tips for getting g/f comfortable with snakes

Well im looking for advice. my g/f is very uncomfortable around my snake. I mean she wont even come in the bedroom when i got him out. we live in the country here in east texas and everyone around here always says "the only good snake is a dead snake". well she is 42 and im 25 we have been together for 5 years and knows i always wanted a snake, so didnt hesitate getting me one for christmas. but how do I get her used to him and to be comfortable around a snake. she is pretty set in her ways lol

Just don't force anything. As time passes and the snake hasnt eaten her, she will slowly become more comfortable with it.

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Originally Posted by craigj1187

Well im looking for advice. my g/f is very uncomfortable around my snake. I mean she wont even come in the bedroom when i got him out.

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I can't possibly be the only one thinking it...

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Originally Posted by swansonbb

i can't possibly be the only one thinking it...

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lol trust me she never had a problem with MY snake. I should have said my ball python. OMG there is SO many pervs. on this forum. lol j/k

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Originally Posted by Rob

Just don't force anything. As time passes and the snake hasnt eaten her, she will slowly become more comfortable with it.

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my god its been 5 years!!

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Originally Posted by craigj1187

Well im looking for advice. my g/f is very uncomfortable around my snake. I mean she wont even come in the bedroom when i got him out. we live in the country here in east texas and everyone around here always says "the only good snake is a dead snake". well she is 42 and im 25 we have been together for 5 years and knows i always wanted a snake, so didnt hesitate getting me one for christmas. but how do I get her used to him and to be comfortable around a snake. she is pretty set in her ways lol

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It just takes time, when we got our first snake my (now) fiance wasn't even able to hold Monty Python on our drive home from NERD. After weeks she began touching it and now she loves that snake lol! She holds it everyday and is a major part of WTF Morphs.

Just give it time, unless it is a pathological terror, she will come around lol

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my god its been 5 years!!

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You have had the snake 5 years?

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lol trust me she never had a problem with MY snake. I should have said my ball python. OMG there is SO many pervs. on this forum. lol j/k

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no but seriously she is afraid of all snakes. her mother told her she was stupid for getting me one, and it was going to eat the grandbaby and possibly her. but i cant blame them. thats the way it goes around here. not stupidity just ignorance, or lack of knowledge.

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You have had the snake 5 years?

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lol not the snake, my g/f. i have only had the snake for about 3 months

Bribe her with something in order to touch it. Then build on it. It is crazy people are afraid of something so small and harmless. A small dog or cat can cause more damage then a ball python.

She will either warm up to it or she wont. They key is to go at HER PACE ONLY. Do not force anything.

- Start with trying to calmly be in the same room for a period of time.

- Move into being closer to the snake to "appreciate" how docile, pretty, and not dangerous an animal it is.

- Sooner or later see if she will touch it's body.

- Eventually she might want to hold it, and once she does she'll be hooked and in no time at all she will want her own snake.

GOOD LUCK, remember HER PACE ONLY.

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I can't possibly be the only one thinking it...

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I think Ive fallen off my chair every time I reread this thread...:D:banana:

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I think Ive fallen off my chair every time I reread this thread...:D:banana:

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Tell me about it!! Every single post is dripping with innuendo, I swear this whole thread reads like a script from The Office!

no i never force it. if she is in the room i always let her know im going to get him out. i dont want to use him to scare people, he is rather small and i dont want to feel vulnerable.

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no i never force it. if she is in the room i always let her know im going to get him out. i dont want to use him to scare people, he is rather small and i dont want to feel vulnerable.

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he is rather small and i dont want to feel vulnerable.

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You are killing me!

Too easy, ill pass on this one... LOL

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You are killing me!

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Can't tell....if this...was on purpose....

Baby steps.

Like a previous poster said, let her get used to your ball python on her own pace. Has she ever watched you handle and interact with your BP? Perhaps ask her to pet his back while you hold it's head away. If she got you the snake, then she clearly puts your joy over her fear. That's saying something. I think with time, she will get used to your BP.

Ball pythons are one of the most docile species of snake. They would rather ball up (hence their name) than strike.

she wont rub his back or anything, even if i hold his head away. she thinks ALL snakes are nasty. its sad really, but most thats the way it goes around here. most people are deathly afraid of snakes...she didnt even like my pet copperhead i caught a few years ago. no but really when they hear python it's a signal of a 15 foot snake eating a baby or something.

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You are killing me!

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i meant he is small, only like 22 inches but he is getting alot bigger now that he isnt in a pet shop!

Everyone is saying don't rush it or don't force it, but that's exactly how I got into wanting snakes. My boyfriend had been wanting a BP for months, and he took me to his friend's house who has a BP. My boyfriend pulled the whole "if you love me, you'll hold it" thing. :mad: So I was forced to hold it. I instantly fell in love. I now have three BP's. & when I say I, I mean ME, not him. :D

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she wont rub his back or anything, even if i hold his head away. she thinks ALL snakes are nasty.

