Rant: Annoying parents!!

You know, I've worked in customer service jobs for almost ten years (thanks God I'm out of one now!) and there is definately a difference in how people speak to one another. Some people are so polite, you know, say please and thank you... and you genuinely like helping them. But it has always rubbed me wrong when someone would come up to me a 'tell' me to do something with no please and no thank you. I mean, what's it gonna kill you? Good manners are seriously lacking in the world today... and really, they could make up for so much.


I didn't cause too much trouble as a kid (or maybe I was just better at not getting caught lol) but my sister was a hell-raiser... man, I could tell you about some fights she had with my parents. But you want to know what my niece's first word was? Please. And she still says please, she says thank you, and she even says 'scuse me. At two years old! Yeah, the kid gets into stuff... but she's two. She's testing her boundaries... and at least she's polite about it, lol.

---Rant over. Man... I've worked with people for too many years ;)

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

That's horrible Sarah. Perhaps the mother is over-compensating for the loss of dad but in the end what is the lesson that boy is learning? That when you are upset - you hit? When a woman upsets you - you hit her to get your way? That screaming and using bad words works? Those are sad lessons that young boy is learning at his mother's knee. It must be an awful situation for you to watch.

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Post #24 was just beautiful, btw, and I agree with every word!

Yes, this is really hard for me to deal with, but I really do like the lady even if I can't agree with her methods. She has asked me for advice once in a while, and I tell her what I would do. But there are just emotional issues going on there that only a professional would be able to address, really.

I'm laughing about your Gramma. That's great!

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Originally Posted by GirDance

His usual way of discipline though was that we'd be doing something that pissed off my mom (usually me) and he'd just call us over to help him with whatever project he was working on, or ask if we wanted to take the dog out... That worked so much better!! I've found kids with the proper amount of engagement and attention tend to be the ones who behave the best :)

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Yup, I agree!

Thanks Sarah. I hope that mom does reach out for some help for her and for the sake of the life lessons that little man is learning.

Another story about discipline (I'm in a very reflective mood today it seems...so thanks for listening).

My dad (grandfather) was a pretty strict guy....raised old fashioned on the farm where a switch was used and the "discipline" wasn't over till the switch broke...hence he never raised a hand to us...didn't have to...the man could holler loud enough to create deforestation in the yard LOL....anyways....

His typical response if he caught you sneaking in late (gawd help you for that!) was this...

"so you are late...this means to me girl that either...#1 you are not quite smart enough to read a clock so you shouldn't be out on your own yet...or #2 you are flat out breaking the rules on purpose!"

Now as a teenager you are NO way in hell going to say you are stupid and can't read time, nor are you willing to admit to open disobedience....the only answer any of us ever came up with to this was...

"ummm how long am I grounded?" LOL

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Originally Posted by Ginevive

I am not a fan of conservative parents who don't even let their kids choose things like what to wear, tec.

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They don't? :confused:

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

"ummm how long am I grounded?" LOL

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LOL Jo, it sounds like you were raised by very smart people, and never had a chance!

You don't know the half of it Sarah. Not only did I have them doing this stuff but of course my birth mother (their eldest daughter) and her younger three sibs who were mostly grown as well when I came around. If I managed to pull the wool over the parental eyes...the others would show up at some party I'd snuck off to and "suggest" I get my butt in the car and come home. Ack!

Man, you really were surrounded! But it sounds like a very loving home to grow up in, and you have great stories to tell for it. I'd say you were a lucky woman :D

It was "interesting" to say the least Sarah. Being an adoptee inside your own maternal family can be a tad confusing for a young kid but eventually you work out who is who and how you relate to them all (both emotionally and genetically). :)

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Originally Posted by nathanledet

well back in the day people could straighten their kids out...i know...

now days...kids have child protective services on speed dial of the cell phone their parents are paying for........ :confuzd:

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I'm definitely old school! I told my kids that I brought them into this world, if need be I can take them out. From how well they turned out they must have been listening. :P I can't stand to see children who refuse to listen, strike their parents and scream at them.