I miss my lil baby...

Well if it helps I could post a picture of me 9 months gone with baby Mikey. I'm just a bit over 5 feet and I was pretty much as big around as I am tall. Oh and wearing the most gawd awful fuscia pink maternity top (why didn't someone mention I looked like a short, very round and color blind oompa lumpa - oh yeah - I was 9 months preggers and a TAD GROUCHY at the time! :mad: )

That picture has actually been tested and proven a very reliable method of birth control. :D Oh and if you think for a moment I'd actually post this picture...you are all quite nuts! LOL

:8: Lmao! Thanks Jo! (I'm now gonna think mama every time I look at the fridge)! :P I have no doubts that I would love a little person.... the smell, the snuggles, the soft.... It's the phone call in the middle of the night... "Um Mrs. we have your daughter here... she said you told her she could take the car to the beach, this is a problem considering she's 14".... (Not that I EVER did that) :rolleyes:

I know I was a terror to raise, I don't know if I could survive living with a little me!

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

Oh and if you think for a moment I'd actually post this picture...you are all quite nuts! LOL

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aw man! why not??? you already gave us the general picture so the damage is done! if you really wanna help..... lol

No way, no how Mel dear...somethings are best left to the imagination of the reader (the reality is FAR too scary! LOL).

Oh those calls, well my oldest wasn't horrible but she did put us through a few "times" and there was a lot of tough love going around for a long while in our house. Teens can be tough and it's sometimes hard to love someone who is currently hating you but it does pass if you just stick to your guns and enforce common sense rules and they understand the reasoning behind them. They don't have to like the rules or even abide always by them, but I figure as long as they know the line not to cross and the consequence for doing so, then I raised smart young adults that have now made an informed decision to be temporarily an idiot LOL.

I was an idiot as a young teen, so was my oldest daughter. We both survived the experience and she's grown into a lovely young adult making her way in this world. I'm sure her younger sibs will do the same, make their own occasionally idiotic decisions and we'll all just get through it. :)

Biggest bit of advice when it comes to teens....they will have a lot of friends...but they only have one mom...so be that mom even when it's not fun. I always tell my own older 3 that I'm raising my future friends but for now...I'm mom!

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

I always tell my own older 3 that I'm raising my future friends but for now...I'm mom!

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That hands down is the best thing I have ever ever ever ever heard!!!!!!!!!! Holy crap why have I just now heard this? I teared up a little LOL...gosh I'm a softy tonight.

Yeah the one thing I really miss is being pregnant...I felt like the hottest thing in the world! Even though I was yacking all the time and had a very rocky time with her...it was a very difficult pregnancy...but god I loved it...and wanted a big fat belly so bad I was really depressed I didnt have one UNTIL I was 7 months along :taz: I waited to tell my job until I started showing so for that period of time everyone thought I was a bloated and had an eating disorder being I would stuff my face then run to the bathroom...and ran in there every 5 minutes to pee any how.

But yes...I have never felt more alive then I did being pregnant...having another heart beating with yours...having someone truly need you to survive...never being alone...god I loved every minute...although the dry heaves...leg cramps...cravings...diabetes...streach marks...HUGE boobs...a bigger belly....swollen feet...mood swings...back ache's...morning/noon/night sickness...and the crazy nesting I did sort of were the suck LOL...I could sit here today and say I would do it over and over and over...the sex more then made up for all the crap LOL. I did say while preggers...and still say it "I wish I could be pregnant my whole life" I just want that baby belly darn it!!! :taz:

And then there is giving birth...a mind blowing event that can never be put into words...I thought it was so magical I had 8 people in the room with me when I gave birth to Raigen..that isnt counting the staff LOL. Although my great grandmother said I scarred her for life :( She birthed all 6 of her children at home with no one but a midwife...she was a little weirded out by the crowd...and how much I was "enjoying" the whole birthing and labor (all 22 hours of it!) but hey...5 generations were in that room...the best moment of my life...birthing her there with my mother...grandmother and greatgrandmother watching...along with my inlaws..my step father...my aunt..and my sister in law...my step grandmother had left right before she was born :( It was 2am and she had a long drive :(

Thanks sweetie. It's just something that came to me one day when I was actually arguing with my oldest during her difficult teen stage. She was mad because I was being a strict mom and not her "friend". I snapped back that I was raising her to be my friend but right now I was mom and she needed to respect and listen to what I was trying to tell her. You learn a lot about parenting during the tougher times actually.

