Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
I have always hated dress codes at dances or schools but if there is not some sort of code kids nowdays would wear stuff that would freak even me out and I am pretty darn open minded and all for the whole freedom of expression thing.
I think as along as bellys on girls aren't showing and no foul or suggestive shirts etc. then people who have decent clean clothes should be able to attend.
It's 5-8 graders not a prom and having very set rules for semi formal attire is ostracizing some children who may not have that type of attire. Sure it's easy to say that type of clothing is easy to get but I am willing to bet some childrens family just doesn't have that extra $$ to spend.
There kids for heavens sake. Let'em go and have fun. The dress up rule is for the adults sake not the kids
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by jotay
I have always hated dress codes at dances or schools but if there is not some sort of code kids nowdays would wear stuff that would freak even me out and I am pretty darn open minded and all for the whole freedom of expression thing.
I think as along as bellys on girls aren't showing and no foul or suggestive shirts etc. then people who have decent clean clothes should be able to attend.
It's 5-8 graders not a prom and having very set rules for semi formal attire is ostracizing some children who may not have that type of attire. Sure it's easy to say that type of clothing is easy to get but I am willing to bet some childrens family just doesn't have that extra $$ to spend.
There kids for heavens sake. Let'em go and have fun. The dress up rule is for the adults sake not the kids
Jotay thanks for your input here :) .I know some may think i am griping about this because my kid does not have these "proper clothes" to be able to attend this dance.I assure you that is not the case here.I am really thinking of my daughters freinds that do not have these "acceptable clothes".It is almost like the school is saying only the kids that have all A's can attend the dance.They allready had a x-mas dance and they had no problems with unacceptable clothes being worn then.Everyone wore nice clothes and not skimpy clothes like they do during normal school hours.
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by jotay
It's 5-8 graders not a prom and having very set rules for semi formal attire is ostracizing some children who may not have that type of attire. Sure it's easy to say that type of clothing is easy to get but I am willing to bet some childrens family just doesn't have that extra $$ to spend.
There kids for heavens sake. Let'em go and have fun. The dress up rule is for the adults sake not the kids
same thing i was talking about.
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by elevatethis
So, they are trying to have a semi-formal dance...
I'm not sure what you're saying...do you think there's anything wrong with that?
My friends daughter is going to such a school. Her problem is they spent a lot of money on a strapless gown and were not informed of the "no strapless dresses" till 1 week before the dance. Now they have to scramble to get another dress. Besides the point they spent time hunting for this dress and the price they paid for it. Schools need to get ALL rules up front beforehand. She is hoping she will be able to return the first dress.
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
Pfft. What next? No alcohol? :D
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
Honestly if the school puts on the dance, then they get to make the rules. A set of 'dress pants and a blouse' or a dress with straps isn't very expensive, especially if you get them from thrift stores or goodwill. That's what I did growing up, and what I continue to do. Most all kids seem to have a decent outfit, for church or whatever.
It seems to me like they wanted to prevent the dance from turning into either a social afterschool gathering, or into hooker/gangsta city. At any rate, you avoid having some kids show up underdressed while others are overdressed by having a dress code. It's not such a huge deal honestly. Don't like the dress code, then don't attend/let your kids attend.
Wolfy
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by wolfy-hound
Honestly if the school puts on the dance, then they get to make the rules. A set of 'dress pants and a blouse' or a dress with straps isn't very expensive, especially if you get them from thrift stores or goodwill. That's what I did growing up, and what I continue to do. Most all kids seem to have a decent outfit, for church or whatever.
It seems to me like they wanted to prevent the dance from turning into either a social afterschool gathering, or into hooker/gangsta city. At any rate, you avoid having some kids show up underdressed while others are overdressed by having a dress code. It's not such a huge deal honestly. Don't like the dress code, then don't attend/let your kids attend.
Wolfy
That's good if your talking middle or high school, but we are talking children that are 9-12 year olds. I don't think the hooker/gangsta really applies. If this is a private school than I am all for it but a public school, well with all the PC rules public schools have so as to not offend this one or that one , then I don't think such a rule is fitting or in line w/ their " let no one feel different or left out "
But your point on if you don't like it stay home is a good one and if the dance was not a success then I am sure they would get the message that the majority didn't approve.
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
When you see 5 year olds wearing knee high boots and fishnets, you probaly figure its time to treat all them the same. With the Bratz dolls, the Britney generation and all the ideas put into their heads, even 4th graders will dress incorrectly for their age.
But mainly, whoever puts on the dance gets to say how the participants dress. I like that the girls get the choice of pants.
Wolfy
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by wolfy-hound
When you see 5 year olds wearing knee high boots and fishnets, you probaly figure its time to treat all them the same. With the Bratz dolls, the Britney generation and all the ideas put into their heads, even 4th graders will dress incorrectly for their age.
But mainly, whoever puts on the dance gets to say how the participants dress. I like that the girls get the choice of pants.
Wolfy
You know that is a darn shame! I am glad I had a son who's biggest deal is to wear sports jerseys. If a 4th grade girl is dressing like that someone needs to check out the parents.
Just seems strange a public school would state such a dress code. I know the public school systems here in the Metro DC area never do or say anything that might offend anyone. I can only guess how that dress code would go over around here.
Re: Dance at school has "dress code"
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Originally Posted by jotay
You know that is a darn shame! I am glad I had a son who's biggest deal is to wear sports jerseys. If a 4th grade girl is dressing like that someone needs to check out the parents.
Just seems strange a public school would state such a dress code. I know the public school systems here in the Metro DC area never do or say anything that might offend anyone. I can only guess how that dress code would go over around here.
Well so far its going to be the principil and the cleanup crew at this one lol.Its funny because everyone feels that the forced rules at the last moments are unfair and this is from the kids not the parents.So i guess the kids have made thier choice and not go period.
