Do Girls want a huge engagement ring...

A question I wanted to ask. Guys, do you feel pressured to go all out and spend a ton of money on an engagement ring to please your girl?

Girls, does the size of the ring actually increase how much love you feel for your man?

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

Ouch! If the size of your love is measured by the size of the ring then I would choose a new potential wife! I've never let money/materialistic things ever be a factor in any relationship I've had. I've had both women that made considerably more money than myself and women that made considerably less than myself. It really didn't matter to either of us one way or the other because we never let it. I just see that as a measure of what to look forward to the rest of your life. Bigger, better, more expensive? Shop for a new husband would be my response to her.... but that's just me! I realize the new username means anonymity so I just shot it like I see it. I don't sugar coat things too well! Hope it works out whatever you decide to do and I respect your opinion either way. Just my $.02 :)

Regards,

B

IMO the size of the ring should be a non-issue. If you're in love an onion ring should be good enough. Also I believe that basically if you cant afford a giant rock then a girl shouldn't require you to go all out and blow your entire bank account getting them a big ring, if they do then they're shallow and not worth your time....however if you are MORE than capable of getting a good sized ring and you get them the cheapest one available, it might say that you are moderately to very cheap. In addition to this, I believe that every girl has their own dream of their 'perfect' everything, the 'perfect' man, date, engagement, ring, dress, ceremony, honeymoon, etc...however 90% of the time they don't get those things...but will they still be happy in spite of it? Absolutely!! ....as long as you're not a total butt hole and at least TRY to make it as perfect as they want it.

But dont take my word for it..its just what I believe..and if I'm wrong, someone please tell me..

she seriously said it was too small? how long have you known her? i have six older sisters. all have been proposed to but not all have said yes. but none of them made the decision on the size of the ring. i gotta say that i agree with Simple Man. sounds like shes more in love with money than you.

but you gotta do you. dont let anyone here sway your decision. as cheesy as it sounds, you got to follow your heart. if she is "the ONE" then go buy a bigger ring. just be happy. lifes too damn short to waste any time with someone you have doubts about.

what would she say if the tables were turned? if you asked her to get bigger breasts would she do it or would she smack you?

I'm a girl, so with that said.................I agree with the above........maybe you should return the ring and look instead for a different potential wife. That was very insensitive of her, and IMO she should care more about you than to react that way.

Coming from a woman, from what you've said I would either say she is a real gold digger and only loves you for your money.. OR she has absolutely no knowledge about jewelry and what it costs. Think it through bud, make the right choice that will make YOU happy. Whatever that is I'll back ya. :gj:

This is just my like dream romantic fantasy lol.. I would be so toutched for a guy to buy me a ring that he can afford, small, nothing crazy. But then also buy some hets or small morphs that the investment will grow in over time. When we produce visuals or supers or whatever it may be I would just die if he took the profits and bought something really spectacular to go along side the smaller ring for like our 5 year anniversary or something. Sorry for the mushyness lol I'm a girl, but I love my snakes! hahaha

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Originally Posted by Powerspythons

if you are MORE than capable of getting a good sized ring and you get them the cheapest one available, it might say that you are moderately to very cheap.

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That's an insightful post, but here's another perspective. It shows that you're smart, you can manage your finances, you know the truth about the diamond trade, and you're not susceptible: to a sales pitch, marketing ploy, or the shallow desires of a spoiled little girl.

You do know, DeBeers invented the idea of diamond engagement rings...

I bought my wife the ring I could afford. It's not a huge stone nor the finest quality in terms of clarity, etc., but it came from the heart and it was the best I could afford at the time. I've since offered to upgrade it numerous times and she's declined each and every time, as THAT ring is the one that signified when I'd made the decision to ask her to marry me and when she said "yes" (bless her heart, her life's not been the same since, lmao!) and as such, it carries more significance than any number of carats could without any thought having been given to them or the ring itself.

I hate that for you that she said something like that, as that's about the most insensitive thing possible. Like a few others have said, I'd take a hard look at whether or not she was the ONE person I'd care to spend the rest of my days with, especially after having said something like that. Good luck and I hope things work out for you in that regards, whatever your decision.

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Originally Posted by LizardPants

You do know, DeBeers invented the idea of diamond engagement rings...

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That they did. And they also control 90+% of the diamond mines, markets, retailers, etc. Those shiny pieces of carbon aren't nearly as rare as they make them seem to be but that's commerce, I suppose, lol!

