Just had to share my happiness

After years of searching I just found my long lost baby sister Megan whome I hadn't seen in 10 years!

I found her on facebook. She is 15 now. We just had a long conversation and I'm so happy that I found her and that she wants to get to know me and her nephew :)

The back story.. Our real mother had 5 kids. The first 4 were adopted to good families. I was simply adopted by my real dad who then married his current girlfriend. My other 2 sisters and brother were adopted by other families. We found each other in 96/97. I had known my birth mother since I was 17 as well. She had gotten married at that time and had my baby sister. Being older and more able to take care of herself, she wanted to finally raise one of her own children. She then found out she had terminal colon cancer and died in 2001 when Megan (little sister) was only 5. Megan was taken in by our birth mothers sister whome I had only met once. They moved to TX. This "aunt" didnt keep in touch and I think she didnt like me or the others because we were not raised with her family. I was worried she would never tell Megan about us and that I would never be able to find her.

Well after searching online for a couple years and hoping that eventually she would be allowed to have a facebook or myspace page and that she would use her real name, I finally found her profile. She didn't know who I was and her profile was private. I added her not kowing if it was the Megan I was looking for. She messaged saying I dont know you. I said I was looking for my sister and gave her details about our birth mom, her birthfather and our other siblings and she remebered. When she said I'm the one you're looking for, I about fell out of my chair! Im so happy right now. We IM'd for awhile and she is going to call me later on. She is worried about how her "mom" (our aunt) will take it but she plans to tell her that her big sister found her. She is so much like me. She has lots of pets and she is the cutest thing. Now I don't need to be sad about telling anyone I have a little sister anymore :D

Its amazing that this all came together for you like this! I hope everything turns out great! :gj:

Oh that is so nice to hear! I am grinning right now for you. :D

What a great story and a great adventure for you both! Congratulations. :gj:

Bruce

Awesome I am so happy for you fosh!!!:D:gj::banana:

I can hardly contain myself! She didnt remember meeting all of us. She only remembered meeting our sister Bridgett. I told her I have pictures of us 4 girls (including Megan as a toddler) with our birthmom when she was in the hospital. I'm going to scan them and send them to her. I'm so happy that I found her and that I can help her connect the dots of her family history. I was fortunate to meet everyone and build relationships with my blood siblings and birth mom years ago and now I can help my little sister get to know alot of things she wanted to know about too. Its like Maury LOL!

What a sweet story! Maybe it's the hormones, but I'm all misty-eyed for you right now:)

How exciting!! I am so happy for you! And of course she is adorable...have you looked in the mirror sister!! :rolleyes:

Wow I am just so excited for you....I am adopted and found out when I was around 24....I have a bunch of half brothers and sisters but 1 full blooded sister. I knew her when I was little as a "close friend of the family". Well when I found out and we got together it was so fun to see how much we had in common even though we never grew up together!

Congrats!!

So happy for you .........Hope all goes well

That is great! You hear about the bad things that happen because of myspace and facebook it is great to hear a good story.

Where at in Texas?

Mike

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That is great! You hear about the bad things that happen because of myspace and facebook it is great to hear a good story.

Where at in Texas?

Mike

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I don't even know. We haven't gotten that far yet lol! Just catching up on family and interests. I totally hated facebook and stopped using it for a long time but since she isnt allowed to have a myspace page I guess I'm back on facebook. Now I need to get some babies well started so I can save some extra money to go visit her :)

See i knew facebook would draw you back somehow :P.Congrats :gj:

Wow amazing story! I'm so happy for you!

In the other hand, little sisters are evil :P

That's great Monica! I'm glad to hear that you were able to track her down, and she is wanting to get to know you.

Congratulations Monica! That's very exciting!

I'm also adopted myself, but I do consider my adoptive mother my "real" mother. When people ask me if I want to find my "real" mother, I tell them I already know who that is - it's the woman who raised me.

My birth mother, on the other hand, does not want contact with me. I don't take it personally, it's not ME that she doesn't want contact with, it's a point in her life that I represent that's too painful for her. She hasn't rejected ME, because she hasn't met ME. She's rejected what I represent.

I do regret that in order to respect her privacy, I cannot reach out to my two sisters who know nothing about me - my birthmom fears that her daughters will reject her if they find out. I never set out to disrupt her life when I searched for her. I am in contact and reunion with her brother (my uncle) and his family - including my five cousins and all of their children.

Enjoy your little sister! I'm so happy for you!

That's awesome Monica! Hope she likes snakes!

