I need some snake people!!

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Originally Posted by stratus_020202

Well, she's coming over on Sat. for a pre-Mother's Day get-together. We'll see what happens. I am going to talk about them, and if someone wants to see them i will get them out. They are upstairs, and if she doesn't want to see them, she can stay in the living room.

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Nope I wouldn't do that to a parent that means your seeking approval. You don't need it! The snakes are there end of story..

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I will simply tell her, "I love you, but I love them too. If you can't respect what I want in life, then I'm sorry, but they will be a part of me forever." If she leaves then she leaves. If she chooses to be stubborn and pig headed that's her fault. I know she loves me, and hopefully she can get over it. Maybe over time, she will realize they aren't monsters. I just look at their faces every day and don't see any sign of something threatening.

I'll also tell her if she wants ground to stand on, then find me some proof. Someone put in the hospital, or killed by a ball python.

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She has no ground to stand on..your not asking her permission are you?

What you do and/or keep in the privacy of your own home is your business. My mother strongly dislikes them too, she says she only appreciates their beauty but nothing else. She detests the fact that they constrict their prey and she compares them to Satan in the garden with Eve (old-minded Southern thinking lol). I try to explain to her that it was not the poor snake's fault that the devil happened to choose that form. Now at my house, my boyfriend's mother refuses to come over sometimes. We tell her that she may indeed see snakes and we aren't going to go rearranging the place just because she "prefers" not to be around them. Some people are just set in their ways; you can't change them, all you can try to do is educate :)

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Originally Posted by DeepSouthSerpents

What you do and/or keep in the privacy of your own home is your business. My mother strongly dislikes them too, she says she only appreciates their beauty but nothing else. She detests the fact that they constrict their prey and she compares them to Satan in the garden with Eve (old-minded Southern thinking lol). I try to explain to her that it was not the poor snake's fault that the devil happened to choose that form.

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My mom tried to pull that to until I politely reminded her that woman was also the tool of the devil to tempt man..So where does that leave them..

And how do we know it wasn't a dimwitted legless lizard or a skink with a grudge pretending to be a snake?

Sounds like a perfect set up to me.

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Originally Posted by Freakie_frog

She has no ground to stand on..your not asking her permission are you?

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No way. I love my babies. I want her to realize she has no ground. I already know she doesn't. It's something I would like for her to realize herself. I would love if she asked me just once, "how are they doing?"

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Originally Posted by wilomn

And how do we know it wasn't a dimwitted legless lizard or a skink with a grudge pretending to be a snake?

Sounds like a perfect set up to me.

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lol. I asked my mom if they were so evil, how did they survive the flood with Noah? and isn't God's whole plan about forgiveness?

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Originally Posted by stratus_020202

No way. I love my babies. I want her to realize she has no ground. I already know she doesn't. It's something I would like for her to realize herself. I would love if she asked me just once, "how are they doing?"

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Your not going to get that by debating her. Your going to get that by not debating her. Just the fact that you wont offer her the opportunity to gain an inch is enough.

You must be strong but supple. In her mind your the one being stubborn. See to her she has all the great reason to not keep them and she'll work just as hard to convince you of her side as you do of yours.

If that chance never comes then neither side has to concede.. She may never except your snakes are you willing to spend your life trying to change her mind or are you willing to except that she doesn't and move on?

lol I had words with my mother over my collection ( yeah I live at hoem but there are reasond behind that ) I pointed out when she says I don't need them when I look at more possible morphs. 1 they don't attack people, scratch, crap, or shed everywere like a cat can do. Plus I pointed out if I breed them I can at least make a profit when I got rid of them unlike a cat ... I also pointedo ut that recently it been me buying the cat food and litter soshe should not complina about my pets.

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Originally Posted by PythonWallace

I disagree with a lot of that. This is a matter of a mom not showing respect for her grown adult daughter.

If that were my dog, I would have flipped out and severed ties with her for a while. Dogs are supposed to bark at new people. I have two dogs, a rott/beagle that only barks at shady people, and an American bull dog that barks at everyone who enters HIS house if he doesn't know them. The rott/beagle has an amazing sense for picking out scum bags, and the bull dog not so much, so he does his job with everyone he doesn't know. Dogs are supposed to be protective of the people who take care of them, as well as their homes. If they didn't bark, I'd consider them defective, and useless for that purpose. To have a dog put down for barking at, or jumping at a new guy who walks into it's house behind your sister is absolutely INSANE.

As far as her concern with snakes, tell her to know what she's talking about before she opens her mouth. I would have gotten the yelling out of the way a LONG time ago, putting my foot down with that sort of nonsense way before it came to the possibility of her thinking it was okay for her to kill your dog. If you don't want to yell, at least write her a serious and long letter. It sounds like you have a lot you could say to her about this and probably a ton of other things she does. You're 27. It's time mom is brought down a peg or two. Even if she was a brilliant woman with infinite wisdom, you are still too old to be putting up with that kind of shadow, but she doesn't sound like a genius, so it's definitely time to back her up 50 paces before drawing a line for her to stay behind. Do you want to be like Principal Skinner your whole life, just so you can avoid ever hurting her feelings, which will heal?

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Im happy im not your mom!
Mike.

My mother is truly frightened of snakes. She's even said that she guessed she'd never be in my home again (she's 7 hours away anyway). Not as a threat, or to guilt me in any way - but because of her genuine fear.

I respect her fear, and I don't really talk much about the snakes.

However, despite her fear of snakes, she allowed me, last year to bring my eggs that were due to hatch the week I was visiting and have them hatch in their (my parents') home - which was a huge step. I wasn't about to miss my first clutch hatching!

She even looked at the babies when they hatched, but there was still a small shudder that went through her.

Just last week she got a sneak peek at my website's template and said "I looked at your site, and even I have to admit, those are some handsome looking snakes".

So, my mother, while she is truly scared of snakes and does not understand why anyone would want to own a snake, is accepting of the fact that I love them and that they are important to me. She knows that they are not dangerous to me, she just can't get past her deep seeded fear to fully embrace them.