I Have A Confession!

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Originally Posted by rabernet

Daniel, it's to be expected that you have your critics. It's part of "consequences" for your actions. You have to get a tougher skin and realize that this is a learning experience for you.

You want to be a successful breeder and business person one day. Your apology was the first step. How you respond, even when your feelings are hurt is another step in your growth.

Eat a little humble pie. It's quite healthy, actually! :gj:

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Lol I am gonna go pick up some Humble Pie right now!

Daniel:P

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Originally Posted by Simpson Balls

Lol I am gonna go pick up some Humble Pie right now!

Daniel:P

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Picking it up isn't enough, you actually have to eat it, metaphorically speaking.

I'll give you some truly well meant advice.

Don't post on this thread again for at least a week. In fact, don't make another post until tomorrow.

While you're not posting, think about what kind of person you want people to think of you as. Once you have an idea, plan out the steps to becoming that person. Then implement the steps necessary to achieve your goal.

20 minutes, an hour or two, not enough time. It may seem like it but it's not. Give this some thought, put it down, do something else, pick it up again and see if you still feel the same. Don't go singing to the world how you're going to do this and not do that, do it and let them notice without you telling them.

You can't rush it and when you start out as you did, it's even more difficult. You can't have a do over so just do a do better. Learning when to refrain from commenting is one of the things you need to learn.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

Picking it up isn't enough, you actually have to eat it, metaphorically speaking.

I'll give you some truly well meant advice.

Don't post on this thread again for at least a week. In fact, don't make another post until tomorrow.

While you're not posting, think about what kind of person you want people to think of you as. Once you have an idea, plan out the steps to becoming that person. Then implement the steps necessary to achieve your goal.

20 minutes, an hour or two, not enough time. It may seem like it but it's not. Give this some thought, put it down, do something else, pick it up again and see if you still feel the same. Don't go singing to the world how you're going to do this and not do that, do it and let them notice without you telling them.

You can't rush it and when you start out as you did, it's even more difficult. You can't have a do over so just do a do better. Learning when to refrain from commenting is one of the things you need to learn.

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Excellent advice, Wes!

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Originally Posted by rabernet

I don't know if it's really praising, so much as recognizing that he's a 15 year old kid, and it took a lot of guts to make a public apology, especially for a teen. I myself would like to encourage him so that he continues to grow here and hopefully one day become a valued member of the site. I hope that he won't let us down, and I believe with the right encouragement, that he has potential to grow.

I do not agree with how he responded to you, and that's just another area where he needs to grow, to learn how to take criticism without taking it personally.

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i agree and realizing that he is 15, and trust me 15 year old's have a lot of self pride and he gets approval for doing this

Wow. Thats deep, I give you props man , i wouldnt confess. Im proud

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Originally Posted by K00l bean

Wow. Thats deep, I give you props man , i wouldnt confess. Im proud

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Thank You very much,

Daniel

Well Daniel

If you are truely repentant, we forgive you. Trust as others have said will come with time... there is one thing good that can come from this. The lesson you are learning about how to treat people and about honesty and integrity is being learned at the tender age of 15. I know people 50 who still need to learn what you are learning now.

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Originally Posted by m00kfu

Well gee, I just hatched out a dozen lavender albino pieds.


Actually I'm lying, now shower me with praise! :D

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Originally Posted by m00kfu

Actually, it was more sarcasm towards the people who ARE praising you. Yes, you did something wrong. Yes, you finally did the right thing and owned up to it. That's part of life and part of growing up, along with controlling your temper. Doesn't mean you deserve a medal for it. Respect should be earned, not given. :gj:

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I agree with what Chris is saying here. And, just to be clear, it has nothing to do with Simpson Balls, but with the people who react so positively to being treated poorly and then being apologized to. In fact, in this thread, for the most part, people aren't showering him with praise. The original post only has one "thanks", and most of the replies still seem guarded. But I've seen similar threads where the poster gets quite a few thanks, and who knows, maybe reps too, and the replies have a much more positive tone. Yet really good posts from people who never act so poorly don't get that much positive attention. That makes no sense to me. Personally, I'd rather react positively to being treated properly from the beginning.

I accept the apology. I do have my doubts as to whether or not the revised version is the real truth, and whether or not the promise to never tell a lie on this forum again will be kept, but I'll wait and see and hope that he really is sincere. So my feelings towards Simpson Balls have definitely moved a step in a positive direction, but it will take time and continued good behavior on his part before it really gets positive.

I thanked the post, because I think it was a mature thing to do to come on here and open himself up and apologize like that. I have a "live and learn" attitude, though, and I also know (as I posted in my response) that when people go to such lengths, there's a reason for it. Does that mean we all have to accept that and forgive it and like the person's actions? Of course not. We can all own our reaction. How do we know anyone here is completely honest? But, if we alienate someone like this poster, as I see it, we're losing a valuable chance to educate a potential or new member of our hobby. Trust is relative- would I sell him a snake- probably not right now. That type of trust is earned. Will I accept what he has to say at face value? Yes, just like I do every other post here. My praise is for his standing up and owning his actions. That act is admirable, and I am all for moving forward.

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Originally Posted by wilomn

Picking it up isn't enough, you actually have to eat it, metaphorically speaking.

I'll give you some truly well meant advice.

Don't post on this thread again for at least a week. In fact, don't make another post until tomorrow.

While you're not posting, think about what kind of person you want people to think of you as. Once you have an idea, plan out the steps to becoming that person. Then implement the steps necessary to achieve your goal.

20 minutes, an hour or two, not enough time. It may seem like it but it's not. Give this some thought, put it down, do something else, pick it up again and see if you still feel the same. Don't go singing to the world how you're going to do this and not do that, do it and let them notice without you telling them.

You can't rush it and when you start out as you did, it's even more difficult. You can't have a do over so just do a do better. Learning when to refrain from commenting is one of the things you need to learn.

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Very wise words, Wes...