Spouse's/Significant others and you herps...

So I gotta know... Any other spouses/sig others think you are crazy for you obsession with your reptiles? Mine thinks I spend too much time on the ones I have... I am curious to see spousal reactions with the people that own more than 5 and/or breed.

My husband has always been scared of snakes. In the mid 90s our son bought himself a bp, my husband was not too keen on it but let him keep it. I have always loved reptiles, especially snakes, but honored his fears. Then call it "mid-life-crisis" or something close to that I just decided I wanted snakes in my life again. 23 snakes later he doesn't even notice(?), but sometimes he does question my sanity when he asks what I've paid for just one snake (i.e. my piebald bps). After 32 1/2 yrs. he knows not to try to tell me no! :rolleyes:

My boyfriend is very supportive of my hobby. He just does not like handling the snakes, he fears he will be bitten. I have tried to console him and tell him that it would not hurt that badly. I respect my boyfriend and he has the right to say no when it comes to handling the snakes. My boyfriend is into boating. He has a boat and he likes to go out on the water quite a few times in the summer. I support him just like he does me with my snakes.

Pretty much, its the military slogan " dont ask, dont tell", he knows I have them just not what, how many or how big

They don't bother her, she don't bother them. She only asks that I double check the tubs to make sure there are no escapes.

My wife is all for it. She's not too keen on the thought of breeding, but once she realized we could possibly get the snakes we wanted through breeding our snakes (bee for example) she was all for it. She wants some het pieds next.

Well, I live with my mother and my grandma. My grams doesn't know I have snakes or she would probably have a heart attack. My mom doesn't care for them to much, but doesn't complain about them anymore. Most of my family just gives me a hard time about it, joking that they will make boots out of them and what not.

As for the dating scene, I've never dated a guy who liked snakes. My last ex I met on a dating site actually lied to me about liking animals in the first place and told me that the reason why myself and my mom have so many animals.. is because animals don't let you down, like everyone else does. He wanted me to move in with him after 2 months, and get rid of my pets. But when It came to being around his friends he'd brag to them how cool I was for having them, then put me down about it behind the scenes.

Soooo, basically. If ya'll are single.. man is it a pain in the butt to find a decent guy who likes snakes.. that isn't taken, or married! lol

I'm just not lookin' anymore :confuzd:

He went from "I don't like snakes and do not want one in my house" to "another one?" to having one he now calls his own.

He understand having one or two probably thinks I am a bit crazy for having over 60 but the bottom line is that he supports me no matter what my interests are even if unusual.

My boyfriend is still afraid of the snakes, hes a little less afraid but he doesn't want to see them or hear about them or hold them, or see me hold them. The geckos are another story entirely. He'll watch them and handle them or hold one for me if I'm doing some cage maintenance. He doesnt love them the way I do but absolutely respects my love for them and what I'm doing with them and how good of care I take of them.

My wife doesn't want anything to do with my snakes but she's cool with it as long as I do all the cleaning :D She's not happy with the rats in the freezer either that's why I double zip lock my frozen rats.

I ask her opinion and show her pictures on what morph to get next to get her involved with the hobby and she ends up choosing the more expensive ones and she complains about the prices. I like her taste, that's why we ended up with an albino and pied :gj: she hates normals and brown looking snakes. I haven't showed her the mystic potions yet.

I could just imagine if my wife also loves snakes...

My boyfriend likes Zeus and Louise, it was a mutual decision to get them. He bought the new one for me, but doesn't like him and refuses to hold him because he's quite the jerk. He likes reading on here with me and looking at the different morphs. He likes killerbees the best :)

my girlfriend is afraid of animals and i love all animals lol (except spiders T.T...)
i finally got her to hold my big normal and she only did it for a quick pic and gave him back to me super fast. she'll touch the scales of my spider & pinstripe and say they're cool but she won't hold one lol. she's afraid of my puppy! and when my chihuahua puts her paws up - my gf gets scared lol.

My husband is pretty tolerant of my obsession. When I showed him the new one I wanted (female spider that is now on hold for me)... he looked at me and said " So, we're building you a rack, right? " and rolled his eyes.

He has a burmese python and doesn't think it's fair that he only gets one. But honestly... he doesn't NEED two giant snakes.. yet.

Well my SO didn't want anything to do with my collection till I took him to Tinley, I've had the snakes for 2 and 1/2 years now!!! He bought his first snake, a female mojave, and now he's totally caught up in the addition and looking for his next purchase! If he keeps adding snakes he's going to have to start helping me with cleaning/feeding!!! He used to think I was nuts, but now he understands! :D

Karl doesn't really have an interest in the snakes as much as I do, and he likes to play like he's afraid of them when we meet up with others (he isn't really - btw).

He could take them or leave them (ie, it wouldn't be the end of his world if I suddenly didn't have any anymore, but it also doesn't bother him that I have the collection that I do).

He LOVES going to the reptile shows, but I think it's more of the social aspect of it - because he loves the friends that we've made through this hobby and he's always asking me "when is the next show?"

We're really lucky that in the South East here, we've got a group of us that try to get together a few times a year and he always looks forward to seeing everyone. And we've made some really great lifelong friends in the process.

