Frustrated, bummed, and a little angry

Okay, so as some of you might know my and my girlfriend were going to be moving into her great grandfathers home, since he passed away and her parents inherited the house. It's in the process of being revamped and so we wouldn't be able to move in till probably December.

Now here's why I mad this rant thread.

Her mom and dad don't have the best relationship and there have been numerous fights and talk of divorce, but nothing has ever happened and my girlfriend always just says that how it goes.

Well her mom has been joking for months about moving into the house well before she offered it to us. Well, her mom and dad got into a fight the other night, but me and my girlfriend didn't know about it. We both had work from 11p-7a and her mom said she was driving my gf sisters dog home and she would see us the next day.

We come home the next day and her mom is no where to be found and her dad asked if we knew where she was because she never came home. She my gf calls and she answers and after about 10 times of asking where she was she said she spent the night at my gf sisters house.


No here's the kicker, she's taking the house me and my gf were supposed to move into for herself. Just up and said you can't have it now, she's moving down there. For the main obvious reason we are not happy at all. My gf asked who was going to be paying the bills at the house we live in now and her mom said she didn't know.

Her mom keeps lying and being really immature about the whole deal and keeps leaving the house for the whole day without telling anyone where she's going. My gf has to scream at her on the phone to get an answer.

So no we have no place to move into, and we sure don't have the money to pay the bills on the house so we are pretty frustrated.

My gf doesn't want to live in an apartment because there isn't as much freedom to do what you want and we are running out of options.

I'm not really expecting any advice or anything, but I really needed to get that off my chest.

IMHO: B****es Be Crazy. Hope you feel better now.

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Words to live by. I know. Haha. It just really angers me and my gf because we already bought a washer for the place and painted the walls the colors we wanted. All those hours and money for nothing. Her mom said she would pay us for what we already bought, but still that's not the point.


I was planning on picking up a female or two at the white plains show in November and was really excited. Looks like that dream got shot down for the utmost time.

Oh well, at least I have a good job now with good money and so does my gf for that matter.

So another day another dollar for now!

Also sorry for the bad grammar in the initial post, I was at work and pretty tired.

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Originally Posted by kevinb

Oh well, at least I have a good job now with good money and so does my gf for that matter.

So another day another dollar for now!

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This is the key right here. Unfortunately, many people are just plain unreliable and can't be counted upon to actually follow through with their promises. Trust in yourself and your girlfriend, work hard and save as much as you can, and eventually, you won't need to rely on others. Good luck.

What freedoms would an apartment not allow you? I would move closer to your work in an apartment there.

An apartment doesn't have to be a permanent solution, just a temporary living situation so that you two can get the :cens0r: out of there. What it lacks in "freedoms" it may make up for in restoring a little sanity. It sounds like you guys are in very close quarters with her family.

I know you weren't looking for advice, but holy crap does that sound frustrating

Well, if "that's how it is"; I'd give it another couple days and maybe it'll blow over. Just keep your head up, work hard, and earn what you want rather than give someone the chance to rip it out of your hands due to their selfishness.


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Originally Posted by Mike41793

What freedoms would an apartment not allow you? I would move closer to your work in an apartment there.

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Apartments are frustrating. You can't change anything about them physically, you are limited on the pets you can have, in terms of species, numbers and size. You can't utilize the facilities in many of them after a certain time. You get obnoxious upstairs neighbors. If something goes wrong you have to wait for the office people or your property manager to send someone out to fix it, and those people are unreliable at best. Etc. The list goes on and on. It sucks. But financially, it's more feasible than a house for most young people, and that's the significant benefit of putting up with the lack of control.

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Originally Posted by WarriorPrincess90

Apartments are frustrating. You can't change anything about them physically, you are limited on the pets you can have, in terms of species, numbers and size. You can't utilize the facilities in many of them after a certain time. You get obnoxious upstairs neighbors. If something goes wrong you have to wait for the office people or your property manager to send someone out to fix it, and those people are unreliable at best. Etc. The list goes on and on. It sucks. But financially, it's more feasible than a house for most young people, and that's the significant benefit of putting up with the lack of control.

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^^this in reply to mike. As for it blowing over, we have thought of that too, but as I just walked around the house I notice several things missing only to find them in boxes in her moms bedroom. So who knows.

I've kinda stopped worrying at the moment and am focusing on my job. Just hoping the crazy weather we are supposed to get doesn't hinder me getting there. We already have a flood watch for my town till the 30th.

Thanks for the replies everyone.

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Originally Posted by WarriorPrincess90

Apartments are frustrating. You can't change anything about them physically, you are limited on the pets you can have, in terms of species, numbers and size. You can't utilize the facilities in many of them after a certain time. You get obnoxious upstairs neighbors. If something goes wrong you have to wait for the office people or your property manager to send someone out to fix it, and those people are unreliable at best. Etc. The list goes on and on. It sucks. But financially, it's more feasible than a house for most young people, and that's the significant benefit of putting up with the lack of control.

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Alot allow caged pets. A 4 tub RBI sweaterbox rack is small and would be very unnoticeable. As long as they allow caged pets in the lease you dont have to tell them what you have. They have to give 24hrs notice before entering your apt. Throw a sheet over the rack. They legally cannot move the sheet to see whats under it so youre set. Snakes dont smell or make noise so theyre very easy to keep concealed. Obnoxious upstairs neighbors are probably not as annoying as parents fighting. Im not sure what facilities youre talking about? Ive never had an apartment so im not sure what youre referring to. If something was broke in my apartment then the landlord wouldnt get the rent check until it was fixed. There are alot of laws to protect tenants so i wouldnt have a problem doing this. Idk, like i said ive never had an apt, but it seems like itd be the better option given the situation.

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Alot allow caged pets. A 4 tub RBI sweaterbox rack is small and would be very unnoticeable. As long as they allow caged pets in the lease you dont have to tell them what you have. They have to give 24hrs notice before entering your apt. Throw a sheet over the rack. They legally cannot move the sheet to see whats under it so youre set. Snakes dont smell or make noise so theyre very easy to keep concealed. Obnoxious upstairs neighbors are probably not as annoying as parents fighting. Im not sure what facilities youre talking about? Ive never had an apartment so im not sure what youre referring to. If something was broke in my apartment then the landlord wouldnt get the rent check until it was fixed. There are alot of laws to protect tenants so i wouldnt have a problem doing this. Idk, like i said ive never had an apt, but it seems like itd be the better option given the situation.

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I think she was referring to laundry on the complex or something similar. My gf refuses to live in an apartment for the fact that most don't let you paint or hang pictures because of nail holes. They charge extra fees for small animals (I have both a cat and dog that WILL come with us), and even though we are living alone its not like living alone. I've been to my share of apartments in which the walls were paper thin and I could hear whole conversations in the apartment right next to the one I was in. There are the night owls too whole make obnoxious noises and bang around at 2am. Sure I will be at work for the most part at 2am, but when I'm not and trying to sleep its just not going to work.

We will see what happens.

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Originally Posted by kevinb

I think she was referring to laundry on the complex or something similar. My gf refuses to live in an apartment for the fact that most don't let you paint or hang pictures because of nail holes. They charge extra fees for small animals (I have both a cat and dog that WILL come with us), and even though we are living alone its not like living alone. I've been to my share of apartments in which the walls were paper thin and I could hear whole conversations in the apartment right next to the one I was in. There are the night owls too whole make obnoxious noises and bang around at 2am. Sure I will be at work for the most part at 2am, but when I'm not and trying to sleep its just not going to work.

We will see what happens.

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Idk. I guess what bothers me and what bothers other people differs a bit.

Good luck with whatever happens though man.

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Originally Posted by Mike41793

Alot allow caged pets. A 4 tub RBI sweaterbox rack is small and would be very unnoticeable. As long as they allow caged pets in the lease you dont have to tell them what you have. They have to give 24hrs notice before entering your apt. Throw a sheet over the rack. They legally cannot move the sheet to see whats under it so youre set. Snakes dont smell or make noise so theyre very easy to keep concealed. Obnoxious upstairs neighbors are probably not as annoying as parents fighting. Im not sure what facilities youre talking about? Ive never had an apartment so im not sure what youre referring to. If something was broke in my apartment then the landlord wouldnt get the rent check until it was fixed. There are alot of laws to protect tenants so i wouldnt have a problem doing this. Idk, like i said ive never had an apt, but it seems like itd be the better option given the situation.

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You would be surprised by how many apartment complexes prohibit owning exotics. A friend of mine hid her ball python and thought she'd be fine. But when the people came in to spray for bugs they noticed the enclosure. All those wires can get difficult to conceal. She was threatened with eviction. It happens. However, I personally ask about caged animals before I move in somewhere. But, where I currently live I was told pets (dogs included) were hunky dory by my property manager and the. Come to find out the association doesn't allow pets, but generally they are the most strict about dogs. Either way, I'm moving as soon as my lease ends because we chose our place with the intention of getting a dog. Misinformation can be one of the most annoying things about apartments. Finding an apartment that will allow you to keep your dog, depending on size and breed, can be difficult too. And expensive. There is almost always a pet deposit ranging from $350-450, and some places will charge you monthly pet rent on top of that - per pet! Many also limit the number of pets you're allowed to have to 2-3. That doesn't work for almost any ball python keeper I know. ;)

Also, withholding a rent check will do you absolutely no good if you have say...a main drain line clog and you can't use any water source in your house. That's kind of an "I need you here NOW" situation. So when they delay it's really obnoxious. (Personal experience on that one.) I woke up at 7am with every drain in my house backed up...couldn't use the sink even without water coming back into the toilet or bath...and the earliest they could do anything about it was 6pm! It was completely ridiculous!

As to the facilities, I'm talking about laundry, the gym, the pool, etc. It's annoying that you can't always use those things when you want to.