As a girl, I'm not terribly big on real jewelry. Most of what I wear is fake or made out of alternative materials (stainless steel, etc) or upcycled materials.

I did tell my boyfriend (easiest term to describe him since we're long term but not officially engaged) that I want a custom engagement ring though. The size of the stone isn't whats important. But if I'm going to be wearing this and my wedding ring every day I want to LOVE it. Its a lengthy discussion we've had several times and he is totally on board.

However, if he'd happen to get me a different ring (especially before we'd had the discussion above) then it would be a non issue anyway. Whatever he got me would be something I'd love, because I love him. He's planning on doing the crazy custom thing for me, because it's what I'd love to have.

The SIZE of the ring isn't what's important here; its the size of the heart that owns the finger it sits on.

Well said, Cinderbird, well said! :gj: :gj: Two thumbs up, lol!

Given the truth about the diamond trade, I would never wear or keep a diamond.
In fact, if someone gave me a diamond (if I were a woman, or for whatever other reason), I wouldn't accept it. In fact I would question their ethics and worldly knowledge.

Well I will play devils advocate here. When my ex brought up the discussion of marriage (his ploy to get me back) one night during a conversation on the phone he simply asked me if he were to propose, what size & cut diamond would I like.

I told him 2 ct round and told him which setting, well a month later he asked. He had a 1ct round in a smaller setting, hmmmmmm did I say no, no I didn't, after we were married a year, I returned to the jewelers and got the 2ct round that I wanted.

Now with all that said, he could more than afford whatever I wanted, but if he could not have, I would have been just as pleased with anything he gave me.

The mere fact that he loved me enough to ask me to marry him was enough.

It's sad to say that many women treat marriage as a business arrangement, and they are always looking to trade up.

Your girl should have been happy with the fact that you want to marry her at all.

You shouldn't care all that much about the ring, it's about love and all that junk like everyone has already said ;)

I think it's silly to get a huge engagement ring anyway, seeing as you can either have stuff added on to it to make your wedding ring more special or you'll end up buying a different wedding ring anyway! My dad bought my mom a small ring with a few little diamonds on it, when they got married he added a center diamond and had the ring redesigned. Now that they have been married they will continue to change it on anniversaries!

Nathan and I are saving up money for our lives, we know we will have to live on a budget and we know every bit of money we spend on the wedding/ring will be money we could have used to buy a nicer house/pay for food! We of course still want a beautiful wedding and to have it look nice--you know, a wedding isn't something that happens more than once if you're lucky, but I wouldn't spend millions and millions if I had that money!

As far as the engagement ring goes, I know Nathan knows my style, he's bought me jewelry in the past, and so he knows what I would like. I know he plans on buying the diamonds separate and designing the ring himself, so even though it will be on the cheaper side, it will come off more as modern and elegant and I will love it because he designed it and it came from his sweet heart :)

So when it comes to me, the ring is second to the man I will marry... I guess specifically about the ring, I'm not big on giant jewelry anyway, so I'm more into style than size, you can make the tiniest diamonds look great depending on how it's set! But some people are more into the 'wow' factor I guess..whatever!

she said the ring was too small, now when you buy her a car after your married is it going to be good enough? is the house you buy going to be good enough? is she going to blow your money or needless things because the current stuff isn't good enough?

I'm only saying this based on the little bit of knowledge you gave us, but you need to find a girl with real values, you could be setting yourself up for a bad XX years before you fall in the 50% divorce category we have in the states. Sounds like a sign of things to come.

I haven't gone through and read all the comments yet, but I wanted to give my input. The size of a ring, or any ring at all does not measure a woman's love for her man, for me anyways. I think you should give what you feel is appropriate according to YOUR budget. Obviously if your making $5,000 a year, then you probably shouldn't go out and spent $1,000 on a ring. If a man is making over $100,000 a year, then a more expensive ring would probably be more suitable. For ME, I don't really care if I have a huge diamond...when I married my ex husband (sorry for the downer lol) he gave me a $400.00 ring with small diamonds in it. I was thrilled, the size didn't matter, especially at that point in time. Just get what you think is in your own personal budget, shop around at a few places and find the best fit. Don't put yourself into massive amounts of debt for a stupid ring lol.

For the record, we did not get divorced because of his ring size.

EDIT: woooooowwwww!! I didn't even see the part where she said it was too small....sure this is a good idea pal? That's a red flag if I've ever seen it....

