convincing parents

how do you convince your parents to get you a snake

you don't. you make your interest in one known, do your research, share that with them and then abide by their answer. Their home, their rules.

Show that you're responsible and have done your research on the animal you're interested in. In my experience it's a lot harder to convince your parents you're responsible enough to get the first animal. If you show them you're responsible enough to take care of that animal by yourself it should be easier to convince them to let you have further additions.


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There are 13 easy steps: How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Have a Pet. Satisfaction guaranteed!

Disclaimer: Your mileage may vary. ;):rofl::gj:

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Originally Posted by kxr

In my experience it's a lot harder to convince your parents you're responsible enough to get the first animal

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i agree.
but like others said: research! know the facts, print out care sheets and other resources and go in level-headed and knowledge ready! maybe show them some videos so they can see how sweet they are. i moved back in with my parents after i got my first BP: my mother wasn't thrilled, but i explained to her she will practically never see them. years later i let her know i was planning to get another one and she was actually kind of excited! of course i am 25 lol, but the fact remains that it is their house and you must abide by their wishes.

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Originally Posted by Eric Alan

There are 13 easy steps: How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Have a Pet. Satisfaction guaranteed!

Disclaimer: Your mileage may vary. ;):rofl::gj:

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and don't do this!: https://ball-pythons.net/forums/show...-as-punishment

You just buy one and then say, 'Hey Mom, come and look at my new snake!'

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Originally Posted by cchardwick

You just buy one and then say, 'Hey Mom, come and look at my new snake!'

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ROFL. No,no,no,no

Been through this. My parents would allow me almost anything EXCEPT a snake. Frogs, lizards, turtles, gerbils, hamsters... we had a TON of pets when we were kids. But they were both deathly afraid of snakes, and it was their house. You have to be respectful of that, especially if they're paying for food and heat and light and clothes and all that fun stuff that you kinda need (unlike a snake) :) I cut my teeth on my non-slithery pets - anoles, geckos, sliders, and one very large and goofy White's Tree Frog - and learned a lot about caring for reptiles and amphibians in the meantime. When I moved into my first apartment, I got my first ball python.

I would ask your parents why they don't want a snake in the house. If they are afraid of them or just don't like them, consider that your first lesson. I DO NOT rub my snakes in people's faces that are afraid of them. I wouldn't want anyone to throw a tarantula in my face (I would pee myself) and respect those fears. Dig a little with your folks and see if there's a compromise you can make - lizards or geckos or something where you can ease your way into the reptile world. Or ask them to go to a show with you and maybe have them hold a BP, or watch you hold a BP.

Still and always, it's about respect. You want people to respect your right to keep the animal, respect their right to not like them.

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Originally Posted by cchardwick

You just buy one and then say, 'Hey Mom, come and look at my new snake!'

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That's kind of what I did. lol Wasn't purchased though. My mom was cool about it. She hated snakes but told me as long as I take care of them and they didn't get loose it was all good.
So odd that as deathly afraid as she was/is of snakes, she has always been my biggest supporter. My mom is awesome...

i think challenging all the misconceptions is how i convinced my parents
i.e. size/ danger/ attitude etc.

plus highlight how amazingly low-maintenance they are, how cheap to keep, and how they're more big scaredypants than roving deathnoodles :)

Whatever your parents answer is, be sure that you respect the decision whether you like it or not. Even if they say no, eventually you will move out and be able to make your own decisions.

My mom HATES snakes but she has changed quite a bit after meeting my ball python. Last night she came over and watched my snake for a bit. The woman who used to be extremely afraid of snakes now calls my snake "cute". She was even excited for me when I told her that the BP ate for the first time!

That being said, don't just go out and buy a snake hoping that they will change their minds. I waited until I moved to an apartment to get a snake. Remain calm when presenting them with information. Show your parents that you are responsible and have done plenty of research!

If you parents do not want snakes in THEIR home you have to respect that and please do not buy an animal without their consent it puts everyone in a bad position starting with you, the seller and most importantly the animal.

If an animal was brought into my house without my consent that animal would return where it came from with some people it could be far worse.

I lived in a "no snake" household (everything was allowed but snakes) and I did just fine, I grew up, traveled a bit, lived in different countries than when I finally settled down and bough my first home I bought one snake than two than well let's say that one snake room turned into two. Now looking back it was a good thing because a snake is a LONG commitment and I would have been unable to live the life I lived if I had a snake and kept it.

Bottom line THEIR house, THEIR rule so if they say no it's ook because if you are passionate now you will be passionate in 5, 10 or even 20 years from now.

These topics are always funny to me, because I wanted a ball python since I was in 6th grade. But when I asked my parents a few times for a snake and they gave me a flat out "no", I just was like "ok" and gave up. LOL

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Originally Posted by cchardwick

You just buy one and then say, 'Hey Mom, come and look at my new snake!'

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That's what I did, except I graduated college and lived in my own apartment. :D

Meaning... if your parents adamantly don't want a snake, even after you've showed them facts and research and caresheets you've done, there's nothing to do about that since you live in their home. It's their money too.

I think I was around 12 or 13, which was a long time ago. My father hated snakes. I kept a bunch of rat snakes hidden in my closet and under my bed in boxes. They actually did quite well and a had them for quite some time. However..... One day my father needed something and went looking for it in my closet..... He killed every one of those animals. To this day I have not forgotten and I don't blame him. It is my fault the animals died. I broke the rules. The animals paid.

