Do Girls want a huge engagement ring...

[mikeau]

A question I wanted to ask. Guys, do you feel pressured to go all out and spend a ton of money on an engagement ring to please your girl?

Girls, does the size of the ring actually increase how much love you feel for your man?

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

[Simple Man]

Ouch! If the size of your love is measured by the size of the ring then I would choose a new potential wife! I've never let money/materialistic things ever be a factor in any relationship I've had. I've had both women that made considerably more money than myself and women that made considerably less than myself. It really didn't matter to either of us one way or the other because we never let it. I just see that as a measure of what to look forward to the rest of your life. Bigger, better, more expensive? Shop for a new husband would be my response to her.... but that's just me! I realize the new username means anonymity so I just shot it like I see it. I don't sugar coat things too well! Hope it works out whatever you decide to do and I respect your opinion either way. Just my $.02

Regards,

B

[Powerspythons]

IMO the size of the ring should be a non-issue. If you're in love an onion ring should be good enough. Also I believe that basically if you cant afford a giant rock then a girl shouldn't require you to go all out and blow your entire bank account getting them a big ring, if they do then they're shallow and not worth your time....however if you are MORE than capable of getting a good sized ring and you get them the cheapest one available, it might say that you are moderately to very cheap. In addition to this, I believe that every girl has their own dream of their 'perfect' everything, the 'perfect' man, date, engagement, ring, dress, ceremony, honeymoon, etc...however 90% of the time they don't get those things...but will they still be happy in spite of it? Absolutely!! ....as long as you're not a total butt hole and at least TRY to make it as perfect as they want it.

But dont take my word for it..its just what I believe..and if I'm wrong, someone please tell me..

[cecilbturtle]

she seriously said it was too small? how long have you known her? i have six older sisters. all have been proposed to but not all have said yes. but none of them made the decision on the size of the ring. i gotta say that i agree with Simple Man. sounds like shes more in love with money than you.

but you gotta do you. dont let anyone here sway your decision. as cheesy as it sounds, you got to follow your heart. if she is "the ONE" then go buy a bigger ring. just be happy. lifes too damn short to waste any time with someone you have doubts about.

what would she say if the tables were turned? if you asked her to get bigger breasts would she do it or would she smack you?

[Sammy412]

I'm a girl, so with that said.................I agree with the above........maybe you should return the ring and look instead for a different potential wife. That was very insensitive of her, and IMO she should care more about you than to react that way.

[EvergladesExotics]

Coming from a woman, from what you've said I would either say she is a real gold digger and only loves you for your money.. OR she has absolutely no knowledge about jewelry and what it costs. Think it through bud, make the right choice that will make YOU happy. Whatever that is I'll back ya.

This is just my like dream romantic fantasy lol.. I would be so toutched for a guy to buy me a ring that he can afford, small, nothing crazy. But then also buy some hets or small morphs that the investment will grow in over time. When we produce visuals or supers or whatever it may be I would just die if he took the profits and bought something really spectacular to go along side the smaller ring for like our 5 year anniversary or something. Sorry for the mushyness lol I'm a girl, but I love my snakes! hahaha

[LizardPants]

if you are MORE than capable of getting a good sized ring and you get them the cheapest one available, it might say that you are moderately to very cheap.

That's an insightful post, but here's another perspective. It shows that you're smart, you can manage your finances, you know the truth about the diamond trade, and you're not susceptible: to a sales pitch, marketing ploy, or the shallow desires of a spoiled little girl.

[LizardPants]

You do know, DeBeers invented the idea of diamond engagement rings...

[youbeyouibei]

I bought my wife the ring I could afford. It's not a huge stone nor the finest quality in terms of clarity, etc., but it came from the heart and it was the best I could afford at the time. I've since offered to upgrade it numerous times and she's declined each and every time, as THAT ring is the one that signified when I'd made the decision to ask her to marry me and when she said "yes" (bless her heart, her life's not been the same since, lmao!) and as such, it carries more significance than any number of carats could without any thought having been given to them or the ring itself.

I hate that for you that she said something like that, as that's about the most insensitive thing possible. Like a few others have said, I'd take a hard look at whether or not she was the ONE person I'd care to spend the rest of my days with, especially after having said something like that. Good luck and I hope things work out for you in that regards, whatever your decision.

[youbeyouibei]

You do know, DeBeers invented the idea of diamond engagement rings...

That they did. And they also control 90+% of the diamond mines, markets, retailers, etc. Those shiny pieces of carbon aren't nearly as rare as they make them seem to be but that's commerce, I suppose, lol!