nothing, not even a freaking mattress and stay strong for my daughter. I luckily found an organization that helps people/families with emergency funds to find an apartment, so I should be able to get an apartment this week

I will occasionally pop in and say hey, see how everyone is doing. I know this sounds kinda lame, but thanks for kinda letting me get it all out, I feel a bit better now

[Kinra]

I'm really sorry to hear that. It sounds like it was for the best though. I hope everything works out for you.

[dragonboy4578]

I wish you the best of luck. It isn't easy to start over. I had to do it last year. I found the forums a great place for me to forget about everything that was going on. At least for a few hours... I was lucky enough to have a few good friend that were around to help me through also. I did spend a lot more time with my collection also. It gave me something more to focus on.

[Misfit]

Sounds like you did the right thing! And I say congratulations on having the courage and strength to do so. <3

Hopefully when it's all calmed down a bit he'll see sense and let you have your snakes back. :]

[PweEzy]

Hope all goes well for you.

[cecilbturtle]

life's too short to waste on mediocrity. it takes a lot of balls to make a change like this. i'm glad you did. ive been there. it sucked at first but now i'm pretty damn happy. i'm a single father and we are both much happier now.

talk to an attorney about the snakes. if they were purchased as gifts then i do believe in pa, they are considered your pets.

good luck.
let me know if you need anything. im not terribly far away.

Luke

[Steve-J]

Sorry to hear about that, stay strong! It sounds like it's for the best, try not to worry too much and take it one day at a time. Remember we're all here for you if you need us!

[babyknees]

Good luck to you!! I hope you can get your snakes back.

[Rogue628]

I wish you the best of luck. It isn't easy to start over. I had to do it last year. I found the forums a great place for me to forget about everything that was going on. At least for a few hours... I was lucky enough to have a few good friend that were around to help me through also. I did spend a lot more time with my collection also. It gave me something more to focus on.

Same here, except it was 4 years ago. My motorcycle forums are what helped me through alot of it...that and riding Something that you can really get into and focus on for a while helps alot.

Good luck! It's not easy but you can do it, hopefully with your animals.

[MasonC2K]

Men often make empty threats to get their way. That's probably what the car threat was. He probably saw what was coming and didn't want it to happen. Anyways, I am sure this is something you've thought long and hard about and that it's the right decision for you. I hope everything turns out well for you.