Kid slaps mom

great comment freakie..

To edit the last part of my post previous.. the behavior is learned, not nessesarily meaning the parents taught them that but the child learned it was acceptable, allowed, exc.. not nessesarily the only way a child learns to hit is by watching it happen. Both scenarios are possible its all in the way its handled.

My gf and i have thie argument of spanking our kids once we have them someday and she is totally against it but i think that kid needs some kind of discipline. I grew up getting spanked and i knew i better not act up or dad was gonna be there and not in a happy mood.

Does that kid not have a father figure around or what?

Wow, yea i'd smack the crap out of that kid. I was hit when i was younger if i stepped out of line and this was when i lived in Mexico so anything goes haha in the middle of the street if you're behaving bad you know what's comin. Parents need to start smackin their kids, some kids don't need it but others do and time out does not work. just my .02 cents

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Originally Posted by Lucero87

Parents need to start smackin their kids, some kids don't need it but others do and time out does not work. just my .02 cents

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OK, do you have children? Time outs do work.. if it didnt why do so many parents still use that method? When a child is too old for "time-outs" then grounding can take effect. As I said before, I do not agree with spanking much less smacking!

Both sides need aid... the mother and the son.

Im glad the mother at least seeked help, I hope both of them can live a happier life. It takes a big person to be able to say "things are out of control" I feel badly about their whole situation. As a mother I cant imagine loosing a child and then still having to be there as a good mother to my living child... especially considering she openly said she favored the girl.

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Originally Posted by JASBALLS

AMEN! I went to jail for correcting one of my kids in front of a police mang.. Verbally not physicully (sp??).. Sucked!

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Really ?

Well, I think this explains a lot...

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Originally Posted by AshleyB

OK, do you have children? Time outs do work.. if it didnt why do so many parents still use that method? When a child is too old for "time-outs" then grounding can take effect. As I said before, I do not agree with spanking much less smacking!

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I can attest that time outs do NOT work. I am a shining example of complete and utter refusal to obey authority until I was spanked and sent to my room balling my eyes out. Even then, I was definitely putting up a fight!

My parents spanked me for a long time until I was big enough that it hurt them more than me. Then they moved to the wooden spoon for beatin my butt. In the meantime, they removed my bedroom door, took ALL of my things away except for my dresser and bed. I still refused to "obey".

I was grounded once for something like 4 months. Yea... good lot that did!!

Now, I never hit my parents, but I know I made parenting VERY hard on them. If I ever took it too far, I knew Dad was gonna come and scare the :cens0r::cens0r::cens0r::cens0r: outta me when he got home. Dad was the last resort you ever wanted to go to.

Trust me, with some kids like me, time outs aint nothing!! :gj:

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My parents spanked me for a long time until I was big enough that it hurt them more than me. Then they moved to the wooden spoon for beatin my butt.

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Been there done that and fly swatters

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In the meantime, they removed my bedroom door, took ALL of my things away except for my dresser and bed. I still refused to "obey".

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Yep they even put my box spring and bed on the floor and left me with bare walls and a bed and desk for homework.

Wow it amazes me how many of you can be stuck in the darkage. There are *many* other ways to discipline your children that do NOT involve abuse! I don't care if *you* turned out ok and your parents beat you, that doesn't make it right. Hitting another human being, your child or not, is STILL abuse. I was spanked as a child...and grew up in a heavily alcoholic environment and I turned out ok, so does that make alcoholism ok? No it does not. Just because you *turn out ok* doesnt mean the next child will.

To me, parents who hit their children aren't ready to have those children. There are parenting classes that teach you how to handle difficult situations and raise your children in a proper SAFE manner. Parents that hit, IMO and experience do so because they can't control their anger and frustration. Just because a child does something wrong or makes you mad gives you no reason OR *right* to hit them.

I loose any and all respect for those who think spanking their children is the *right* thing to do...to me its just as bad as someone grabbing their dog and rubbing its nose in a puddle of urine...........Useless barbaric behavior!

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Originally Posted by equis8

Wow it amazes me how many of you can be stuck in the darkage. There are *many* other ways to discipline your children that do NOT involve abuse! I don't care if *you* turned out ok and your parents beat you, that doesn't make it right. Hitting another human being, your child or not, is STILL abuse. I was spanked as a child...and grew up in a heavily alcoholic environment and I turned out ok, so does that make alcoholism ok? No it does not. Just because you *turn out ok* doesnt mean the next child will.

To me, parents who hit their children aren't ready to have those children. There are parenting classes that teach you how to handle difficult situations and raise your children in a proper SAFE manner. Parents that hit, IMO and experience do so because they can't control their anger and frustration. Just because a child does something wrong or makes you mad gives you no reason OR *right* to hit them.

I loose any and all respect for those who think spanking their children is the *right* thing to do...to me its just as bad as someone grabbing their dog and rubbing its nose in a puddle of urine...........Useless barbaric behavior!

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I agree totally.

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Originally Posted by equis8

Wow it amazes me how many of you can be stuck in the darkage. There are *many* other ways to discipline your children that do NOT involve abuse! I don't care if *you* turned out ok and your parents beat you, that doesn't make it right. Hitting another human being, your child or not, is STILL abuse. I was spanked as a child...and grew up in a heavily alcoholic environment and I turned out ok, so does that make alcoholism ok? No it does not. Just because you *turn out ok* doesnt mean the next child will.

To me, parents who hit their children aren't ready to have those children. There are parenting classes that teach you how to handle difficult situations and raise your children in a proper SAFE manner. Parents that hit, IMO and experience do so because they can't control their anger and frustration. Just because a child does something wrong or makes you mad gives you no reason OR *right* to hit them.

I loose any and all respect for those who think spanking their children is the *right* thing to do...to me its just as bad as someone grabbing their dog and rubbing its nose in a puddle of urine...........Useless barbaric behavior!

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And again, I ask, what do you do to those kids like me that are unaffected by simply time outs and groundings or taking things away??

Take me to a therapist? Take everything away from me? How would you deal with me? I bet you not very easily....

The ONLY thing that kept me in line was the VERY real threat of worse to come.

I KNOW for a fact, given my nature, had my parents given me an inch, I would have taken 5 feet. I have that personality and never give in to idle threats or "talking things out".

For those very strong personality kids like me, what do you do? I would walk all over you if given the chance....

Not trying to sound like a :cens0r::cens0r::cens0r::cens0r:, but I do know myself, and I know had my parents been less strict in any way, I would have been in trouble a long time ago.