There are some animals in my collection that he likes more than others (he likes the bright yellow ones - as he puts it). And he likes taking his time going around shows and looking at animals and pulling me to tables to show me something interesting.

So - while it's not his hobby, he doesn't try to influence any of my decisions either. If I want to add an animal, I do. Our money is kept separate, so once all the bills are paid, anything left over is ours to do with what we choose to do.

My girl was only into the cute fuzzy animals out there until I introduced her to the world of reptiles.

NARBC last feb. clinched the deal, and now she has a growing collection herself!

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Originally Posted by shescountry89

Well, I live with my mother and my grandma. My grams doesn't know I have snakes or she would probably have a heart attack. My mom doesn't care for them to much, but doesn't complain about them anymore. Most of my family just gives me a hard time about it, joking that they will make boots out of them and what not.

As for the dating scene, I've never dated a guy who liked snakes. My last ex I met on a dating site actually lied to me about liking animals in the first place and told me that the reason why myself and my mom have so many animals.. is because animals don't let you down, like everyone else does. He wanted me to move in with him after 2 months, and get rid of my pets. But when It came to being around his friends he'd brag to them how cool I was for having them, then put me down about it behind the scenes.

Soooo, basically. If ya'll are single.. man is it a pain in the butt to find a decent guy who likes snakes.. that isn't taken, or married! lol

I'm just not lookin' anymore :confuzd:

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Hollar!lol

I actually was seeing my fiance for about 3 months before I mentioned that I have snakes :D. This was a woman that used to throw hot water on garter snakes that made the mistake of wandering on her back deck. Now she's totally supportive of my business/hobby. I make the effort to keep her engaged in it by getting her opinions on what morph I should work with next (she really wants a bumblebee, so I picked up a male spider this year to pair with my lemon pastel girl). She has no problem with holding my albino boa too!

My wife doesn't care too much for snakes, not afraid of them, just doesn't want to handle them at all. My male bp is very calm and easy going, but she still isn't interested in holding him. In fact, she likes my tarantulas more than the snake and loves our Blue Tongued Skink and geckos, go figure. :rolleyes:

It's interesting, looks like more gals in this thread are the snake lovers vs. the guys. Cool!

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Originally Posted by Lesserbee

Hollar!lol

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Hahaha :D;)

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Originally Posted by shescountry89

Soooo, basically. If ya'll are single.. man is it a pain in the butt to find a decent guy who likes snakes.. that isn't taken, or married! lol

I'm just not lookin' anymore :confuzd:

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Ain't this the truth, lol... It seems that every time I find a decent girl that I get along with and enjoy being with as soon as she finds out about my collection it is the end of that. It isn't any easier finding a good woman who likes snakes or any reptiles either...:confuzd:

I am surprised with all the woman on here who's men are the ones scared of their snakes, it is interesting and nice too see.... gives me some hope lol

Most of the guys I've dated haven't been crazy for snakes, and it's rather disappointing. There is hope though! My current man is getting more and more interested in the morphs I look at online, and I'm dragging his sorry butt to the reptile show this weekend :D maybe we'll find something he really likes!

My husband and I are into it together. We care for them together and pick them out together.

In fact, we went to Tinley Park on our Honeymoon and it was perfect for us. We have a dream list of snakes that we want to try to aquire together, and plans for a snake room when we have a house.

Neither of us had snakes before we met. We didn't get our first snake until we moved in together when we were 18. It just sort of grew on us :)

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Originally Posted by Action Reptiles

Ain't this the truth, lol... It seems that every time I find a decent girl that I get along with and enjoy being with as soon as she finds out about my collection it is the end of that. It isn't any easier finding a good woman who likes snakes or any reptiles either...:confuzd:

I am surprised with all the woman on here who's men are the ones scared of their snakes, it is interesting and nice too see.... gives me some hope lol

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I know what you mean, so now I am afriad to meet someone new because eventually I am going to have to tell them about my hobby and my animals and they are just going to turn away. Therefore, I just don't set myself up for disapointment anymore.

Well I started the hobby but now my bf is every bit into it as I am. Feeding day is a ritual for us and we spend time together scanning ks and deciding what morph we want to buy next! Now, as far as handling, well he's ok once they are out of the enclosure, but not a fan of picking them up yet. We're working on it

It started out that my wife and I bought a normal BP for our 5 year old son as a father/son activity. I had grown up with a snake and my wife is okay with them.

That was all it took though. I went to the Repticon when it came through town and bought a spider. My wife was a little less excited about that.

Now I'm really excited about it and want to breed in a few years. I've ordered Vision containers, heat tape and accessories to build a rack.

What I haven't figured out how to tell her is that I ordered 2 100% het vpi axanthic girls from one breeder and a female pastel 100% het vpi axanthic and vpi axanthic male from another breeder.

All four to arrive next week...doh!

My wife just kind of ignores them, but definitely gives me a hard time when I get around my friends and start talking about snakes. She doesn't really want to hold them or anything else. She does check the temps for me though when I am not home.

