Pregnant!

So two nights ago my wife and I found out she was pregnant! She had been feeling nausious for the past two or three days and she took a test and there it was!

We're super excited, but super scared! With me having been out of work going on two days and being behind on bills, this little surprise is slightly stressful. It's going to be our first and as the over protective father (already) and husband, I'm reading everything I can.

We're very excited and since I seem to talk to some of the people here more than some of my real life friends half the time, I figured everyone should know :)

CONGRATS!

Best wishes to the THREE of you! :) So exciting and scary!

Congratulations to you and your wife. :clap: I can remember how scared I was to take home our first child.

The best advice I can give you is to spend as much time as possible with your wife. Go to dinner, bask in a full night's rest and just generally enjoy each other because in 9 months you will become completely overwhelmed with the life of your child.

congrats:carrot: Enjoy this time of peace and quiet with your wife ....it's almost over LOL

CONGRATS!!!!! Thats amazing news!! :D :D I'm sure you'll be fine with the baby. In 10 years or so we might have a new member on BP.net :P

Way to get one past the goalie! :D A baby will definitely change your life, but they're great!!

Congrats,kids are cool,ya gotta love em.i dont have any but i got neices and a nephew and a nephew on the way,theyr great.fair play to ya.wouldnt worry about the job,things always work out for the best and maybe the baby is a sign of good things gonna happen for ye both. :rockon: :carrot:

I am happy for your happiness. :)

christie is right. enjoy the spontanaety of your life now... cause it won't return for many many years!!!!

you will cease to be a person. you will forever be "so and so's dad"
you will cease to have anything to yourself. you child/ren will constantly be eating off your plate, drinking (and backwashing) your beverages and peeing your bed!

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Oh how wonderful! Every baby is precious but there's always something about the first baby that you and your wife will never forget. Best advice from me...find a certified midwife and plan a midwife attended hospital birth. I had three with doctors and the fourth with a midwife in attendance and if I could do it over again, I'd choose the midwife every time....much nicer birth experience.

Your wife is likely to be tired for the next little while so give her lots of attention and understanding. It's a huge change we women go through as our bodies accept the demands of a pregnancy.

Congrats to both of you on the blessed event! :)

Congrats!!!

sending warm wishes for you and your wife!

p.s. GET AS MUCH SLEEP AS YOU CAN WHILE YOU CAN!!!

Congrats! :clap:

My only advice is to sleep as much as you can and spend your waking hours with your wife! Your relationship changes with kids, you have to take crayons and whatnot with you. :D

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Originally Posted by recycling goddess

christie is right. enjoy the spontanaety of your life now... cause it won't return for many many years!!!!

you will cease to be a person. you will forever be "so and so's dad"
you will cease to have anything to yourself. you child/ren will constantly be eating off your plate, drinking (and backwashing) your beverages and peeing your bed!

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hahahaha just re-read that. i didn't mean you would cease to be a person i meant you would cease to have your individuality like you do when you are not a parent. you will forever be a dad. :hug:

congrats to you both!

I stopped reading after....

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Originally Posted by recycling goddess

christie is right.

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:giggle: ;)

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Originally Posted by xdeus

Way to get one past the goalie! :D A baby will definitely change your life, but they're great!!

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Haha!

Thanks for the advice everyone, luckily, I have insomnia and only sleep 2 hours a night on average, 4 if I'm exhausted! So that'll be fine.

I'm in that helpless phase right now. She's nauseous, grumpy, and generally angry at everyone, and it seems to be directed at me, and I feel helpless because there's nothing I can do to make her feel better.

I have been doing everything I can to make things easy on her, driving her to/from work, making all her food for her (although I already did that!) and am just overall letting comments go that normally I'd complain about and I just mark them down to the pregnancy blues (aka grumpy) hehe

Thanks for all the comments though!

Oh and if you guys wanna have a BP.Net baby shower for us, you can send us snakes, racks, thermostats ;) hehehe

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Originally Posted by Holbeird

She's nauseous, grumpy, and generally angry at everyone, and it seems to be directed at me, and I feel helpless because there's nothing I can do to make her feel better.

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All perfectly normal reactions to the hormonal changes we women go through especially in those first 3 months. Generally by month 4 everything is pretty much smoothed out and won't get difficult again until those last very long few weeks before birth. If you feel helpless think how helpless she feels...even a very wanted baby does bizarre things to our bodies and emotions and there's not a thing we can do about it. It can be very hard for a woman to adjust to the first time through the process.

