Family stress....any opinions?

Hey all. Well I am stressed out to the max and ready to scream so I didn't know what else to do but share my burden and hope you guys want to share yours too.

My sister in law is 17 and completely out of control. She screams at her mom and dad with vulgar language and NEVER sees discipline for it. Her parents pay for her car, her shopping EVERYTHING while she sits at home pretending she will make it into university next year with barely passing grades. Its bad enough to watch her flip out at her parents for no reason most of the time, shes pulling it with me now and I am the only one that won't take it.

I try to tell her she cannot speak to me or anyone I know the way she does and try to explain how she will get nowhere in life acting how she is but it goes through one ear and out the other. I can't ignore her if I want to and she seems to think its o.k to invite herself to my home where I make the rules, and continue with her behavior. But I know there is nothing I can do except take a deep breath and TRY not to let her get to me but ughhhh its too hard sometimes.

O.K so thats my huge vent (whew I feel better already). Does anyone have any similar problems or anyone wish to comment on the one I have?

As always - Thanks for listening, you guys end up being more of a moral support group than my reptile assistants it seems ;)

The real world is going to kick that girl's butt.

I know, like room mates in college (I mean university...HA) are going to kick her out so fast its unreal.

Well, if there is any way to make her realize you aren't playing around???

Kick her out of your house?

Enforce your rules.

She'll have to get it one of these days.

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Originally Posted by LadyOhh

Well, if there is any way to make her realize you aren't playing around???

Kick her out of your house?

Enforce your rules.

She'll have to get it one of these days.

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She rarely visits but she wants to come by and see her brother which is something I don't want to say no to, so I don't know what else to do but not stick around when she comes.

If she can't act like a decent human being, don't allow her over. The door shut in her face a time or two might get your point across. For the stress, I recommend meditation. It can work wonders.

Its apparant that is a parenting issue, I doubt you will have any influence no matter what approach you take. If the parents haven't seen a problem and keep on providing her financial assistance there is no point to her making a change. I'm sure if her parents took away all they have been providing for her she would learn to calm her nuggets down a bit before talking.

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Originally Posted by LadyOhh

Kick her out of your house?

Enforce your rules.

She'll have to get it one of these days.

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This.

I guess my next question is...

Have you told your husband how you feel?

Does he agree?

<edit> im being dumb</edit>

She's just a kid, treat her like one, enforce the rules of your house because it is YOUR house.

I have absolutely no experience in that regard I'm sorry to say, my entire family(on both sides) is pretty much the happiest, most well-behaved group of people ever.