Take it from the man that gave a huge ring it doesn't mean anything. If your girlfriend is really in love with you it shouldn't matter. I spent a fortune and that didn't change anything for us. This is just the start buddy. I should have seen the red flags long before our relationship ended, because once I couldn't afford to spend extravagant amount of money on her she took off. In retrospect it was definitely for the better. If she would have stuck around I would still be flat broke, and not be able to do anything that I really want to do. I sure wouldn't have the bp collection that I have going on...lol

But just remember that my advice is a touch jaded, and you really should do what will make you happy. Please go in with your eyes wide open though.....

Tens of thousands murdered or mutilated. A diamond is forever...
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Originally Posted by mikeau

A question I wanted to ask. Guys, do you feel pressured to go all out and spend a ton of money on an engagement ring to please your girl?

Girls, does the size of the ring actually increase how much love you feel for your man?

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

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She should appreciate your token of love! I feel that kind of reaction is very shallow, and her response was demeaning! I would never tell my husband that. I would be concerned how she will act in the future with things you buy, and decisions you make!

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Originally Posted by mikeau

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

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Okay I have to ask, how much of a barbie doll attitude does she have? These days it seems alot of women are "in competition" on who has the biggest ring, fanciest wedding, most expensive topical honeymoon...I call those who get into the whirlwind materialistic situations 'barbies'.

My (now ex) boyfriend made a comment about getting me a fancy ring if we ever got hitched and I flat out told him it was pointless. I'm usually outdoors, hunting, making art or caring for a hawk- I'll lose it, damage it or trap mice guts in it.
I told him I wanted a simple band from here: http://www.touchwoodrings.com/ and he laughed saying he wouldn't be caught dead with one. It ended shortly afterwards due to other reasons.

Point is if she's the barbie type then she's going to want the $$$$ in life generally and not realize what she has right infront of her. The ring is suppose to be a symbol of a lifetime commitment- not the status symbol to "show off". She should have been bouncing, laughing and crying that you got down on one knee and proposed.

The fact that she had no regards for your feelings- the emotional, financial, and mental for a man to propose I agree with everyone else and tell you to think about if you want that 'whine' daily & every time you lay down money for a new snake..

"you got another snake??... how must did THIS one cost...so you'll pay that much, but not on the ring I wanted?"

Yep I can hear it now *winces*
Best of luck on your decisions buddy!:please:

Excellent point. I'll add, expensive snake morphs can reproduce and return a profit.
Maybe we should fabricate the tradition of exchanging snake morphs at weddings instead of useless jewelry... :D

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Originally Posted by LizardPants

Excellent point. I'll add, expensive snake morphs can reproduce and return a profit.
Maybe we should fabricate the tradition of exchanging snake morphs at weddings instead of useless jewelry... :D

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YESSSSSSSSSSSS! That'd be awesome, lol!

Shooooooooot, my heart goes to the first man to get me an expensive morph instead of an expensive ring!! Muahahahaha that's so funny lol.

I got engaged in october & when my fiance & I talked about it, we talked only about what style I like. Never talked about carat size on the diamond, I had been ring shopping & I know how much it costs. Some girls do need that huge rock to be happy, but they will always want the bigger, better, trendy things. That's a personality trait my friend. Did she say anything about the proposal? I can't believe someone said it's too small. If the ring wasn't her style, or even if it's not exactly what she wanted, that's not the time to say anything. It takes a lot to ask someone to marry you, I remember how weird my fiance was acting the day he asked me. He was acting weird cause he was so nervous, it was so cute though and that is what I remember. Not the size of the ring. I think it would be good for you two to talk about it and see how the conversation goes, if she's not receptive to your feelings about that I'd maybe take a break to see if she is the one for you. Best of luck

but what if she meant that it was too small like it didn't fit?
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if not, then that's awful. Max bought me a ring from Kmart and I was happy. Nothing wrong with it. Price doesn't matter, it's the thought behind everything.
I'm a girl, and honestly, it's not the ring Max got me that keeps me with him. I could care less about the ring. It's the non-material things that matter most.
Shellie

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Originally Posted by LGray23

Shooooooooot, my heart goes to the first man to get me an expensive morph instead of an expensive ring!! Muahahahaha that's so funny lol.

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LOL. I need a woman like that. It would sure make life easier.:D

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Originally Posted by mikeau

A question I wanted to ask. Guys, do you feel pressured to go all out and spend a ton of money on an engagement ring to please your girl?

Girls, does the size of the ring actually increase how much love you feel for your man?

I dont have a insane budget but the ring I purchased for my potential wife the other day she said was to small so that sucked and now I don't know what to do. So, what's your felling about this?

