Ok, I legit just HAVE to rant

My little sister is 14.
and yet again she has taken off in the middle of the night with a guy thats prolly 20 years old.

And for the 3rd time she is being listed as a missing person in PA.

This sucks like UBER bad. and I havent seen/talked to ANYONE in my family except a few times here and there that they blamed my sister doing all kinds of illegal and harmful things on me.

EVEN THOUGH I DONT TALK TO OR SEE HER. :mad::mad::mad::mad:

so now Im all waitin of the state police to come rollin up and ask me all kinds of questions.



Im sorry, I just had to rant. Im so fed up with everything. I no longer consider myself a part of that family, I got out of that mess and into a great life. But whenever something goes wrong I get blamed for it. Because Im the one thats not around because Im trying to make a better life for myself.

( my spelling, grammer etc..prolly wontbe to great since Im just goin at it, so I apoligize.)

I've known a couple folks like you in my time so I know where you are coming from. I hope things look up for you soon.

God bless.

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Originally Posted by MasonC2K

I've known a couple folks like you in my time so I know where you are coming from. I hope things look up for you soon.

God bless.

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Thanks, I just want to be done with this nonsense.

I did the same thing 30 years ago, except I joined the military for 6 years and never returned from whence I came.

Were moving in like 2 years hopefully.

My fiance referred to my family as cancer once....and I think thats the best way to put it.

Yea.. i know something about it... but I moved to another continent from Poland to USA lol best decision in my whole life :gj:

I'm 3 years older than my sister, and when she was 14 she did similar stuff. I thank God that she turned out alright, but I can't tell you how many fights I got into because she'd get into a bad situatoin with people older than both of us, then call me and ask for help! It culminated one night with me sending a guy to hospitals with a badly split cheek, and a friend of ours getting stabbed before she realised that I was right, and she was on path to disaster...as I say, she turned out great and grew into a great young women!

I sympathize with what you're going through, just remember, if you weren't involved with anything, you're not to blame for anything. Having said that, I know first hand how hard it is to see your sister doing stupid things with people she shouldn't even be mixing with...All I can say is be strong, and keep your head up, keep fighting the good fight!!

Although I've never been blamed for a sister's behaviour (she's a lot older than me), I know how it is to not have a family.

It really sucks, but you did the best thing by moving away.

I was kind of like the Cinderella, and still am treated like complete garbage whenever there's contact.

Stay strong, and hopefully some day you'll make a perfect family yourself.

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Originally Posted by Aes_Sidhe

Yea.. i know something about it... but I moved to another continent from Poland to USA lol best decision in my whole life :gj:

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POLISH! :D
haha sorry, Im polish and so is my fiance. glad things worked out :)

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Originally Posted by Jared2608

I'm 3 years older than my sister, and when she was 14 she did similar stuff. I thank God that she turned out alright, but I can't tell you how many fights I got into because she'd get into a bad situatoin with people older than both of us, then call me and ask for help! It culminated one night with me sending a guy to hospitals with a badly split cheek, and a friend of ours getting stabbed before she realised that I was right, and she was on path to disaster...as I say, she turned out great and grew into a great young women!

I sympathize with what you're going through, just remember, if you weren't involved with anything, you're not to blame for anything. Having said that, I know first hand how hard it is to see your sister doing stupid things with people she shouldn't even be mixing with...All I can say is be strong, and keep your head up, keep fighting the good fight!!

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YAY! Im glad your sister came out on top of the situation :)

Yeah, Im not involved, at all. I mean at first, when I still kind of talked to them when something did happen I kind of felt at fault because my sister listened to me more than our mom. but then things got really out of hand and the school guidance counsler even started blaming me when she had a breakdown and was causing harm to herself. It sucks, but Im just going to hope things go okay. Because at this point I know shes going to end up either doing what I did ( which was dumb things, but I realized I was screwing up reallllllly bad, and just played the cards I was dealt until I could leave) Or shes going to end up like my mother and everyone else in our family ( a failure in life, and I hate to say this, but maybe even dead or hooked on some baddddd stuff)

But for now Im just going to see how it plays out, and not get involved. (again)
Im not a miracle worker. and If my mom wasnt such a terrible parent, things like this wouldnt happen. I just pray that when I have kids Im a better mother than she was.

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Originally Posted by CatandDiallo

Although I've never been blamed for a sister's behaviour (she's a lot older than me), I know how it is to not have a family.

It really sucks, but you did the best thing by moving away.

I was kind of like the Cinderella, and still am treated like complete garbage whenever there's contact.

Stay strong, and hopefully some day you'll make a perfect family yourself.

