Could use some encouraging words..

I just came home from saying goodbye to my grandmother. She isn't doing well at all after a surgery and they don't expect her body to last much longer. I already struggle with mental illness and this is just hitting me really hard because of how close we are. She isn't usually one to say I love you but today she told it to me three times.

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here I could just use some virtual hugs and encouragement. I just kind of don't know what to do with myself right now..

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Originally Posted by Mirakuru

I just came home from saying goodbye to my grandmother. She isn't doing well at all after a surgery and they don't expect her body to last much longer. I already struggle with mental illness and this is just hitting me really hard because of how close we are. She isn't usually one to say I love you but today she told it to me three times.

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here I could just use some virtual hugs and encouragement. I just kind of don't know what to do with myself right now..

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Hugs. Not much else to say. Hugs hugs hugs hugs.

Massive big hugs and best wishes from the uk, grandmas are so important to the family, I've none left now and I still miss them 20+yrs on

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Of course this belongs here...and we all lose loved ones in our lives, there's just no way around it. It's especially hard, the younger we are and the first times
that it happens. We lose pets and we lose friends & family, but in our hearts & our thoughts, they're still with us always. I think your grandmother was trying
to tell you that as best as she could. It's more than OK to be sad, but she also wants you to go forward with your life...to be glad you knew her and to build on
all you've shared with her. So here's some more "virtual hugs"...the pain you feel now will get better in time. It will.... Hugs!

I feel for ya. Sorry to hear. Wish there was something that could be magically said to make you feel better. My mother is 82 and has been suffering from alzheimers for a 1 1/2 years. I do know my time is limited with her at this point so I make the best of what I have left. I talk to her every day, see her as much as possible and only talk about good memories I have. Funny things i did as a kid, moments we shared together, doesn't matter. Just talk with her. Laugh, cry, just talk. It's going to be rough, but it's a part of life. Unfortunately just not a good part. Time WILL heal all wounds. I wish you the best. It's not going to be easy, but be as strong as you can! And share the time you have now!

i am incredibly sorry. i hope her transition is as peaceful as possible. your tears of sorrow will one day turn to tears of joy looking back at your memories of her. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/201...0600f0a695.jpg

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Even if you are not religious I hope you may find comfort in these:

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. - Matthew 5:4

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. - Revelation 21:4

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. - Psalm 34:18

Don't ever be afraid to ask for help, encouraging words, positivity or whatever you need. Nobody can help if they don't know you're hurting.

I suffer from mental health issues as well and, well, right now I'm really struggling. So I understand.

I also understand how you feel about your grandmother. But, try to think positively. A few years ago my grandfather was really in bad shape and ended up in the hospital.
Long story short... The whole family as well as his priest were called in to say goodbye, and read him his last rites. We said our goodbyes and headed home, confident he would be gone by morning.

Well, morning came and I called my Dad... No word yet. So I headed to the hospital to find him sitting up eating cereal. He asked what the hell everyone was there for, hahahaha.
Anyway, he made it through. It was a tough road full of months of hospitals, rehabs, etc...
That was EIGHT YEARS ago this month. I'm happy to say Pepere is doing great. He'll be turning 99 in July and still lives at home.

My point is, don't give up hope.

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I've lost my grandmother and grandfather recently, it's a painful experience to go through but we all get through it. The pain you feel is from having years of having a wonderful loving grandmother and amazing experiences with her. So what I am saying is that hurting isn't a bad thing, it just means the more it hurts, the more you really love her. The pain of loss sucks but if you think of it, it is much better to have loved and lost than not to have known her at all. It is painful now but in time you will look back at all the wonderful memories you had with your grandmother. Spend as much time as you can with her, having family around to support her through these hard times will help her a lot.

I remember when my grandmother was diagnosed with terminal cancer and they told her she had 2 months to live, she thought her life was over and just had no more will to live. I made her a card with photoshop saying how much I love her and wishing her to get well. She never saw this side of me, how caring I really was and it gave her reason to want to live, that she had family that loves her and didn't want to lose her. She lived well over a year after they had given her 2 months, I believe the support of her loved ones helped with her prolonged life and she got to enjoy her last year with us.

What I am trying to say is don't lose hope and be there to support her whenever you can because that support can greatly help her mentally and with a better mental state comes better health. I wish you both well and hope she can get better.

Here are some virtual hugs
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Everyone,, I am so overwhelmed with your love and support right now. I appreciate your responses so much, and for sharing your personal stories with me, it's always comforting to know how much people can relate. I've been taking time to reflect and come to terms with how I'm feeling and coming to see your words has had a really positive effect on that. I wish I had the energy to respond to each and every one of you, but just know that I've read every word and held them close to me.

I've been having to confront grief a lot recently, but this one is very close to home this time. The rest of my family seems to feel calm and more accepting about it so I'm sure with a little more time I'll be able to be like that too. Right now, I have my love, my snake and cat, art, and time to relax so I'm going to take a hold of those things to help me get through! I'm glad I have this place to help me too, you guys are lovely. BPs have been a huge coping mechanism of mine for awhile now, just through researching and watching videos/browsing MM, the works. Now I have Dumpling, I feel like I can more easily belong and all my research has been so worth it.

I'm just grateful to have him and the forum to help me get through it :)

Keep your chin up.

I'm happy to see you're doing ok and that the forum has played a part in brightening your day. This really is a great community, I've even made some friends that I talk to off the forum. It's always nice being able to talk to like-minded people and knowing others have been through it too.

We're always here! So don't be shy. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk, vent, whatever. I'd be happy to lend an ear.

And don't worry about individually responding to us...someday you'll be the one to offer comfort to another, that's just how life is. ;)

First...hugs to you.

Second...everyone deals with losing loved ones differently. Remember there is no time frame for grief or specific way to handle it. You will grieve in your own way and no one should tell you how or when or how long. You do you and we are here if you need us. Much love and support to you.

Praying for you and your family. Grandparents are the best! Love and Light.

Ball pythons make the greatest therapy pets, my little Crowley helps me all the time, he comes out at night before bed and he just calms me down and makes the daily stress go away. I'm glad you have Dumpling to help you through hard times too. :)