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If i have an insanely huge engangement ring, how am i supposed to draw and work with my hands if it got stuck in everything?......i mean, if i were to tend to my pets and was uncareful with the ring it could go really bad D:

so for practical reasons, no, a big ring would be annoying. although im sure i could learn how to live with one.

if i think about what i want, its more like it gotta be pretty than big or expensive.....too expensive and i'd be too careful with it.....

so no, ring size or how much its worth doesnt affect the slightest.....happiness is whats important.

I'm not too materialistic but I know if I got a bigger rock I would be more impressed than if it was a smaller one. But I am more for the overall appearance and the proportions of the ring. I prefer a smaller but higher quality over a larger and lower quality, and not to mention bigger one gets in the way of everything.

I don't think wanting a bigger diamond makes a girl not worth marrying, but the fact that she is willing to say something you took time, effort and money picking out is not enough should be a huge red flag to get a new girl.

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Originally Posted by LizardPants

Excellent point. I'll add, expensive snake morphs can reproduce and return a profit.
Maybe we should fabricate the tradition of exchanging snake morphs at weddings instead of useless jewelry... :D

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Ohhh heck yes! Hmmm brings a whole new meaning to bridal jewelry. :D I can see a BumbleBee 'necklace' peaking out of a wedding dress easily, but that's just me.:rolleyes:

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Originally Posted by LGray23

Shooooooooot, my heart goes to the first man to get me an expensive morph instead of an expensive ring!! Muahahahaha that's so funny lol.

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we talking super pastel? something in the bee family? or are you a soul sucker kind of girl? pun intended ;)

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we talking super pastel? Something in the bee family? Or are you a soul sucker kind of girl? Pun intended ;)

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bahahahahahaha ;)

Can I ask why you joined a ball python site just to ask this question?

do you think he just joined? i just figured he has been on here for a while but created a new user profile to remain anonymous. maybe his girl is here too. hell, maybe they even met here.

ive heard that happens sometimes...sigh... oh to find a girl who digs snakes :P

For me a red tail boa would make a good engagement.....item. :gj:

its not the size of the ring, is the quality of the diamonds on it and the metal used.

so seriously, every women wants a pricey ring, and its not mostly because of you, its coz women like to show off with their friends, women when in company of other women are really vane, as we like to show off our cars or even our pets, women show off their clothes and jewelery, i think if you can (if you can afford with no major sacrifices) you should get something pricey, but if you can not, better save for the furniture, electronics, a car, honeymoon, a house...... etc.
Honestly i dont even suggest you to get married, but if you have decided doing so well good luck.

As a girl, I could honestly not care less about a ring. That is not to say that most girls don't care, many girls do care about rings very much and I can respect this. However, a small rock is merely symbolic, and in reality has very little to do with engagement.

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Originally Posted by LizardPants

That's an insightful post, but here's another perspective. It shows that you're smart, you can manage your finances, you know the truth about the diamond trade, and you're not susceptible: to a sales pitch, marketing ploy, or the shallow desires of a spoiled little girl.

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Originally Posted by LizardPants

You do know, DeBeers invented the idea of diamond engagement rings...

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:gj: On a similar topic, I would never accept a diamond engagement ring. The actual rock is practically worthless (they are only so expensive because DeBeers controls the entire diamond market and advertises them as a rarity), and there are still people dying in South Africa harvesting these worthless rocks!

Okay, I have read all of the responses and my wife is sitting here chomping at the bit to answer this one. So.................Honey....................(I hope she doesnt get me banned:oops::oops:)

Ok my husband and I have been together since we were 13 y.o.; we're 35 now. We are the proud parents of a gorgeous 15 y.o. son, 3 dogs and 13 snakes (and still counting...hubby just doesn't know it yet;)lol). My husband is the love of my life and is the best husband, father and man around. He sacrificed so much to see that our son and I were provided for and put off many hobbies, sold favorite vehicles and begged and borrowed to see that I accomplished my dream of becoming a certified chef. I was in school for 3 years and although I worked also it didn't come close to helping provide for bills, food and diapers. He put in many hours of overtime so I wouldn't have to kill myself with school, work and parenting. I would give anything to be in a position where I could be the sole bread winner and allow him the freedom to be the "housewife" for awhile and see where his snake hobby goes.

