Wife dilemma...

I agree with just about everyone. My fiance and I chose pets and freedom over having kids, so I won't have the same issue. But several of the women I work with have gotten pregnant over the last few months and I gotta say, pregnancy is rough and hormones make all kinds of things into big deals, but that's what you have to deal with if you want a family. Put aside what you want and try and keep HER calm/comfortable/and as much as possible stress free, focus on what SHE needs.

Also, how would she react knowing your asking virtual strangers for advice on your new marriage?.....I'd be going out a buying a crap-ton of chocolate and flowers and apologizing for even mentioning the word snake - chocolate makes all things better

Marriage is cooperating, love, friendship, agreements (going to be much more than just about snakes), mutual respect and understanding. Since you and your wife made that agreement, stick to it. You're not "rolling over", you are respecting your life partner's agreement with you, that you agreed to. She is allowing you to get more snakes after the baby is born too- like a previous poster said, that's already a win!

This is about being able to respect your agreements as a couple, not really about a snake. Also, she is pregnant right now? Pregnancy already feels terrible for the first few months.

Also, "free snake, need to get rid of ASAP" is fishy in itself. Even just thinking about your hobby and not your wife, I'd wait it out and get a better snake that fits your future BP plans.

And yeah, if I found out as a newly wed who is pregnant that my husband is going on online forums asking strangers whether he should choose a free snake or our agreement, I think I might have made a terrible decision. LOL

I bet this new snake will be amazing...destined to become the jewel of your collection. Karma put this animal in your path.

As most have said, your agreement between your wife is far more important than obtaining a free snake likely to rack up vet bills. Focus on her and the new arrival for the time being.

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Originally Posted by Slim

I bet this new snake will be amazing...destined to become the jewel of your collection. Karma put this animal in your path.

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Lol you are just trying to get him in trouble.

I's suggest, in the circumstances, not irritating your wife.

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Originally Posted by Rob

Lol you are just trying to get him in trouble.

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That's what friends are for :D

OK, let me help you out, please send me the link to this free snake.

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Let me see, another snake or a wife... Tough decision!!!

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You could always find a friend to take the snake for you and then when the time is right you'll have your snake!!!!

Everyone on this forum has a different kind of marriage than I do, I just can't believe that their wives are sticking their noses into their husbands hobbies to the point that they are limiting what they can get. I don't tell my wife she can or can't have anything that she is interested in. She loves to travel, I just let her go to the middle east by herself because it was her dream, not mine. She lets me have as many snakes and rats and mice as I want.

Here's another plan: Figure out how you can make money with your snakes by breeding them or breeding a few rodents and selling them. That way the more you have in your snake hobby the more money you will make to support the family. All of my hobbies either break even or make a little money, that's a huge plus with my wife! If your hobby drains the bank account even a little that can cause a huge stress on a wife, I've seen it many times.

Also, at the end of the day before you do any of your snake business spend some time with your wife first to let her know that she is the priority. Even a half hour just sitting down and spending time talking is huge. Works for me!

Here's the problem, you are thinking this is some sort of business deal. It's not!! Their are no "loop holes" you have an agreement, and that agreement covers all the bases.

All you got in this world is your word and your balls don't brake either of them. I have been with my wife 17 years and there will be battles you will have to fight like a salmon swimming up stream, but not keeping your word should never be one of them. You wheal before you deal but once the deal is done, a deal is a deal. Let this one pass bro it aint worth it. It may be free but its gonna cost you your integrity