i need help

so im trying to convince my fiance to let me get another bp after a few years of not owning one. she is totally convinced that a ball python will escape and try to kill our newborn baby and eat her. ive tried everything but shes shutting me down, how can i persuade her into letting me get one?

Maybe try to sell her on a hatchling. Take her to a pet store or reptile expo and have her hold a baby BP, that should give her an idea about how harmless they are.

Try to convey to her that a BP will never get big enough to see a human of any size as food.

yea i tried to convince her that even a full size bp wouldnt see any of our children as "prey" but she still thinks that a bp will coil up around her neck and kill her for the hell of it..... i know id have to get a hatchling, she loves baby animals lol. i asked her what she would do if i brought one home and she said " ill throw it in the pool". i know if i just went and brought one home she would be pissed but it would blow over, but i would rather it be done the right way so she doesnt hate me for a month and make my life hell

ps i dont think she will go any were near a reptile store or expo knowing for a fact that i want a snake lol

just do what i did.

come home with one, and hope you wake up in the morning!! worth a shot
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I don't think you should get one. If it's going to make her that unhappy, why would you try to force her to accept it? If you keep talking to her about how this or that morph is so cool, and how pretty this one is.. and how much that one costs, wouldn't it be awesome to have one of these.. she might finally decide to show some interest. But if she's insisting that she absolutely doesn't want a snake in the house, you should respect that. It's not MY home, it's OUR home. She has to live there too.

Ultimately you should think about whether it is more important to have her, or a snake. If that's a difficult decision for you to make, you should probably call off the wedding.

Yeah, if she's got that much fear some hands on with a BP may be the only way to win her over. Have you told her about how there is no record of a BP killing a human...ever?

only reason why she doesnt want one in the house is because she thinks it will some how get out of the cage, out of the room, climb 20 stairs bypass every room on the way to ours and strangle our daughter.... all in the middle of the night. her ignorance and stubbornness is what is really pushing me to get one now and prove to her that nothing will happen with the snake

yea ive tried telling her that a bp has NEVER killed a human, shes not afraid of snakes. she use to hold my jungle carpet all the time and he was MEAN. she just thinks that it will harm our children... she use to have a albino retic back in the day ( it got to 8 feet and she got rid of it)

What you should do, since she's not afraid so much of the SNAKE as she is of it somehow escaping, is take her to the pet store and show her how the lids lock. Or if she won't go to the pet store, just point out how secure the locking sterilite tubs are at Walmart. That's what I keep mine in. Knock on wood, in 14 yrs I've never had an escape from my totes:)

Another idea......in my snake room, just in case God forbid something did escape, I have rubber stripping at the bottom of the doors, it's pretty stiff. very hard for a snake to get out of that door. I recommend it for anyone who has a snake room or just wants to use it on any room they keep snakes in. If one DID escape, you know it is somewhere in THAT room.

On a side note, I dated a guy for 3 years, he knoew the whole time I had snakes......when he wanted to get married, he said they had to go. I told him they lived here first:)

allready tried that too and she says accidents happen lol i know i can build a cage thats 99.999999% escape proof

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Originally Posted by Sammy412

Another idea......in my snake room, just in case God forbid something did escape, I have rubber stripping at the bottom of the doors, it's pretty stiff. very hard for a snake to get out of that door. I recommend it for anyone who has a snake room or just wants to use it on any room they keep snakes in. If one DID escape, you know it is somewhere in THAT room.

On a side note, I dated a guy for 3 years, he knoew the whole time I had snakes......when he wanted to get married, he said they had to go. I told him they lived here first:)

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trust me thats how im starting to feel right now, i know for a fact that even if the snake got out of the cage theres NO WAY hes getting out of the room.

Good luck. I hope she comes around.

Or u can do what I did lol just get the bp and deal whit it later. My wife was the same way,no matter what I would say was always a no to her so I got it. 2years later she won't go close to the bp but my kids love it and I had a new born at the time too. Sometimes u just have to go a bit crazy and fallow ur heart. Good luck anyways.

well after a HUGE BLOWOUT fight about me telling her that im gona get one regardless of what she said, things calmed down and she said i can finally get the rhino iguana that ive been wanting to get for years if i laid off the snake idea for a year or two... i think she won the battle but i will win the war...... eventually lol thanks for all the ideas