Ok I said all that to say this....all of this has taken place and I have NEVER received an engagement ring. I think they are nothing more than status symbols and I don't need some hunk of rock to see he loves me. He shows me daily with his short "good morning honey" texts and cooking dinner when he knows I've worked 90 hours that week. Relationships should not be based on how big the ring is or how much your wedding costs (mine was in my living room with our son and his grandparents...cost $45.....food afterwards...$25....the satisfaction of having the world's most awesomest husband ever....priceless)

For my birthday I got a beautiful ball I fell in love with at a pet store, for xmas 2 years ago I got my cow spotted pitty that I've longed for for many years, for mother's day last year I got him and our son cleaning the entire house and made me dinner. Everyday I get to wake up to a beautiful man who will do whatever it takes to get me anything I simply mentioned one day. I don't care about diamonds, gold, roses or going out. Give me a nice night at home with my beautiful hubby and our son, dogs and snakes and I could die a happy woman.

I know we aren't all like this and sorry guys, pitontheprowl has no sisters LOL, but if you look hard enough you too could find your perfect woman who actually has a heart and cares only for you not what you can gift her with. The next gift you should give her is a suitcase so you can send her packing.

I do not see the problem with having a nice, even expensive, engagement ring? Even if it's beyond your current budget, its your wife, supposed to be forever and she gets to look at it forever. Seems fair to me you'd choose something very special for the occasion.

If you have to save up for it, then so be it, take your time and make it worth while. Thats how me and my man have done things and I dont expect any less when it comes to the ring that will be coming to me.

If we can spend thousands on papered purebreed dogs or snakes and other such hobbies we are interested in I dont see why you'd draw a line in the sand and say, an animal/boat/vacation is worth more of my time and money than saving for a wonderful ring.

But that's just my opinion!

Womens Opinionok, so Ive read all of these posts and first off I would have to say that, I cant believe that she dosent have enough respect for you to actually say something like that. If I were you, Id get out while you still can and still have money, because it seems like shes more into your wallet and what you can buy, than you. Having said that, women have a tendancy to look for a man that can take care of them. Mentally, physically, financially its a survival, (sometimes) subconcious thing.

I personally have been with my BF for a year and a half ( anniversary today actually) and we've already discussed marriage and rings and all things asscoiated with it. Granted were still young (im 19 hes going to be 23[age hasnt nothing to do with it, its all about the mileage, meaning ive been though enough crap that I could pass for 30]) and he told me that he wouldnt buy me a ring. I was like *mouth drop* and he said. Im going to make you one. It has so much more meaning than some generic diamond. and to be honest, I cried.
Because I realized what really matters. The fact that a person could have such strong feelings to want to spend the rest of their life with you. Its the thought.


Now, dont let me persuade you. I dont personally know you, your GF/Fiance, situation.
Do what makes you happy. And I mean YOU. sometimes you have to not worry about others and do what you have to do to fulfill your own life and dreams.

Best of luck
-Jamie

I told him I wanted a simple band from here: http://www.touchwoodrings.com/ and he laughed saying he wouldn't be caught dead with one. It ended shortly afterwards due to other reasons.

I love the link. Great rings.

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I told him I wanted a simple band from here: http://www.touchwoodrings.com/ and he laughed saying he wouldn't be caught dead with one. It ended shortly afterwards due to other reasons.

I love the link. Great rings.

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This may be abit off topic but You know I never understood the whole Engagement ring thing. It's supposed to be a symbol but it seems more like a waste of money on shiny rocks. Also it Seems like a way of buying the woman off.

I don't date, just don't have the interest (Surprise with those views I know!). But I'd think it was more about love and attraction than Stones and Bands. If I ever got married I'd be more impressed if when I asked what rings she liked, she said onion.

Coming from a woman whose husband was never well off and never will be, ring size should mean diddly squat.

If she loves you the tab off a soda can should make her want to say yes.

The diamond in my engagement ring is so small, you need a magnifying glass to see it, and I'm not kidding either. But when the man I love offered it to me, I thought it was the greatest thing since the Hope Diamond.

We picked out our wedding bands together, put them on a Zale's credit card and spent the next 3 years paying them off, and to this day I wouldn't want anything else.

What on earth would I want with a giant diamond anyway? They get hung on everything as you go about your daily life. It's just begging to get stolen. No one in their right mind wants to clean baby spit up or worse out of the crevasses of a fancy ring. And if you don't clean it well enough, then your hand smells like a used diaper. EWWW!