Real men don't cry. I said real men DON'T cry. Oh well, here goes. Wheres the Kleenex. Monica congratulations. I hope and pray this leads to many happy years for you and your whole family.
Best Wishes...
Chris

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Congratulations Monica! That's very exciting!

I'm also adopted myself, but I do consider my adoptive mother my "real" mother. When people ask me if I want to find my "real" mother, I tell them I already know who that is - it's the woman who raised me.

My birth mother, on the other hand, does not want contact with me. I don't take it personally, it's not ME that she doesn't want contact with, it's a point in her life that I represent that's too painful for her. She hasn't rejected ME, because she hasn't met ME. She's rejected what I represent.

I do regret that in order to respect her privacy, I cannot reach out to my two sisters who know nothing about me - my birthmom fears that her daughters will reject her if they find out. I never set out to disrupt her life when I searched for her. I am in contact and reunion with her brother (my uncle) and his family - including my five cousins and all of their children.

Enjoy your little sister! I'm so happy for you!

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I may have never met my birth mother if it weren't for my other mom. The one that raised me. One day when I was in high school she took me to some woman's house. As we walked up to the door an old woman came out and freaked out saying my name. I was a little freaked out myself because I didn't know this woman. The whole thing was a surprise. It turned out to be my grandmother. She told us where my birth mother lived and that's how I met her. My mom remembered where my grandmother lived and since she never moved in all those years she was still there. Otherwise I may have never found that family. It was a fluke that I found my siblings though. All the adoptions were closed adoptions. My birth mothers family had heard rumors that one of us (my sister Bridgett) had gone to a judge in my city. She started working at the very same place that my birth mothers best friend (Jane) worked. Jane saw the last name on the wall schedule and noticed that this girl looked a lot like the family so she just came out and asked her one day if she knew whether or not she was adopted. My sister said why yes I am. Jane then told her well I know where your sister and mother are. Can you believe the luck on that one? Bridgett had actually been adopted by a lawyer. The very lawyer that arranged all the adoptions. Knowing that he would not tell her anything, she simply went through his old file room at their house and found the name of the family that our other brother and sister went to. Prior to this she had no idea that there were more of us. A little internet searching and we were all together.

When I met my birth mother she shocked me by having a tiny little metal key chain locket on her purse. It was old and wore out. It had a picture of me when I was 2 in it. She had kept it all my life. My adoption by my dad wasn't final until I was 2 so she was still seeing me at that time. I was touched and knew that she actually was affected by giving all of us up and was happy that I had been allowed to find her.

This is the only picture I have of all of us together. The woman in the bed is our birth mother. The little girl is my little sister Megan. When this picture was taken was the last time I saw her. Then our sister Sara, me and our sister Bridgett. I don't have a picture of our brother Joe. We only met him once and he wasn't eager to really continue a relationship with us. I think he held it against our mother for giving all of us up as babies/toddlers.

http://i99.photobucket.com/albums/l2...caBridgett.jpg

I'm sooo happy for you!!! Let us all know how everything goes, and if you do end up hanging out with her you should definitely take some photos with her!

That's awesome Monica, congratulations! I have a half-sister that's younger than me, and she doesn't know anything about me. I've tried reaching out to our father (Who has her) but he won't return any contact. She's 17, I guess when she's 18 I'll probly push to contact her instead of our dad.

It's heart breaking to know you have a sibling that doesn't know anything about you. I'm glad to hear there's hope though :) Thanks for posting this!

That is great. I love to hear how brothers, sisters, moms, and dads find each other after years and years. I wish you good luck.

monica, congrats on finding your sister.

robin, that is really what you call taking the high road.

So cool! I'm glad you found each other. Something similar happened to me a while back. My mom had a baby boy when she was 18 and gave him up in a closed adoption. She married my dad and had us three kids, but she never told us about our half-brother. She thought she would never see him again. Luckily he came looking for us and found his way to my maternal grandmother's house in Ireland, and showed up on her doorstep, miraculously on a day that our whole family was there. We were only there for a week and usually only go about every 3 years or so. What were the odds that we would have been there on that day? Now we're all really close, it's amazing how people find each other.

That is awesome, congrats!

My mom went through something similar since she was adopted...but she was trying to find her real mom, she spent many years searching only to find out she didnt want anything to do with my mom. Its great you have a happy ending, I wish you the best of luck in the time to come and hope you dont lose touch with her again. :gj:

reading this made me feel really happy.. I'm happy for you and have fun getting to know her more !

yea, you made my day, im really happy for you, is she in to snakes, lol im really excited its so wonderful to hear good news every now and then, with all the bad.. :)

That is a great ending to your search! I really hope everything turns out great for you.