Cryin' in my coffee

My gf and I finally split up. We've had our break ups and make ups but I think this time its permanent even though its only been a few days. I know its for the better for the both of us, but damn it hurts. We've been together for about a year and a half, and I've kinda gotten used to having her and her daughter around. I'm really fighting the urge to contact her. I'm really struggling with this.

Thanks for listening.
Steve

Hang in there Steve, there are better days ahead:gj:

Sorry to hear that.. hang in there.

most definately stay strong! im new here and don't know anyone here but definately stay strong better things will indeed come farther down the road.

Hang in there! You never know sometimes time apart is a good thing.

I'm sorry to hear that Steve =/ One way or the other things will start looking up again.

Steve, I have a lot of cousins. Very pretty, very smart, will love you forever. All they need are visas. :D

Kidding aside... sometimes a break-up is just the thing that will help you put things in perspective. Give it some time and use this time to do stuff for yourself. If it's meant to be, you'll be together again soon. If not, then THE ONE is right around the corner. It would be cool to meet her without you being tied to someone else.

Hang in there, it'll get better

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Originally Posted by anatess

Steve, I have a lot of cousins. Very pretty, very smart, will love you forever. All they need are visas. :D

Kidding aside... sometimes a break-up is just the thing that will help you put things in perspective. Give it some time and use this time to do stuff for yourself. If it's meant to be, you'll be together again soon. If not, then THE ONE is right around the corner. It would be cool to meet her without you being tied to someone else.

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I think some one is on the right track.. Get you an immigrant helps her out and you never have to worrie about them leaving or not listening...

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Originally Posted by hoo-t

My gf and I finally split up. We've had our break ups and make ups but I think this time its permanent even though its only been a few days. I know its for the better for the both of us, but damn it hurts. We've been together for about a year and a half, and I've kinda gotten used to having her and her daughter around. I'm really fighting the urge to contact her. I'm really struggling with this.

Thanks for listening.
Steve

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Hang in there buddy. If shes got kids your wastin your time...

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Originally Posted by anatess

Steve, I have a lot of cousins. Very pretty, very smart, will love you forever. All they need are visas. :D

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Well, lets see.

Since I don't have any credit cards, I'm hoping you mean visas to come into the country?!?! I don't know too much about that, do I need to hire an attorney to make those arrangements? How many cousins are we talking about? ;)

Thanks, I actually lol'd !!!
Steve

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Originally Posted by hoax

I think some one is on the right track.. Get you an immigrant helps her out and you never have to worrie about them leaving or not listening...



Hang in there buddy. If shes got kids your wastin your time...

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Thanks, man. I said "I don't want to raise any more kids!" in the days before we got back together. (We've been dating off and on for a couple years, consistently for about a year and a half). But I love that baby girl with all my heart, even though I hate her biological father more than I hate any other man. And I don't hate many people. I had planned to try to adopt her. Oh well. I guess I'm back to not raising any more kids.

Steve

Oh, to everyone who I didn't respond directly to, I do appreciate your support. Very much.

Thank you!
Steve

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Originally Posted by hoo-t

Well, lets see.

Since I don't have any credit cards, I'm hoping you mean visas to come into the country?!?! I don't know too much about that, do I need to hire an attorney to make those arrangements? How many cousins are we talking about? ;)

Thanks, I actually lol'd !!!
Steve

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Oh yeah, immigration visas! No worries about attorneys or anything. They will take care of everything! And we're talking about A LOT of very pretty Asian cousins... and no, you can't have more than one. :banana:

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Originally Posted by anatess

Oh yeah, immigration visas! No worries about attorneys or anything. They will take care of everything! And we're talking about A LOT of very pretty Asian cousins... and no, you can't have more than one. :banana:

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No attorneys: positive
They take care of everything: positive
LOT of very pretty Asian cousins : positive
can't have more than one: I guess I could live with that

;)
Steve

Patience is the key!, when you least expect it you'll find "the one", a good one :)

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Originally Posted by hoax

Hang in there buddy. If shes got kids your wastin your time...

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Sorry but that's a really crummy thing to say! Just because a woman has a child I don't think a man is "wastin" his time. I'll ask my husband who I met when I had three kids - 11, 7 and 5 and had a long marriage behind me if he thinks he wasted his time with us and with the little boy he and I made together. Your comment is very insulting to women with children and to those wonderful men that care enough to help raise a child they did not sire.

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Originally Posted by hoo-t

Thanks, man. I said "I don't want to raise any more kids!" in the days before we got back together. (We've been dating off and on for a couple years, consistently for about a year and a half). But I love that baby girl with all my heart, even though I hate her biological father more than I hate any other man. And I don't hate many people. I had planned to try to adopt her. Oh well. I guess I'm back to not raising any more kids.

Steve

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Steve, I hope you are able to work something out to keep that relationship with the child. If you've been in her life a long time, you are a special person to her and whatever is going on with you and her mother - she should not suffer for it more than possible.

I'm sorry your relationship has soured. It's a tough time to go through, I've been there myself. Just try to tough it out, talk with friends or family, take this time to examine what went wrong and your role in it as well as hers. Very few relationships fall apart just due to one parties actions and if we can learn from our role in it, we can go on to a better relationship down the road.

Avoid getting bitter, avoid getting drunk, avoid hating her or yourself or women in general. Break-ups happen and if anything is to be gained out of it, it's learning more about who you are and what you really want from life and a loving partner in it. You're going to feel like crap right now so do things that make you feel better or more positive, be kind to yourself but also try to do one positive thing each day to move forward so you don't get mired in this pain.

[QUOTE=frankykeno;1003635]Sorry but that's a really crummy thing to say! Just because a woman has a child I don't think a man is "wastin" his time. I'll ask my husband who I met when I had three kids - 11, 7 and 5 and had a long marriage behind me if he thinks he wasted his time with us and with the little boy he and I made together. Your comment is very insulting to women with children and to those wonderful men that care enough to help raise a child they did not sire. [QUOTE=frankykeno;1003635]


I completely agree. Well said. Thank you.

:grouphug:

i had a ex teach mne tough love. lol.... after the rain the sunshine is refreshing... look forward to your sunshine!:banana:

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Originally Posted by anatess

Steve, I have a lot of cousins. Very pretty, very smart, will love you forever. All they need are visas. :D

Kidding aside... sometimes a break-up is just the thing that will help you put things in perspective. Give it some time and use this time to do stuff for yourself. If it's meant to be, you'll be together again soon. If not, then THE ONE is right around the corner. It would be cool to meet her without you being tied to someone else.

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Dos, Salamat!