so confused...

i need some help here.

i thought i was connecting with someone and all of the sudden she disappeared. i just dont get why a girl would just disappear without explanation.

what would make you "disappear" without explanation?

Alien abduction :O

But seriuosly, I have had a couple opportunities to openly and honestly talk to women that have ran away from me in the past. When it happens to me the number 1 reason was usually that I was trying way too hard.

I do not know you at all except from the posts I have read so I am just throwing that out there.

Maybe she is busy - school or work.
Maybe she didn't pay her phone bill.
Maybe you should ask her!!!

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Originally Posted by lasweetswan

Maybe she is busy - school or work.
Maybe she didn't pay her phone bill.
Maybe you should ask her!!!

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i have asked her... just looking for advice.

dont you think ive tried?

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Originally Posted by cecilbturtle

i have asked her... just looking for advice.

dont you think ive tried?

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I don't know if you have. If she's not giving you a straight answer, she probably not interested. I don't know though, I'm terrible at relationships!

sounds about right. i guess its hard to see that till someone else points it out.....

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i have asked her... just looking for advice.

dont you think ive tried?

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Maybe thats it bro ... ur trying to hard... don't be needy

maybe she's a DG (dirty girl, muchacha susia)

dont be needy?

hahahahhahhhahahhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
:rolleyes:

youre special

That really sucks, sorry to hear that.
I once had a girlfriend that I thought was the one, but she ended up dumping me without much of an explanation...it was one week after a buddy of mine was murdered at work...don't think she could handle the thought of me being murdered at work, so she ran...if it's not meant to be, sometimes it's best to cut your loses and move on. Sometimes life's [tough] and there isn't a damned thing you can do about it, except get back on your feet and keep moving foreward.

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Just change "He's" to "She's". :(

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it was one week after a buddy of mine was murdered at work...don't think she could handle the thought of me being murdered at work, so she ran...

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I honestly don't think that was the reason why she high tailed it, it was probably another reason....but that's just an outside view. Personally, that's not a very good, or reasonable, reason to leave someone. But if that was the reason then she is very, very selfish.

To the OP: I don't she's into you anymore, she might have found someone else.

Sorry to be blunt.

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Originally Posted by Plissken

.if it's not meant to be, sometimes it's best to cut your loses and move on. Sometimes life's [tough] and there isn't a damned thing you can do about it, except get back on your feet and keep moving foreward.

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QFT.

While I am no professional at relationships by any means, the number one reason that they have failed in the past is due to being too needy. I obviously have no idea about your past or current relationships but proving you are capable of being fine by yourself goes along way with girls. Try to keep it as casual as you can and let things progress from there. Relationships are a fickle beast, keep your head up and things will get better. Best of luck man!

thanks guys. :)

im not going to worry about it anymore. i work 70 hours a week and take classes so i will just stay busy. especially now that i have some hatchling racks to build and a new incubator to wire up.

lifes to short to get stuck somewhere you dont belong.

Honestly I have been there great guy I met but just timing was off had all sorts of things going on in my life I couldnt necessarily include him in. Seriously could be something as simple as timing

Look man, as far as being needy; some women wants someone who is and some wants someone who is not so pay no attention to that and write it off as they are confusing! I agree with what you said, do your thing and at this point if she wants to contact you she will. There is also the flip side that some girls wants an jackhole and be treated like crap!

hahahaha.. this forum amaze me :D

I wouldn't speculate to hard on the why of it. We could all guess as to why she disappeared and never be right. If you can get the answers from her or others you've been with in the past, then great, but otherwise just focus on yourself and being the best version of yourself.

As to why people just "disappear?" Usually it is just simple avoidance. It is easier to ignore calls, texts and emails than it is to have an awkward conversation.

I'm am many things, a ladies man is not one of them. So I've done my fair share Internet dating. When I started, I quickly learned that you could exchange a few great emails with someone and then never hear back again. Heck, you could go on what seemed like a good first date and never hear back again. My point is that I think people sometimes take the easy way out rather than give the uncomfortable explanation as to why they don't like you.

And to be honest, I'm not sure if I would want all those explanations. We all will date any number of people until we find "the one." So I'm not sure I would want to hear all of the various reasons I'm not THEIR "one." Now if I was doing something universally wrong, I would want to know that so I can correct it. But just becaue you may not be a particular person's match, doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong with you.

Ok, I'm done rambling now.. lol..

What did she think of snakes?

Hey bro,
Don't take this the wrong way but, it is what it is. She's not the one so be happy you found out now and not later. So man up and keep it moving, life goes on bro.

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hahahaha.. this forum amaze me :D

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You read my mind... :weirdface

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Originally Posted by Caiden10

hahahaha.. this forum amaze me :D

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Originally Posted by RyanT

You read my mind... :weirdface

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Sounds like a match here, the two of you should meet :gj:

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Sounds like a match here, the two of you should meet :gj:

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Bp.net dating at it's finest

I've had guys do that to me. So let me know when you find the answer. lol