Do Girls want a huge engagement ring...

I told him I wanted a simple band from here: http://www.touchwoodrings.com/ and he laughed saying he wouldn't be caught dead with one. It ended shortly afterwards due to other reasons.

I love the link. Great rings.

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Originally Posted by Cendalla

I told him I wanted a simple band from here: http://www.touchwoodrings.com/ and he laughed saying he wouldn't be caught dead with one. It ended shortly afterwards due to other reasons.

I love the link. Great rings.

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This may be abit off topic but You know I never understood the whole Engagement ring thing. It's supposed to be a symbol but it seems more like a waste of money on shiny rocks. Also it Seems like a way of buying the woman off.

I don't date, just don't have the interest (Surprise with those views I know!). But I'd think it was more about love and attraction than Stones and Bands. If I ever got married I'd be more impressed if when I asked what rings she liked, she said onion.

Coming from a woman whose husband was never well off and never will be, ring size should mean diddly squat.

If she loves you the tab off a soda can should make her want to say yes.

The diamond in my engagement ring is so small, you need a magnifying glass to see it, and I'm not kidding either. But when the man I love offered it to me, I thought it was the greatest thing since the Hope Diamond.

We picked out our wedding bands together, put them on a Zale's credit card and spent the next 3 years paying them off, and to this day I wouldn't want anything else.

What on earth would I want with a giant diamond anyway? They get hung on everything as you go about your daily life. It's just begging to get stolen. No one in their right mind wants to clean baby spit up or worse out of the crevasses of a fancy ring. And if you don't clean it well enough, then your hand smells like a used diaper. EWWW!

What does she want a big ring for ? To prove you love her ? As if. So she can brag to all her friends about the expensive ring she made you buy ? Are you marrying her or her friends ? If she measures her love by the amount of money you spend on her, it will never be enough. First a big ring, then an expensive elaborate wedding, next a ridiculously expensive honeymoon, then a big house, a new car for each day of the week, a big boat because her friends don't have one yet, new fur coats, even more jewelry, it will go on and on and on.

Each time you get her something thinking, " Now she'll see I love her and be happy. " She will think, " I don't have enough, I want more, I want more, I want to see how much I can guilt him into giving me, and when he can't give me anything else nice, I'll find someone who can."

Don't walk down that path, dear. Tell her up front if her love is measured in money, she's in for a bankrupt marriage and see how long she sticks around. My husband and I don't have a lot, but what we have we work hard to have, and we love each other no matter what. The vows said for richer or poorer, and if poorer it is then so be it.

Gale

My husband often mentions that he loves the fact I'm not one of those materialistic women. While some women always want the newest fashion, jewelry, and cars, I'm the complete opposite. I rarely wear jewelry and to be honest, I had a heck of a time remembering to wear my engagement ring. Its not that I didn't love it, I just wasn't used to wearing a ring.

My husband and I have been together for almost 7.5 years. He proposed to me while he was still in highschool and I was away at my first year of college. We were taking a walk by the river and he stopped and pulled a little box out and asked me to marry him. I of course said yes. The ring wasn't too flashy and to this day I still have no idea what he paid for it. He could have gotten it out of a 25 cent machine and I would have been happy. We didn't marry for another couple of years, in 2008. We paid $50 to have someone marry us. It was simple. I wore a t-shirt and jeans, as did he. His mother was there, along with his sister and her husband, and my sister, and a mutual friend. Then we went back to his mother's house and shoved cake in each others faces. It was one of the happiest days of my life and always will be. To hear those 3 words come out of his mouth everyday is enough to make my heart skip a beat every time. For our wedding rings? We did what they say not to do. We went to the tattoo shop and had the wedding date tatttoed on our fingers as a wedding ring. $25 a piece. And I love it!

A woman who truly loves you (and who is worth marrying) should not care what you give her as an engagement ring. As long as you get down on one knee, look her in the eyes and say "Will you marry me?", that should be enough. In most vows is "For better or for worse" What will she do when its the worse time? What if you are dirt poor living in a shack? Will you still be the love of her life then?

so mikeau, the OP, what have you got from posting here? anything? i hope so. nobody here has an agenda so if i were you id take their advice to heart. but like i said before and ill stick to, you have to do you. follow youre heart. life is too short to question youre own happieness.

buy a bigger ring if that makes YOU happy. tell her this is who YOU are if that makes YOU happy. tell her to find a guy with deeper pockets if that is what YOU want! life is too damn short. ill say that over and over and over cause its true. be happy. the end. just be happy and your life will have meaning. live for someone else and YOUR life has zero meaning.

LOL! I wouldn't even care if my boyfriend spent money on an engagement ring, we don't need no stinkin' ring to be in love. ;)
However, I understand that it depends on the circumstance. It's like how people will work or care for things better if they invest more money into it... but it's not always like that. Some men just feel better spending money on their girlfriend. However, girls shouldn't need a big, expensive engagement ring, or else that's greed, not love.

well, im abaddon's fiance and it seems that i can offer only the same advice as every one else. He got me a $30 ring, no diamond tungsten carbide ring and purposed to me on December 3rd 2010. i love the ring he gave me and was so happy i cried. i don't think that it should matter what type of ring or size of the rock. Money is a huge thing in this day and age. with out it you cant really live, so why put it towards something as silly as a rock? (i can get a much prettier rock outside... and with more meaning...) Put the money to the side so we can pay rent, eat and one day get a house or start a family. that's what i think is more important. the want to love and take care of one another. dude, your choice. no one can say that our lives are the same. with some people size does matter, but it might not mean that shes after you for the money or loves you any less. Its just the way she was raised. but keep in mind if you're already thinking this it will stay in the back of your head. You should talk to her, hear her side of the story.

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Originally Posted by Sammy412

I'm a girl, so with that said.................I agree with the above........maybe you should return the ring and look instead for a different potential wife. That was very insensitive of her, and IMO she should care more about you than to react that way.

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+1 ^ Simple answer...
Was not able to buy my wife a ring until after we were married...Still married and Love each other after 20 yrs...If a ring means Love then it's not true Love...JMO

Just so people know, the guy is a spammer and no longer with us....

It's an interesting thread, just don't feel sorry for this tool ;)