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Originally Posted by Eric Alan

There are 13 easy steps: How to Convince Your Parents to Let You Have a Pet. Satisfaction guaranteed!

Disclaimer: Your mileage may vary. ;):rofl::gj:

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I actually followed these steps when I was about 8 or 9. I wanted one of the electric blue day geckos because they looked really cool, and made a nice little presentation on my DS and showed it to my dad.
It was a no.
Im actually kinda glad he said no now because the care needed for those critters is quite high!

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Originally Posted by LightningPython

I actually followed these steps when I was about 8 or 9 [...] and made a nice little presentation on my DS [...]

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And now I feel old. Thanks. :gj:

I mean you could do what I did with my fiance and just not shut up for about 6 months about how great snakes are until they say "OK SHUT UP YOU CAN GET ONE" :rofl:

I can't guarantee results, though.

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Originally Posted by sneksNferts

I mean you could do what I did with my fiance and just not shut up for about 6 months about how great snakes are until they say "OK SHUT UP YOU CAN GET ONE" :rofl:

I can't guarantee results, though.

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Honestly, this is kinda how I got my first two ball pythons... except I was trying to get a bearded dragon. My dad suggested a ball python because we used to go away quite a bit and we didn't really have someone to watch a lizard. He didn't know the fire that would ignite in me XD

EDIT: Did I forget to mention that when my dad suggested it he was afraid of snakes O.o

All you can do is explain your position from an informed standpoint, hope you can convince them of the non-danger and that you're responsible enough and hope for the best, but if it's their house it's their rules at the end of the day

That's why I have only now received my first snake... and I'm 30 lol

My husband was easier to convince with some time... with him I just didn't stop talking about it for several months ;) He didn't have a fear of them or anything, it was more from a cost/upkeep standpoint but... all is good. Aside from the initial investment and the delicate process of getting the set up done, the maintenance/mess is less than when we had our cats. Or at least more contained rather than all over the house

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Originally Posted by SpacegirlSpiff

My husband was easier to convince with some time... with him I just didn't stop talking about it for several months ;) He didn't have a fear of them or anything, it was more from a cost/upkeep standpoint but... all is good. Aside from the initial investment and the delicate process of getting the set up done, the maintenance/mess is less than when we had our cats. Or at least more contained rather than all over the house

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Haha husbands are way easier than parents - you have room to negotiate! "Oh, you want to build that AR-15? That's fine, but I'm buying a new snake for every new gun you purchase... and at the same price!" lol

Wives in general have far more "negotiating power" than their husbands.

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Originally Posted by ladywhipple02

Haha husbands are way easier than parents - you have room to negotiate! "Oh, you want to build that AR-15? That's fine, but I'm buying a new snake for every new gun you purchase... and at the same price!" lol

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LOL! That was actually my exact negotiation, as my H does have a little bit of a gun hobby

Like... "Well...you have guns and didn't really wait for me to give you 'permission', so why do I need permission to get a snake?"

Ha

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Originally Posted by JodanOrNoDan

Wives in general have far more "negotiating power" than their husbands.

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I dunno, my husband can be pretty damn stubborn :P

But SOMEHOW I usually get him to come around ....OR, he's just sick of me talking about it and wants to shut me up lol

Show them this image and this only forever.

https://ball-pythons.net/forums/cach...o783o1_400.gif

I agree with cchardwick LOL!! Fact is snakes make no noise. Just keep the door to your room locked and theyll never know its in there😂😂😂 just kidding you should def get permission

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Originally Posted by cchardwick

You just buy one and then say, 'Hey Mom, come and look at my new snake!'

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My kid tried that ONCE......... I pawned his PS3 and TV to pay for food, bedding and electricity for the boa. The boa didn't stay long either.

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Originally Posted by cayley

Show them this image and this only forever.

https://ball-pythons.net/forums/cach...o783o1_400.gif

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OMG that is too cute. I 'aww'd out loud before I could stop myself. My coworkers thought I was looking at a puppy.

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Originally Posted by cayley

Show them this image and this only forever.

https://ball-pythons.net/forums/cach...o783o1_400.gif

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I think thats the cutest thing i will ever see in my life

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The 'bring a pet home and SURPRISE' does work with my mom, its actually how I got my first alpaca....now I have 5.:rofl:

My mom is a religious person so a snake.... But at the same time she is very open minded. So a simple 'you shouldn't judge an animal just because of a book' worked. Plus the fact that Karma rarely ever makes noise was in my favor.

When my 6 yo daughter was asking to keep a snake as pet, my parents were dead set against it. Especially when they heard it has the word python on it (a ball python mind you). The myths surrounding snakes aren't good. They even freaked me out by saying that python will get so huge that it'll try to make a meal out of my daughter. And 'the girl & python' urban legend isn't helping either when you try to google keeping python as pet.
Then, I had no interest in snake and never even touched one. But I can't stand seeing my daughter gets heartbroken every time she left the reptile exhibition (she visited daily, even 2-3 times a day). So after a long talk to my daughter about the responsibilities in keeping snake as pet, I bought her the one she fell in love with in the past three days. I kept my parents in the dark at start (they live in a different city) and only after I get the hang out of our lil snake that I informed them. They're concerned about their granddaughter safety but after plenty of video calls, they get to see that the snake is behaving very well. They haven't visit us to actually meet the snake (it's only been a month) but they're fine with it now.
As for me, I never regret bringing a snake home, the little girl is growing on me bad [emoji7]


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