Anyway, I've kept it in mind ever since. So when I need to be tough or enforce the rules with the kids I remember that I trying to raise the kind of adults I would be friends with. My dream for all 4 kids is to be the kind of mother, that when they are adults we can go shopping or gab on the phone and laugh about anything but they still know that when the chips are down, I'm there for them as a concerned parent. Even now when Kate phones I can tell in a second if it's a "friend" call or she needs "momma time" just by how she says "hi mom".

It never ends though. Kate said something to me the other day that she worded very poorly and it hurt my feelings. I had to say to her "would you speak like that to a friend you loved?". Took her a moment but then she remembered that even moms have feelings and that you should treat your family just as good as you treat your buddies. I think it's very important as your kids become adults that they remember you too are a person with feelings, desires and a life seperate from your role as their parent.

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

I was actually arguing with my oldest during her difficult teen stage. She was mad because I was being a strict mom and not her "friend". I snapped back that I was raising her to be my friend but right now I was mom and she needed to respect and listen to what I was trying to tell her. You learn a lot about parenting during the tougher times actually.


It never ends though. Kate said something to me the other day that she worded very poorly and it hurt my feelings. I had to say to her "would you speak like that to a friend you loved?". Took her a moment but then she remembered that even moms have feelings and that you should treat your family just as good as you treat your buddies. I think it's very important as your kids become adults that they remember you too are a person with feelings, desires and a life seperate from your role as their parent.

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I go through that alot. My oldest thinks that because I don't dress or act like Mrs. Cleaver that it's ok to talk around me the way she does with her friends. I had to get on her last night about it! I always tell her..."I am your fried but I am always your Mother FIRST." We have a lot of fun together but sometimes I think they "forget" we are Moms! lol.

Sara is a lot like me in that she is a little hard with her emotions. So she isn't the "i hurt mom's feelings so I better go apologize" type. She is the "O well..I will just not talk to her and see if she gets over it" type. lol. Not always a bad thing though. But she absolutely hates for people to see her cry. as do I.

Where as Cait...my youngest is the "I'm sorry" type. She is very true and sincere with her feelings. If she makes me mad she will apologize right away cause she does not like for people to be mad at her. She is very genuine and innocent when it comes to her apologies.

We had to attend my husbands Grandmother's funeral yesterday and I had mentioned to Cait (prior to the funeral) that she would still be able to go on her class trip to the DC National Zoo today since the funeral was on thursday and she told me "It's ok if I miss the trip Mommy...I would rather be with my family now. They need me and are more important." I just balled! She is too sweet! Needless to say...Tody is the trip and since all the funeral biz is done she is going to be on her way to the Zoo in about 30 minutes! I hope she has a great time! I know would! lol. :carrot:

See why she is my Princess Angel! :sunny:

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Originally Posted by TheAudOne

But yes...I have never felt more alive then I did being pregnant...having another heart beating with yours...having someone truly need you to survive...never being alone...god I loved every minute...although the dry heaves...leg cramps...cravings...diabetes...streach marks...HUGE boobs...a bigger belly....swollen feet...mood swings...back ache's...morning/noon/night sickness...and the crazy nesting I did sort of were the suck LOL...I could sit here today and say I would do it over and over and over...the sex more then made up for all the crap LOL. I did say while preggers...and still say it "I wish I could be pregnant my whole life" I just want that baby belly darn it!!! :taz:

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Aud...I do know how you feel about having the baby in your belly. That is awesome! I loved the kicking the most! There is no feeling ever that can be compared to that little foot, butt, and head poking you from the inside out! lol. :sniff:

But I am done! Time to move on and start a fun and exciting future baby free. Well...that isn't entirely true. My sister is due to have a baby any day! I am actually excited to hold it! I haven't held a little one in forever! lol. I try not to get all goofy over it but it is so hard not to! :rolleye2:

New baby is like new puppy..lol..You just wanna hold em and smell them all the time! lol. :D

but I would not want to be pregnant forever! lol! that would get to be a little uncomfortable after a while! ;)

Thank you all so very much for sharing. I think that I am going to make a hard copy of the house rules -- The first one is going to be:


Don't come to me and ask a question if Mom already said NO. The answer is still NO!

And while marriage is a very important institution (and because I am an orthodox Jew I think) essential to the continuation of the world, it is (however) not essential to having a baby.

Please keep this in mind, not everyone needs to be married first to have a baby. Some women are able to handle raising a baby by themselves. BUT, it is much better to have a helper. If your significant other can be a helper then that is the one you should marry (regardless of any other factor)!


edited for clarity.

Wonderful post Akiva, very well said!