Snake moments

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Originally Posted by martyb

Thats what im doing the Powerpoint presentation to try and show her that they are facinating animals as i have

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I applaud your determination and diligence. My mom was and still is the same way. Except she is terrified of them. When I was young she allowed me to keep(almost) everything. I had hermit crabs, frogs of all sorts, salamders, turtles, crayfish and multiple fish. I 'm sure I'm leaving some out, but absolutely, possitively NO snakes in the house. I've been out of the house many years, even have a son one year younger than you. I own many snakes and my whole family enjoys them. We often sit around in the living room , each holding a different snake. When my mom comes over, she peeks at them and shakes her head. I asked her one time, "do you dislike rats or snakes more". She said "rats for sure". I said "there you go, snakes are your best friend".

This story probably won't help you, but I feel your pain. Keep up the good fight!

ok i will try and she her side and try to get her to want to get a snake which was the route iwas going down with trying to reach her heart about it and you just reassurred me that was the right way to go about it thankyou
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as for the experiences they all help a little :D

as for using the experiences they aren't going to my mumanymore becuase she is just becoming more stubborn:(

so this is really just to get my fix of snake while i dont have my own so keep them coming plzzzzzzzzz
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Marty since you can't have your own snake at home quite yet have you thought of getting a part time job at a pet store that does offer snakes for sale, or a teen volunteer programme at a local zoo, or volunteering at a reptile rescue. I'm not sure what's available in your area but it might be something of interest to you. Even check with the local vets. They might not handle a lot of snakes but still it might be worth asking around a bit. Any chance of a herp society or group in the area? What about snake breeders that might appreciate a bit of Saturday help cleaning tubs? :)

i have thought of all these things but i ot quite sure that i could becuase i live in a issolated village bout 1 and a half hours for anywhere so i have no real way o fgetting anywhere to do that but i would like to if i could find somewhere to get a job in a place like that

I GOT IT! buy a fake snake and tell your mom that your going to show her how you would tend to the snake by showing her with a fake rubber one.... take care of the fake one for a week or so.... then put a real one in there.. when she questions you, just be like i guess i took care of the rubber one so good, it turned into a real one because im so good! j/k :banana::banana:

very good :gj:

you had me going untill you said change it with real snake

i thought you really wanted me to get rubber snake and pretend its real:8:

more more

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I don't know your mom marty, but I would stay away from trying anything sneaky.

so, to expand on my previous e-mail, try to get your mom to tell you all her reasons. Don't argue them, just take them and write them down and think about them. If one of her reasons is "because I said so" you're probably just going to have to drop it for a while. But, if she's concerned about things like money, your responsibility, your safety, etc. then you can work to address them one by one. Also, her concerns may be based on your behavior in the past. If they are, you should own up to whatever you did wrong, and then work to show her you can do better.

Also, make sure you yourself understand that you're getting a pet that needs special attention and can live a very long time. Your life is just getting started and things are probably going to start changing alot for you in the next few years. What are you going to do if you want to go to a college and they don't allow snakes in the dorm? What if you join the military and are out of the country half of the year? Your mom knows all about this stuff and she could be thinking she doesn't want to be stuck with an unwanted pet down the road. Would you be prepared to sell your snake? Would you be prepared to pass up lifetime opportunities for your snake? I'm pushing 40 and I've settled down a bit but I still worry about these things with my pets!

i was like you, i wanted a snake when i was 15 too and my obsession went on for well...let's just say i'm getting my third one now, i'm a sophmore in college. My mom didn't want me to have a snake she was stubborn too saying that it would kill my little brother and eat him in the middle of the night, and everyone in my family was like it's satan (bible) so i tried and tried with no success and then i gave up for a while, went to college bought a snake, came home with it and all my mom had to say was...i guess you really wanted one, she didn't even care, i even got her and my grandma to touch it and my mom sometimes takes it out and holds it when i'm home.

If your mom is becoming more stubborn it is almost certainly because you are pushing too hard. Back off a while. I don't mean drop it entirely (you want her to continue to see that you have a genuine interest, not just a passing whim), but stop pushing.

Snake moments:
When we got our baby girl almost 2 months ago, she was very shy. We had a little trouble getting her to eat regularly for us. With time and the help of some crumpled newspaper, she appears to have settled in to her new home very nicely. She has a great feeding response now. In fact, she bit my boyfriend the last time we fed her, but that was only because he got careless and let his hand be the closest, warmest, movingest thing to the snake, so of course she struck! (Note, I'm not recommending you tell your mom this particular one!)

She's always come out in the evenings as long as it was quiet in the room she is in, but she used to disappear into the closest hide whenever someone walked in to the room. Now it is much more common for her to stay out even if we stand there watching her. A day or 2 ago, I was rearranging stuff in her enclosure because she'd knocked over the temp gauge so I needed to get it back where I could see it. When I opened up the cage, she came halfway out of her hide, apparently just to check out what I was doing. It felt really good to know that we've been able to provide a home that makes her feel safe & secure so she's not afraid to check out what is going on.

thanks for all the moments so the main idea is to wait for a month say? then try to make her want to let me get a snake by playing to her heart right? (eg buy her some presents do more chores and then ask her?)

have i got the right idea?:rolleye2: