Could use some opinions

OK I have a friend who has owned a nice (great pattern) Bumblebee for a while well a few days ago she got bit by her now she wants me to take the snake.
Well she is a good friend and she took it personal when she got bit I know the snake is worth money and I dont just want to take it I think she needs to keep her I just don't know how to get her to understand that things sometimes happen.
And no she isn't all that knowledgeable about balls I just don't want to take advantage of a situation.
What should I do?
Maybe it sounds stupid but I think she needs to just give the snake another chance.

How does getting bit mean "Oh I can't have this snake anymore, it hates me"? What are her actual reasons/explanations why she doesn't want it anymore? How is she taking it personally: snakes can sometimes bite, it happens. I guess I don't understand...maybe if we get more details we can help you to help her better? Regardless I would hope she'd give the snake a second chance, but if not then hey you got a nice bee.

If she bought a bumblebee, I'm sure she'd be aware of their worth. She's probably become scared and knows you would be the best person to look after it.

I think she should absolutely get rid of the snake, but I also don't think you should take advantage of your friend. What I propose is, GIVE IT TO ME!



I'm sure you will not go for that so my second idea would be try to explain to her that these things can and do happen and your not a real snake owner until you get your bite badge. Explain to her and help her realize that she didn't loose a limb and she turned out just fine. Then if she is still dead set on giving it up, take it. Offer what you think is fair if you feel so inclined, but if she refuses money just give it a good home and let her visit.

I would also examine the events that led to the bite and see if you can explain why the snake bit and teach her not to repeat the process.

Is this her only/first snake?

take the bee and give her an offspring... maybe by then she won't be afraid of snakes..... or maybe she is just scared that the bites will hurt more as the snake gets bigger?

If she's willing to work on things and try to come to an understanding that anything with teeth (dog, snake, ankle-biting-toddlers, etc.) has the potential to bite and can get past her fear, great. If not and the snake is going to suffer in terms of it's care because she's scared/no longer enjoys it/doesn't want it/ is "over it/ whatever, then absolutely take it off her hands for her and more importantly for the sake of the animal itself. If it would make you feel better to offer her something, by all means but if she's set on getting rid of it and that's that, then you just lucked out big time and should go play the lottery, lol! You didn't create the situation or the circumstances and I admire and applaud your honorable intentions of wanting to be fair in terms of the potential monetary value of the animal. That's on her to either figure it out and accept that any animal can bite or to make other arrangements for the care and housing of the animal she previously committed to raising/providing for, regardless of whether or not she recoups her money or not.

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Originally Posted by KMG

I think she should absolutely get rid of the snake, but I also don't think you should take advantage of your friend. What I propose is, GIVE IT TO ME!



I'm sure you will not go for that so my second idea would be try to explain to her that these things can and do happen and your not a real snake owner until you get your bite badge. Explain to her and help her realize that she didn't loose a limb and she turned out just fine. Then if she is still dead set on giving it up, take it. Offer what you think is fair if you feel so inclined, but if she refuses money just give it a good home and let her visit.

I would also examine the events that led to the bite and see if you can explain why the snake bit and teach her not to repeat the process.

Is this her only/first snake?

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It is her first and only snake.
We did talk about me buying it from her I am not taking it for free I cant do that but I still think she should give it a chance first.
I have her right now till we get it figured out.
She just has to get over the whole its my friend thing its a snake.
I will keep her till I feel she is on the right page as far as reptile ownership.

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Originally Posted by lovepig78

take the bee and give her an offspring... maybe by then she won't be afraid of snakes..... or maybe she is just scared
that the bites will hurt more as the snake gets bigger?

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Well this one is an adult so i saw the bite but I still believe she had something on her that made the snake react the way it did like I always told her was ur hands before going into her space and watch her before u reach and pick her up.

If she's just upset maybe try using a metaphor (I do a lot)...liken the snake to a dog....if she has one it's even better....ask her if the dog bites her if it's still her loyal companion/ friend....my dog has bit me a couple of times but I still love the dog and vice versa....but if she still doesn't want it I would definitely take it! (if I were u lol)


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Yah planning on it I don't believe in talking people into something they don't want to do but I don't take advantage of friends either good way to loose them lol.
I do however believe some people should stick to owning dogs and cats.

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I appreciate the inputs I let her read them because I figured it would make her realize that the snake didn't do anything to be mean it is just what nature made it.
And not to take it personally or just give up having reptiles.

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Originally Posted by FIREBLADE

Yah planning on it I don't believe in talking people into something they don't want to do but I don't take advantage of friends either good way to loose them lol.
I do however believe some people should stick to owning dogs and cats.

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I appreciate the inputs I let her read them because I figured it would make her realize that the snake didn't do anything to be mean it is just what nature made it.
And not to take it personally or just give up having reptiles.

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Awesome let us know what she decides!


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Any snake will bite and that probably won't be the only time it happens. Just explain to her that anything will bite even a duck. Just help her anyway you can to get over the fear factor and if that doesn't work take the snake before someone else that may not take good care of it gets it.

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Originally Posted by Roadtrash

Any snake will bite and that probably won't be the only time it happens. Just explain to her that anything will bite even a duck. Just help her anyway you can to get over the fear factor and if that doesn't work take the snake before someone else that may not take good care of it gets it.

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I am working with her she has been handling one of my snakes that also has never struck as of now anyway but I think she is realizing it wasn't a act of aggression just one of those things that happen sometimes.
She will come around I am sure but that snake will either go back to her or to me either way it will be taken care off.:)

My bumblebee tries to bite me all the time. You DEFIANTLY don't see me selling him. I freaking love him and his feisty personality.

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Originally Posted by reptiliachnids

My bumblebee tries to bite me all the time. You DEFIANTLY don't see me selling him. I freaking love him and his feisty personality.

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Yah both of my bumblebees have a feisty personality but than when I got snakes and that held true for my Burmese especially I knew what I got myself into.
I didn't get snakes to cuddle with I have them because I think there really cool and I love having them and when they do something to defend themselves or just are in a bad mood I don't blame them.
I just pay attention to there body language they tell you what there going to do

This happens a lot with red tails, I gather, they bite and suddenly the owner is afraid of the pet.

I got chewed on a lot by my first baby ball python. Not a great first snake in some ways, but when I finally got my first good good latch-and-wrap bite from a friend's adult ball python, it didn't really phase me. But my poor friend! Her snake didn't even bite her, and you could tell she was still pretty freaked out a month or two later.

Was this a latch-and-wrap? Or just a painful feeding-type strike, but the snake let go immediately?

I'd glady take it :)

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Originally Posted by loonunit

This happens a lot with red tails, I gather, they bite and suddenly the owner is afraid of the pet.

I got chewed on a lot by my first baby ball python. Not a great first snake in some ways, but when I finally got my first good good latch-and-wrap bite from a friend's adult ball python, it didn't really phase me. But my poor friend! Her snake didn't even bite her, and you could tell she was still pretty freaked out a month or two later.

Was this a latch-and-wrap? Or just a painful feeding-type strike, but the snake let go immediately?

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From the way she described what happened it sounds like a mistaken identity strike the snake felt something warm and went for it.
That is my thought because she let go immediately.
It just seems some people have a hard time the only snake bites that got my attention where my Burmese I had one that got me that required 3 stitches still didn't give up on her.
But I did finally get tired of the having to have 2 people to deal with them so I found them better homes.

Would she get rid of a puppy because he has an accident on the carpet?

This is a wild animal and this is something that should be expected sooner or later, if she cannot accept that then I believe the best thing would be to re-home the animal. If she is scared because of one bite she will likely be very nervous/scared when comes the time to feed him and clean his cage and ultimately the animal will suffer because of it.

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Originally Posted by Deborah

Would she get rid of a puppy because he has an accident on the carpet?

This is a wild animal and this is something that should be expected sooner or later, if she cannot accept that then I believe the best thing would be to re-home the animal. If she is scared because of one bite she will likely be very nervous/scared when comes the time to feed him and clean his cage and ultimately the animal will suffer because of it.

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Like I said right now I have her she is working on herself to get past what was to me a very minor thing I have a lot of young snakes that strike a lot no big deal to me.
But than I did get into this knowing and understanding I didn't get a kitten or puppy and I didn't want that either.
This snake will never be neglected because if she cant handle herself with the snake the snake will stay with me:).