Basically it goes like this...

Those first few months you feel like crap and just not like yourself but you don't look preggie yet so you feel a bit stupid about it and awfully tired and whiney. Folks tend to forget you are growing a new life since you basically don't look different yet.

Then you go through the "just looks fat" stage. Us women hate this stage LOL. You look more chubby than pregnant. These weeks suck and your wife is likely to be a bit put out when she can't fit into her regular clothes but is too small really for maternity wear.

Finally the belly blossoms and you look preggie and usually get tons of attention. This is a great thing...the downside is you start worrying the hubby won't find you attractive anymore and at some point you won't be able to shave your own legs (yes we females worry about hairy legs in the delivery room...deal with it boys! LOL)

Then comes the "have to pee every 2 minutes months". Never tell her you can't stop the car at the nearest bathroom LOL. If you had a future linebacker bouncing on your left kidney, you'd understand this is a major concern of women in their last months of pregnancy. Be a good hubby, know where all the bathrooms are. :)

Finally there's the countdown to delivery days. Saying things like "are you EVER going to have this baby" and making any joke that references a whale are less than appreciated. Saying "gee honey I hope you don't deliver during the playoffs" may get a frying pan lobbed at your head. Never tease a heavily preggo female, she will make note of this and the chances that you will hear about your being an idiot male for the next 10 years are very, VERY good.

Delivery....be prepared to get cussed at, told you will NEVER get near her again, and that this is ALL YOUR FAULT. Standard and proper answer is..."yes dear, I'm a pig, please forgive me". :P

Thankfully all these changes result in the prettiest baby ever born and you will both fall deeply in love with the little one. You'll never know a feeling like that first rush of love for the child you've created and in a moment all the stress of pregnancy is gone, the pain of delivery is nothing and you are parents.

Congratulations!

P.S. Her butt will get bigger during the pregnancy...you are NOT to notice this...if she asks be a smart guy and tell her she's still got the best butt in town...if you are silly enough to actually tell her the truth I'll come hold you down while she smacks the smart back into you! LMAO

She already has a tiny bladder so I'm used to stopping the car often for bathroom breaks.

Secondly, you bring up a valid point. We haven't been to our first appointment but we think she got pregnant in febuary/march so the baby should be due late novemeber to december......playoffs will be near...is a tv in the delivery room off limits? ;)

Also the butt thing, I think she does have the best in town so no lying! Woot. Also, if it gets bigger, that can only be a good thing ;)

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Originally Posted by Holbeird

playoffs will be near...is a tv in the delivery room off limits? ;)

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Crazy thing is our natural childbirth room at the hospital not only had a very nice CD sound system but cable tv! Since I was due to deliver our youngest right in the middle of the Detroit Red Wings playoffs I did notice Mike eyeing that tv (and I sure gave him an "eye" back let me tell ya LOL).

Actually being a good Canadian born wife, therefore knowing that hockey is second only to God, I managed to pop Mikey out between games and we didn't miss a one of them. Mikey actually watched his first hockey game on tv in his father's arms at about 36 hours old. :)

ginger tea!

that was my life saver.... ginger tea. get some organic ginger root from the grocery store... cut off a small chunk and slice it up small... add hot water and put it in a travel mug. let her carry it with her everywhere. one little sip (maybe two) will remove/reduce the nausea. doesn't matter that it's gone cold... still works just as well.

this was my saving grace in those first months.

(and a good thing to know... the stronger the nausea the less chance of miscarriage... although telling her that while she's nauseated will NOT make her feel better LOL) (of course that doesn't mean no nausea means a miscarriage.)

She doesn't like ginger, then again maybe we'll give it a shot! She loves sushi and she cant have it for two reasons, one...i wont let her have anything raw, and two even the stuff that isn't raw, makes her feel sick when she eats it :(

I used to grow my own herbs and I know pepermint cures nausia so although we dont have fresh pepermint around the house, sucking on perpermints have been helping her.

That and being angry at me seems to help ;)

also known as peppermints instead of perper mints or peper mints :-p

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Originally Posted by Holbeird

That and being angry at me seems to help ;)

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That's because...

IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!