She is going to the Hickory, NC show with me at the end of this month though so... maybe she will see something she likes.;)

For the most part, girls I've dated have always found them interesting, even if they were scarred of them. But pretty much every one ends up holding the baby hognose at some point. Who can resist those! They are less excited about the hots though.

My husband is actually the one who got me into snakes. A few years ago, I wouldn't even hold one, and now I have a whole plan set out to breed. We started with one kingsnake, and now its erupted!

I'm thrilled that we have something in common, and it gives us a lot to talk about. We're pretty different people with very different interests, so having something like this is great. Even my 2 year old daughter likes snakes! (She also eats dirt, so I am not sure how much her opinion matters yet! :P )

Well, my mom absolutely hates snakes. Luckily I don't live with my parents anymore though. My dad doesn't care so much, but has asked me to get rid of them for my mom's sake. I'm keeping them however, it's my life and my home, they'll never see them if they don't want to. As for my boyfriend, he's not enthusiastic, but does love to hold and handle them. If I'm busy taking care of one, he'll take another out to help continue socializing them.

My husband has zero to do with the snakes or the feeders. It'd be nice sometimes to have an extra set of hands to help clean, but I'm just happy he's so supportive given his fear of them.

I don't even have to ask before I buy a new snake. He shares my joy in them just because he likes to see me smile. :D

My wifes allright with them, dosent go out of her way to do anything with them, but she did take care of them while I was in the NAVY and deployed. She even gone so far as to buy me some here and there. she knows there a part of me so she goes with it in here own way. She a good sport and wife.

My boyfriend likes them, he just doesn't like to be bothered with cleaning them, only wants the fun parts of it. Also, he thinks putting out anything over $300 is crazy, so I told him it would be along time before he gets any of his favorite morphs, ha ha.

My Mom is in no way a snake fan, never liked snakes a day in her life, but she has been extremely supportive. She wants to see what they will produce, she has no idea about genetics or what the dominant and recessive genes are, actually, she doesn't even know what the morphs are called, ha ha. She calls them by their colors, but she is becoming more and more interested, I've caught her watching them at night numerous times now. She won't touch them or hold them though, but it is nice to see that they are beginning to catch her interest. On the other hand, since I have started breeding rats, she has been the one telling me to hold back certain ones for breeding because they are cute, and they are, don't get me wrong, but I can't keep them all, ha ha. She has even gone as far as feeding my rats baby carrots, lettuce, celery, and even making them mini peanut butter sandwiches! She feeds them like ducks, I told her not to stick her hands in the bin or they would bite her, and she listens, but those damn rats eat better than I do, ha ha.

well for me anytime ive owned snakes ive remained single cant find no one even to support my intrest but its ok my snakes dont complain when i bring a new friend home lol!:banana:

My girlfriend has been very active in learning about and helping out with my snakes. When we went to our last reptile show she was actually the one to find my BRB Niji. The next show we go to will be to find a little lady Rainbow boa :gj:
Being with me, her interest in reptiles has really grown. She really wants a chameleon now too on top of her want of a turtle and tortoise.

This is a passion my husband and I share together. Of course I also share the snake dookie, water spills, feeding time, etc with him :D We had around 200 snake at the end of this season. Down to around 140 now. Who woulda ever thought 1 snake many years ago would turn in to hundreds down the road?

my hubby LOVES the BP snakes and he loves Princess Bob the beardie. However the other reptiles in the house he could really care less about. I even imagine him secretly getting rid of the iguana at some point. He is very cranky about how much problems he has been and not too happy about the scratches and the bites I have gotten. (imagine hands with scratches all over them):rolleyes:

When dating Laura, she thought it was neat, but became afraid while living with them. Over 11 years, and a slower introduction, she has her favorites and loves the BP's. Although she will not really handle anything except our Russian Tortoise.

The Joel is tolerant of them, knows I love them, comes and helps me with the shows and (very rarely) the cleaning... He is the organizational man, not the hands.

He used to get bent out of shape when I spent several thousand dollars on an animal. Now, he sees where it can get us, and hasn't said much other than "That's cool".

He has a project I'm doing for him, cause he likes it, but other than that, he is more interested in other animals. He has a Mexican Black King, and takes care of the Cresties and the Tarantula. Everything else is my job.

He is supportive, and he loves me, so he helps me in it as much as he can. He actually has a few in the snake room that are "his".

I'm a lucky lady for sure. :)

my girlfriend is indiffrent tword em, she begs me to bring out alvin (my retic) but doesnt like the buisness end near her or even looking at her and he is to strong for her to hold so she just pulls him when hes getting away and lets him do his thing on the bed

we are however getting her a bp to help get her more comfortable with snakes lol so shes there when i need her for the most part

It's funny I just saw this thread. My boyfriend (well, ex boyfriend now) is petrified of snakes. So when I got the snake itch and recently got a bp and a hognose, he started disappearing. They're in cages!!!! They're not going to come get you!!!! (Insert eye roll and large sigh here). I used to breed snakes years ago and had hundreds of them. I think I can protect you from my "killer snakes"
Needless to say, I chose the snakes over him and he is gone. Hopefully the next guy will like snakes and parrots.