Given the choice though, at least in my current situation, I would still pick an apartment due to feasibility. I couldn't afford to fix anything major if it broke, so in that way renting is nice. They fix it for you and foot the bill. ;) But for the freedoms and ability to have the breed of dog I want...I still want a house at some point in the somewhat near future, expenses or not. I can't even get that English Bulldog puppy I wanted living in an apartment because they get over 50 lbs. *sigh* It's an outrage I tell you! :P

it is generally illegal to withhold a rent check, you really need to check into tenant rights in the state that you live in. In Ohio for example, you need to file an official complaint and if the problem is deemed legitimate and not rectified within 30 days you can pay the rent to the court and they will take out the necessary fees to fix the issue of complaint. I just want to let you know that not paying the rent until a problem is fixed can get one into serious legal problems fast.

I live in an apartment and own a home (in another state with a property manager) and my apartment is fine. I have lived in a few over the years and most have accepted pets and don't really care what you do as long as is doesn't pose a risk to other tenants (17' retic, in thier view) and are not directly violating the terms of the rental. I always have dogs so I don't even look at places that don't take pets. For me, some of the pros are that I don't have to shovel the sidewalk when it snows, rake the leaves, and when something goes wrong I can call the office and have it fixed. Given, not all maintainance crews are the same, but just try to be a smart consumer and know what you are looking for and check local media for info on the property manager.

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it is generally illegal to withhold a rent check, you really need to check into tenant rights in the state that you live in. In Ohio for example, you need to file an official complaint and if the problem is deemed legitimate and not rectified within 30 days you can pay the rent to the court and they will take out the necessary fees to fix the issue of complaint. I just want to let you know that not paying the rent until a problem is fixed can get one into serious legal problems fast.

I live in an apartment and own a home (in another state with a property manager) and my apartment is fine. I have lived in a few over the years and most have accepted pets and don't really care what you do as long as is doesn't pose a risk to other tenants (17' retic, in thier view) and are not directly violating the terms of the rental. I always have dogs so I don't even look at places that don't take pets. For me, some of the pros are that I don't have to shovel the sidewalk when it snows, rake the leaves, and when something goes wrong I can call the office and have it fixed. Given, not all maintainance crews are the same, but just try to be a smart consumer and know what you are looking for and check local media for info on the property manager.

Usually there are lawyers or groups who specialize in defending renters rights. Just, pitch your situation to them and they'll tell you're best course of action.


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Having an apartment works for some people, but not in my situation as I said. Me and my gf like our privacy so apartments feel kinda claustrophobic. We have been looking at single wide mobile homes, but the only ones we have found in our budget are in super cramped trailer parks, which is just about as claustrophobic as having a neighbor on both sides or above you in an apartment.

Winter is coming fast and I'm not sure if we are just going to hold off till spring like we originally planned before we were offered her great grandpas house or not.

Either way at least we are making good paycheck and can actually afford things. Or first paycheck combined was close to $1,200 for 2 weeks.


Thanks for the input everyone.

Well, not to be misunderstanding, but if you are going to be picky about your living arrangements then you probably need to be sure you financial can be. If an apartment is your budget, then you'll probably just have to deal. It's not that bad, you barely notice more often than not. Don't count out duplexes either, we're in one for about $1000/month which is rent, natural gas, electricity, water/trash, and cable/Internet.


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Originally Posted by TheSnakeGuy

IMHO: B****es Be Crazy. Hope you feel better now.

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Be careful.. I got a violation for using symbols to make a cuss word...

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Be careful.. I got a violation for using symbols to make a cuss word...

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You can also get a violation for quoting posts with swears in them. Ive gotten and given that too ;)

Yeah only if i actually quoted the cuss word which i didnt..


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Then go rent a condo. Much more freedom there
. If you have no options but move into an apartment then you have to move into an apartment. Nothing you can do. In surprised your gf's mom even entertained the idea of letting you and her live at the house she inherited. I wouldn't be surprised at all if that happened to me...

We don't have condos in New York. Haha.

My husband and I have lived in apartments for four or five years now, I think. It's not too bad if you get a good management company.

Our apartment right now allows two cats and also allows small, caged, exotic animals. Technically my large boa constrictor isn't allowed, so I put a decorative tablecloth over her cage. I keep two cats, five snakes and two cages of breeding soft fur colonies without issues.

We almost never hear our neighbors except on rare occasions when they slam the door or come thundering up the stairs. We always choose a top floor apartment to avoid having noise above us. Our balcony has a big tree in front of it that gives us complete privacy when we want to go sit outside.

Sometimes an apartment is your best option when you need to save up for a house. You just need to do some research and find a good one.

We have talked and are just going to save for now like out original plan. It just sucks because we were so excited for the new place. We painted the walls the color we wanted, bought a new washer since it lacked on, and put in a lot of hard man hours to try and get it done. Well, at least now I can say I won't be breaking my back for something that isn't mine anymore.