Ladies of Bp.Net, I need some help.

find a new man that appreciates your passion for your animals...:D

I think that if you are feeling constrained by him already, this early in the game.. that is not a good sign. If he wanted you to limit your snakes because of realistic financial reasons, I could see.. but this sounds like early, controlling behavior.

When unacceptable behavior occurs in a relationship, you can either make your demands known (in my case, I let my man know what he was doing, and that I would not accept it and it needed to be changed) or bail. I would bail in your case, because to me, it seems like this guy is trying to overprotect you by commandeering your life and isolating you from what you love (keeping snakes.)

Everyone on here has given the best advice I have ever heard. You Laura, and everyone here are in the best company anyone could ask for(in an online community(we all rock don't we))
You should definitely put an end to things before something bad happens. I would take everyone's advice and end it plain and simple, its highly unhealthy.
In my professional opinion I would not try to sit him down and reason with him. You haven't much luck with that route thus far, and I don't think you will to be quite honest. In this situation sitting down and talking could go very badly, things get heated, could turn bad and people could end up doing more bad than good. It is difficult I know, but for the best.
Always know that there are TONS of people there for you, both on here and friends, and family.
The very best of luck to you. Know you have the support and friendship of countless individuals

did i mention find a new boyfriend who appreciates you and your love for the animals???:taz:

You may want to have someone with you, perhaps waiting in the car or outside, when you do break up with this guy. If things go bad, they could go very bad. Try to bring a guy, a big one, not one of your girlfriends.

This is way too new of a relationship for anyone to be making demands, unless they were phrased as "If we are to stay together successfully ...." and leaving breaking off the relationship as a second option.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

You may want to have someone with you, perhaps waiting in the car or outside, when you do break up with this guy. If things go bad, they could go very bad. Try to bring a guy, a big one, not one of your girlfriends.

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agreed. security for hire hahaha :gj:

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Originally Posted by wilomn

You may want to have someone with you, perhaps waiting in the car or outside, when you do break up with this guy. If things go bad, they could go very bad. Try to bring a guy, a big one, not one of your girlfriends.

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Agreed completely in this situation. Brother, Friend, Family member.
I would even go as far as to do this in a very public place, or instead of bringing one person, bring a few.
If anything, the fact that you have people backing you up with scare him, and his tail will be tucked. The fact that you have people backing you gives you the upper hand, and you establish dominance.

Moving in after 2 months, WAY too soon. Demanding to move in after 2 months, get real!

There is nothing wrong to be independent. I'm the same. That doesn't mean you cant care for someone.

The "walls" you have built up, I can understand that being a young woman and all the guys around. But I think when the right guy comes along, he wont be asking you to take those down, and you will end up doing it anyways because you feel safe and happy and you'll do it your self, not because he asked you to.

No one has to like what you like, but if he doesn't respect what you like and tries to change the core of who you are, then that is one BIG problem.

With my pass few relationships I've learn to first be happy by my self. Then find someone that makes you happy-er. Do the things you like and love. Being who you are is always more important than what others want you to be. I wish I had realized this sooner.

Anyways I could go on, but that is pretty much the basics for me now :D

Yup, been there, done that, have the divorce decree to prove it. Don't make the same mistake I did. Get out while you still can.