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Sorry to hear you still get treated like that :( As you know now, I know how you feel and it sucks

and thank you! Im hoping so, seeing as one day I want to have 3 kids :oops:

I'm glad my sister found the right path too!! I hope your sister grows out of this stage too!! At the end of the day, we can't live their lives for them, all we really can do is try offer guidance, but you can also only do so much, and really, you can't sacrifice your own life if people don't want help!

All you can really do is be there if she decides to come to you for help, and if she does, you take that chance and get her right, that's what I did, and that's all you can do!

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Originally Posted by Jared2608

I'm glad my sister found the right path too!! I hope your sister grows out of this stage too!! At the end of the day, we can't live their lives for them, all we really can do is try offer guidance, but you can also only do so much, and really, you can't sacrifice your own life if people don't want help!

All you can really do is be there if she decides to come to you for help, and if she does, you take that chance and get her right, that's what I did, and that's all you can do!

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Exactly!!!

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Originally Posted by JamieH

Sorry to hear you still get treated like that :( As you know now, I know how you feel and it sucks

and thank you! Im hoping so, seeing as one day I want to have 3 kids :oops:

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Those kinds of thoughts got me through the hardest of times - that one day, I would create a beautiful family that is open and loving.

Now, I'm not so sure that I want kids, especially if I end up with the man that I am with right now. If I do end up with him, kids or not, we will be a perfect family anyways!

It just looks like your younger sister is going to have to find her way. She probably isn't open to the thought of going to counselors.

If you're feeling down about this sometimes (I can't remember your original post to be honest with you), you could also just see a counselor to get these things out in the open with someone.
I saw a counselor when I started University and it was one of the best things I have ever done for myself!
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UPDATE:

Shes home.

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Originally Posted by CatandDiallo

Those kinds of thoughts got me through the hardest of times - that one day, I would create a beautiful family that is open and loving.

Now, I'm not so sure that I want kids, especially if I end up with the man that I am with right now. If I do end up with him, kids or not, we will be a perfect family anyways!

It just looks like your younger sister is going to have to find her way. She probably isn't open to the thought of going to counselors.

If you're feeling down about this sometimes (I can't remember your original post to be honest with you), you could also just see a counselor to get these things out in the open with someone.
I saw a counselor when I started University and it was one of the best things I have ever done for myself!
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Ive considered a counsler ( not only for things like this, for my past in general) but ultimatly decided against it because I have a hard enough time opening up to the man Im going to marry about some thing, let alone a stranger.

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Ive considered a counsler ( not only for things like this, for my past in general) but ultimatly decided against it because I have a hard enough time opening up to the man Im going to marry about some thing, let alone a stranger.

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I know this response is a bit late, and it's good to hear your sister is home, but If I might say something? I too have a "cancerous" family- that is a great way to put it. And Although I always did my best I ended up being kicked out repeatedly after my 16th birthday and had 2 years where I was hoping from house to house. I know you said you don't want to see a consellor, but like yourself I am very very closed even with my live-in boyfriend of 5 years. But I saw a consellor and it has helped a ton! It also wouldn't be a bad idea to try and form a relationship with your sister if not witht he rest of your family. I am still trying to maintain at least a civil relationship with my family when I have to see them but have made it my priority to be in my siblings lives and I have definately prospered because of it. You obviously know your own family better than anyone else on here. But you do only have 1 family, make the most of it. I'm sure you could help your sister tons as it seems like you are a good person just trying to remove yourself from a bad situation so you can benefit yourself.

Good Luck! And I hope she does better!

Cheers.

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Originally Posted by fr3nchvanilla

I know this response is a bit late, and it's good to hear your sister is home, but If I might say something? I too have a "cancerous" family- that is a great way to put it. And Although I always did my best I ended up being kicked out repeatedly after my 16th birthday and had 2 years where I was hoping from house to house. I know you said you don't want to see a consellor, but like yourself I am very very closed even with my live-in boyfriend of 5 years. But I saw a consellor and it has helped a ton! It also wouldn't be a bad idea to try and form a relationship with your sister if not witht he rest of your family. I am still trying to maintain at least a civil relationship with my family when I have to see them but have made it my priority to be in my siblings lives and I have definately prospered because of it. You obviously know your own family better than anyone else on here. But you do only have 1 family, make the most of it. I'm sure you could help your sister tons as it seems like you are a good person just trying to remove yourself from a bad situation so you can benefit yourself.

Good Luck! And I hope she does better!

Cheers.

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Ive thought about trying to form/maintain a relationship with my sister, but at this point I think its doing more harm than good...on both ends. So as sorry as I am to say this, its going to have to wait. but as for the rest of my family, thats a differant story...forming a relationship is just...impossible. Ive gone through to much just to turn around and have it thrown in my face again.

Im sorry to hear about the way you were treated when you were younger as well, ( as you can tell ) I know how you feel. I do have to say that Im glad that you are able to be civil, as I cant, by their choice not mine.