What does she want a big ring for ? To prove you love her ? As if. So she can brag to all her friends about the expensive ring she made you buy ? Are you marrying her or her friends ? If she measures her love by the amount of money you spend on her, it will never be enough. First a big ring, then an expensive elaborate wedding, next a ridiculously expensive honeymoon, then a big house, a new car for each day of the week, a big boat because her friends don't have one yet, new fur coats, even more jewelry, it will go on and on and on.

Each time you get her something thinking, " Now she'll see I love her and be happy. " She will think, " I don't have enough, I want more, I want more, I want to see how much I can guilt him into giving me, and when he can't give me anything else nice, I'll find someone who can."

Don't walk down that path, dear. Tell her up front if her love is measured in money, she's in for a bankrupt marriage and see how long she sticks around. My husband and I don't have a lot, but what we have we work hard to have, and we love each other no matter what. The vows said for richer or poorer, and if poorer it is then so be it.

Gale

My husband often mentions that he loves the fact I'm not one of those materialistic women. While some women always want the newest fashion, jewelry, and cars, I'm the complete opposite. I rarely wear jewelry and to be honest, I had a heck of a time remembering to wear my engagement ring. Its not that I didn't love it, I just wasn't used to wearing a ring.

My husband and I have been together for almost 7.5 years. He proposed to me while he was still in highschool and I was away at my first year of college. We were taking a walk by the river and he stopped and pulled a little box out and asked me to marry him. I of course said yes. The ring wasn't too flashy and to this day I still have no idea what he paid for it. He could have gotten it out of a 25 cent machine and I would have been happy. We didn't marry for another couple of years, in 2008. We paid $50 to have someone marry us. It was simple. I wore a t-shirt and jeans, as did he. His mother was there, along with his sister and her husband, and my sister, and a mutual friend. Then we went back to his mother's house and shoved cake in each others faces. It was one of the happiest days of my life and always will be. To hear those 3 words come out of his mouth everyday is enough to make my heart skip a beat every time. For our wedding rings? We did what they say not to do. We went to the tattoo shop and had the wedding date tatttoed on our fingers as a wedding ring. $25 a piece. And I love it!

A woman who truly loves you (and who is worth marrying) should not care what you give her as an engagement ring. As long as you get down on one knee, look her in the eyes and say "Will you marry me?", that should be enough. In most vows is "For better or for worse" What will she do when its the worse time? What if you are dirt poor living in a shack? Will you still be the love of her life then?

so mikeau, the OP, what have you got from posting here? anything? i hope so. nobody here has an agenda so if i were you id take their advice to heart. but like i said before and ill stick to, you have to do you. follow youre heart. life is too short to question youre own happieness.

buy a bigger ring if that makes YOU happy. tell her this is who YOU are if that makes YOU happy. tell her to find a guy with deeper pockets if that is what YOU want! life is too damn short. ill say that over and over and over cause its true. be happy. the end. just be happy and your life will have meaning. live for someone else and YOUR life has zero meaning.

LOL! I wouldn't even care if my boyfriend spent money on an engagement ring, we don't need no stinkin' ring to be in love. ;)
However, I understand that it depends on the circumstance. It's like how people will work or care for things better if they invest more money into it... but it's not always like that. Some men just feel better spending money on their girlfriend. However, girls shouldn't need a big, expensive engagement ring, or else that's greed, not love.

well, im abaddon's fiance and it seems that i can offer only the same advice as every one else. He got me a $30 ring, no diamond tungsten carbide ring and purposed to me on December 3rd 2010. i love the ring he gave me and was so happy i cried. i don't think that it should matter what type of ring or size of the rock. Money is a huge thing in this day and age. with out it you cant really live, so why put it towards something as silly as a rock? (i can get a much prettier rock outside... and with more meaning...) Put the money to the side so we can pay rent, eat and one day get a house or start a family. that's what i think is more important. the want to love and take care of one another. dude, your choice. no one can say that our lives are the same. with some people size does matter, but it might not mean that shes after you for the money or loves you any less. Its just the way she was raised. but keep in mind if you're already thinking this it will stay in the back of your head. You should talk to her, hear her side of the story.

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Originally Posted by Sammy412

I'm a girl, so with that said.................I agree with the above........maybe you should return the ring and look instead for a different potential wife. That was very insensitive of her, and IMO she should care more about you than to react that way.

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+1 ^ Simple answer...
Was not able to buy my wife a ring until after we were married...Still married and Love each other after 20 yrs...If a ring means Love then it's not true Love...JMO

Just so people know, the guy is a spammer and no longer with us....

It's an interesting thread, just don't feel sorry for this tool ;)