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TOO EASY....:banana::snake:
I feel like a school kid again loling at nearly every post in this thread!

I feel like a... nope i feel like me, lol'ing at every post here. My 14y/o maturity level is perfect for this thread!

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Originally Posted by TheSnakeGuy

She will either warm up to it or she wont. They key is to go at HER PACE ONLY. Do not force anything.

- Start with trying to calmly be in the same room for a period of time.

- Move into being closer to the snake to "appreciate" how docile, pretty, and not dangerous an animal it is.

- Sooner or later see if she will touch it's body.

- Eventually she might want to hold it, and once she does she'll be hooked and in no time at all she will want her own snake.

GOOD LUCK, remember HER PACE ONLY.

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Stick with this kind of plan. It's only been a few months, she'll either come around or she won't.

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she wont rub his back or anything, even if i hold his head away. she thinks ALL snakes are nasty. its sad really, but most thats the way it goes around here. most people are deathly afraid of snakes...she didnt even like my pet copperhead i caught a few years ago. no but really when they hear python it's a signal of a 15 foot snake eating a baby or something.

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I can't say I blame her for being uncomfortable with a VENOMOUS snake (especially if you were handling it, which you might not have been). Perhaps ask her to try just letting him crawl across her hand while she's touching your hand? That way, she doesn't have to actively move toward him.

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Everyone is saying don't rush it or don't force it, but that's exactly how I got into wanting snakes. My boyfriend had been wanting a BP for months, and he took me to his friend's house who has a BP. My boyfriend pulled the whole "if you love me, you'll hold it" thing. :mad: So I was forced to hold it. I instantly fell in love. I now have three BP's. & when I say I, I mean ME, not him. :D

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Your boyfriend is a jerk if he and/or you actually believed that line. I would have calmly explained where he could put his friend's snake and left.

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Originally Posted by kimmm

My boyfriend pulled the whole "if you love me, you'll hold it" thing. :mad: So I was forced to hold it. I instantly fell in love.

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are people going out of their way to make jokes now?


17 years older than you.. wow

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Your boyfriend is a jerk if he and/or you actually believed that line. I would have calmly explained where he could put his friend's snake and left.

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He didn't actually mean it... if I really didn't wanna hold it, I didn't have to. I just wanted to get over my fear of snakes. He doesn't actually use that line against me lol.

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He didn't actually mean it... if I really didn't wanna hold it, I didn't have to. I just wanted to get over my fear of snakes. He doesn't actually use that line against me lol.

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Well, in that case, glad you talked yourself into the addiction. ;)

My GF was the same way, she didn't wanna touch my BP and was scared. She's seen me grabbing him with ease and so I let her just touch him while I had him distracted and looking a different direction, she saw he wasn't threatened and so she tried holding him and she loves holding him now. Might just be a time thing, then again sometimes some people don't get over their fears best of luck though.

rolf I know this is supposed to be a serious thread but I'm cracking up over here. :D Anywho, my boyfriend isn't super fond of snakes either. He seems interested in Allure but will not hold or touch him. I figure he will eventually but he won't if I keep pushing him to.

I hated snakes, in general, too before I first held one. I didn't want to be in the same room with one. A few years ago, I went to a party and got pretty drunk. The guy who was throwing the party had a baby BP that I was terrified of. After I got really drunk, a group of people were just trying to peer pressure me into holding the little guy. Eventually, I was talked into it and after that moment, I was in love. Finally bought my first BP 3 weeks ago! :D
So, I'd say, get her so drunk that she can be convinced to hold it. :D hahaha

Yea I had the same thing happen with my g/f. She was really uncomfortable at first, and wanted nothing to do with it. I have had my BP for 3 months now and she is slowly starting to appreciate it. She has not held it yet, but she finds the tip of her little tail cute, and she likes to observe her when she's active at night. The way i got the ball rolling (no pun intended) was just to get her to touch her, i don't know why but most people that don't like snakes thinks they're slimy, so that's the first myth i busted lol. But yea like others have said, don't force anything because it wont help.

Plus a good example of a g/f hating snakes and now loves them is Lori, Brian's wife (BHB enterprises)(Snakebytes Tv). She apparently wouldn't even go into the room where Brian had his snakes when they first met. Now they own one, if not the, biggest snake productions in the world. So needless to say she got over her fear and learned to love them.

Hope this helps

After seeing you safely handle him for a while her own curiosity will lead to her being more open to holding him! My wife was terrified of our snake for at least a month, wouldn't even touch it, now she has him out of his cage more than I do and is excited for me to start a collection! Just give it time my friend!

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