I need sympathy :(

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

First loves are the toughest to get over, and it feels like your world has ended. You need to take time to grieve and mourn the loss of the relationship. Give her some space, she may find that she is missing you, if you give her some time. However, don't count on it either.

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target. That means, as tough as it is, get out, do things - start volunteering for an organization that you believe in, go out with friends, do things, stay busy. It really does help in the long run.

I'm sorry for the loss of you relationship - it takes time to get over and move on, but be kind to yourself in the meantime. :hugs:

IMO Things happen for a reason.
Keep your chin up and take a break.
Maybe contact her once a week or so: catch up, see if she'd like to meet for lunch, etc
If nothing else you guys can at least have a positive relationship as friends.

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Originally Posted by rabernet

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target.

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thankies :oops:

couldnt have said it better myself. i went through this same situation. first REAL gf of 2 years. just follow the wise saying. i just got a job and kept busy. always busy. i slept early. sure enough, she called me back and said she made a mistake. unfortunately, i was too busy to go back :weirdface. and i found i didnt really need her. kinda gained confidence y'kno?

im sure it'll work out buddy. just stay busy for sure. the hardest part of falling in love is saying goodbye :(

I just went through this aswell, g/f of two years got overwhelmed with school and future and hauled like we never knew each other. All i can say is as painful as it has been it actually made my life better. Try going for walks, runs, and excercise to vent all the built up emotions. I used to be a lazzzy n now I do between 5-10 miles a day, work out on a regular basis, and feel better and look healthier then ever. Just try and keep your mental on your goals ($$$$). Go chill wit ur boys.

At least you had a girlfriend. I'm married and my wife wont let me have one.
Take a couple weeks to mourn and be done with it. Start from scratch. Go out allot with your friends get involved in the community or whatever you have to do to stay busy. Eventually you will run into someone with like interests. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by cartman89

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

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Oh my god, i am so sorry for you. I give you huggs!!!!!:rolleye2:

:(

I'm in a similar situation

4 years together

now we're taking some time and some space.

My suggestion is to have fun making lots of good and bad decisions, that's what I've been doing at least and surprisingly it's been working.

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Originally Posted by rabernet

I wise person once told me, depression can't hit a moving target.

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And if it can, there are always SSRIs. A true godsend.

Hang out with friends and keep your head up. It's hard but time heals.

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Originally Posted by cartman89

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

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I'm so sorry this has happened to you, it's always hard to believe the relationship has ended once it has. Like people have stated, stay busy. Staying busy keeps your mind off of the thought, and keeps you away from feeling really down. My sister was in a relationship with this guy for 2 years, and they were doing so well. Not really sure how it ended, but she's over him now because she found other things to keep her busy rather than crying over the guy she loved. I hope your doing OK, too:( I know it's pretty hard to not be with the person you really like anymore, and I bet you may get that weird feeling whenever your around her because it wouldn't be the same like it was when you guys were together.

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Originally Posted by cartman89

Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me:( We have been dating for 2 years and everyone said we were a match made in heaven. She made quilts, clocks, etc for me. We traveled other countries! Now she says she so overhelmed in school and has loss feelings for me....:( This is a NIGHTMARE. WHY !!! I can't cope with this I need help. I cry all day. My snake doesn't even cheer me up. She was my first girlfriend:(

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Ouch. I feel ya brother. I had my own heartache issues. Time heals all things. I know it's cliche...but it IS true. ;)

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Originally Posted by Darkice

At least you had a girlfriend. I'm married and my wife wont let me have one.

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LOL....That is awesome


Sorry ur girl left you dog...... Back when the wife and I were still "dating" or whatever you call it and she would leave..... I always just kept lines of communication open but never showed her it was bothering me....EVER. This would just make her lose her mind and she would come home everytime. Jus sayin, I dunno if you are tryin to get her back or not.

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Originally Posted by STEW

LOL....That is awesome


Sorry ur girl left you dog...... Back when the wife and I were still "dating" or whatever you call it and she would leave..... I always just kept lines of communication open but never showed her it was bothering me....EVER. This would just make her lose her mind and she would come home everytime. Jus sayin, I dunno if you are tryin to get her back or not.

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There's room here for patterns of dishonesty and what they can mean.....but I'll just let it go.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

There's room here for patterns of dishonesty and what they can mean.....but I'll just let it go.

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Are you speaking english cuz I swear I cannot understand anything you say to me. If you could let anything go this post wouldnt be in here...... BTW, What exactly does ur post have to do with the topic?

thanks everyone. I'm doing a little better. But a few days ago she said she lost all feelings for me...I'm actually not sad...I'm MAD and of course frustrated. BUT this actually helped me bring back my interest and goals! I forgot how much i loved marine life when I was with her!