Ex wife not wanting me to see my son because of her fear of snakes

If your ex were to file papers with the Court stating that you have constrictors capable of killing your son and she is fearful of him going to your home, all it would take would be a Judge that has no real knowledge of snakes that gets info about them from television and you could easily end up with a Court order for you to have all visits with your son away from your home.
Also, IMO you would be making a terrible mistake in inviting State investigators into your home, whose only function is to look for and find things that are wrong with a home environment.
You better tiptoe around this issue.

If she does go that road, then they will most likely do a visit after having the ex fill their heads with idea's about all these evil scary animals her son is being forced to be around. I'm saying be proactive about it, go to dcs and have a talk with them, put their minds at ease about being around the animals, then arrange a time for them to see things themselves when you will be expecting them. The flip side to that, is if they decide to make a visit on their own, you get no notice until they're knocking on the door and it can happen at any time of the day or night. A video may help some, but the ex and her lawyer could easily say that he was forced to hold them and put on an act for the camera...testimony from dcs workers I don't doubt would carry a lot more weight to it and eliminate the "he made him act that way on camera" argument.

I would still follow the advice of your own lawyer before that of anyone on the internet, myself included. :)

I can't tell you how much, on a daily basis, people ask me if I'm going to get rid of my pythons after having children. Society's view on snakes and children is terrible. Its like they think that you're leaving your kid in the enclosure with your pythons while they are hungry. Everyone thinks that your four foot long ball python is going to strangle and eat your newborn. *rolls eyes* It's called responsibility. Unfortunately, your collection is huge. This is only unfortunate because of society's view on snakes. It looks bad to people who are not educated and familiar with reptiles and reptile care. try and educate them. make them know that you are doing everything in your power to reduce the risk of harm coming to your child.

You need to contact your lawyer and find out first of all if she is able to use the "he scared" defence to keep your son from coming to visit you.

As far a proving that your home is safe for children to be there with all the snakes I suggest that you again you talk to your lawyer, they may suggest that you have a safe home inspection with not only DCF but also the States Wildlife officer (they have the right letters behind their name to give the answers the DCF investigator may ask).

Until there is a determination by the courts I would not change anything connected to the visitation of your son. While he is in your care some home videos both with and without the animals would be great if he gets use to you filming him without the animals he will not think twice about it when you do so with the animal.

Some ex's have a way of talking to children and making them think things that they would not on their own.

Ok there are my 2-1/2 cents as a mom