Life lesson learned.......

Against all the advice given and all the red alarms going off in my head and soul, I gave the ex another chance. Did not go well. I allowed her and her daughter to move in 5 months ago. People rarely change. Once again after 5 months of being here she drove off into the night with her things in the arms of another man. Although today is not a day of celebration, it is a day of freedom. She was very toxic and childish. I had to fight her to keep snake heaters on. I had to fight her to keep the house warmer than 60. She would keep me up all night being loud with her daughter. They both would say toxic things about me. One night on January 3rd she beat the door knob off the door of the bedroom as I was trying to get away from her yelling at me about money. I had enough before they came but was hard to keep us all fed. I even fought like hell to pay for Aurora (happy I did) Things were looking up some with Aurora paid off and another loan paid off. I am not in grief but simply sitting still today and plan to spend Saturday meditating with my pack (cloud and Zelda) keeping me company. My heart is bruised and so is my sprit but life goes on and now I have closure.

She sounds crazy! Sorry to hear about it.

Don't let it get you down though. Take some time, decompress, and find somebody worth your time. There are lots of great ladies out there.

The next snake expo might be a great place to meet your next significant other!

Sounds like the tenant I had next door last winter!

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this! You sound like a good person. Sometimes you have to have these trials to get to a place where you can meet your soulmate.

If you had not gone through this hellish last five months, you may have always wondered if the ex would have worked out after all. Now you can remove that doubt and go forward with no regrets.

So sorry you had to go through this but don't take it out on a poor ferret!:D

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Originally Posted by bcr229

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.

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Easy advice to give, hard advice to take.

I get it. I'm an optimistic person who believes that people can better themselves, mostly because I make it my goal to better myself. I'm not perfect, never will be, and I know other's have their issues too. You can read my relationship story over in another forum so I'm not going to belabor that point.

Only you can decide where the line is. Sometimes you'll be glad you drew the line, other times you'll be happy you didn't. All you can do is work on yourself in the mean time.

It's an unhappy statistic that many people who re-marry (ie. pair up again) make the same mistakes over again (even when it's not the same person) since
their basic attraction to whatever it was about that first person is still a huge influence.

So don't beat yourself up over it...just try to be more aware of those red flags in any relationship, and next time pay more attention to them.

Try to figure out what you really need in another person, & keep those qualities firmly in your mind before you get too involved. Hurts less that way...;)

so sorry u had to eat some humble pie to learn this lesson but hopefully it will make u a stronger person.

Crap man! Sorry about that! U just sent me pics of u two getting married. And don’t feel crazy I went back and forth with a crazy woman that no one would believe how crazy she was. We had a daughter together and I came from a broken home and hated it. But she tried committing suicide three time and the last one was real. I had to cut her down after I heard a loud band downstairs. I’m fighting to get full custody of my daughter but it’s hard in Texas. Especially when she works for the judge.

Keep ur head up man! If u feel like going to Conroe to the expo I’ll be there