(hehehehehehehe) :P

What an awesome thread to find and read!! Almost makes me long for the return of the days of pregnancy and new babies! :O :P

All the best stuff has already been said...so I'll just say...

Congrats!!! May the Lord richly bless you and yours with a joyous and healthy pregnancy, delivery, and baby!!!

Jo's comments are SO true yet so funny! I have 3 children and I can remember feeling ALL those feelings! Sometimes all at once! LOL! Pregnancy is a crazy emotional roller coaster! but it is a "ride" you NEVER forget! :D

Good luck to ya ;)

Things to do or not do around a preggie wife:

1) Never look at non-preggie, skinny women when your wife hasn't seen her own two feet in a month. She'll remember this and you know we women never forget and will remind you regularily what a dog you are.

2) She may be thrilled when her bustline increases....she may also feel like a cow overdue for milking. You'll never know which mood she is in so best to just smile nicely and make no reference to Bossy the Cow.

3) Stretch marks are pride marks.

4) Pregnant women get gassy occasionally. A good husband takes the blame for all social misadventures (if you have a dog, blame it instead).

5) Learn how to shave a woman's legs. Do NOT mutter about "who cares about hairy legs when you are having a baby"....we care...nuff said.

6) References to waddling ducks or making quacking noises will get you in big truuuuuuuble!

7) Getting up at 2 a.m. to run to the store and buy chocolate bars, black licorce and bagels is not a sign your wife has gone insane....it's a sign you are smart enough to not comment that you think she's gone insane.

8) Waking up a 8 month pregnant wife to tell her that the baby just kicked so hard it woke you up isn't wise. She knows how hard it kicks and just finally fell asleep. Never wake a sleeping preggo...it's sort of like poking a tiger but scarier.

9) If you are at the beach and your pregnant wife is swimming make no comments like "dear the Greenpeace boat is pulling up, I think they want to tow you back out to sea".

10) When your wife goes into labor do not roll your eyes if she insists you help her vacuum the entire house at 4 a.m., wipe out the appliances, dust anything that isn't moving and scrub down the bathroom....it's called nesting (okay I did this one and Mike is still shaking his head about it 5 years later LOL).

O Jo...the stories we could tell!!! LOL! My water broke and I INSISTED we clean it up and I HAD to take a shower before we left so I could SHAVE my legs!!! LOL! I ended up being in labor (HARD LABOR) for 12 HOURS!

Well of course you did honey, don't want the nurses gossiping about "that lady in room 112 with hairy legs"...heck labor or not we women have standards!!!! LOL

I still laugh over Mike's face when I woke him up to tell him I was in labor (I'd been in labor for hours but why panic a new dad...it was his first...my fourth...so I figured I should let the poor guy have a few more hours of sleep). He figured it was time for the race to the hospital, which was all of about 6 blocks away, heck I could have waddled over really. Then I start dragging out cleaning products and the vacuum and I thought the poor man would have a heart attack! LOL He's trying to madly help me tidy up, muttering under his breath and probably figuring I'll end up delivering our son in the kitchen but have to give him credit, he dug in and didn't argue with the crazy lady in labor. :)

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

I still laugh over Mike's face when I woke him up to tell him I was in labor (I'd been in labor for hours but why panic a new dad...it was his first...my fourth...so I figured I should let the poor guy have a few more hours of sleep).

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LOL. My wife did the same thing when our second son was born. We ended up getting to the hospital with minutes to spare. :crazy:

My poor husband was desparate to get me to a hospital when my water broke at 3am. Instead, I decided to make phone calls but after an hour or so I took pity on him and let him take me to the hospital. I was lucky... sorta. I didn't have long, terrible labor. The only problem was that when he decided to come, he did it fast! I was only in labor for 3 hours, but didn't the epidural I so desparately wanted because of how fast he dropped. :doh:

My daughter was induced, and that was SOOO easy. I tried to be brave and do without drugs, but that lasted less than 30 minutes! :oops:

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Originally Posted by jeffnme

O Jo...the stories we could tell!!! LOL! My water broke and I INSISTED we clean it up and I HAD to take a shower before we left so I could SHAVE my legs!!! LOL! I ended up being in labor (HARD LABOR) for 12 HOURS!

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I remember hearing about how some woman would put all her makeup on before she went to bed. She did this around the time she was due, so if it was time, she was gonna look good for the doctors! :8:

Congrats!!
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Good Luck!!