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Originally Posted by Skiploder

Yep guys are sexual creatures. Are we now saying that Romeo here deserves some sort of break because he tried to hide it from her? Or does he deserve some sort of break because some some asses are just to tempting to not put a tap on - even if it means breaking the heart and destroying the trust of someone who loves you? Bull crap.

When you stop thinking about yourself and start having empathy for someone you love - like a wife or a girlfriend - the very idea of humiliating and hurting them by banging someone else becomes unthinkable.

If the OPs fiance is so shallow and so self absorbed that he can't rank her feelings and her self esteem above his own sexual desires, than that piece of crap deserves to be kicked to the curb.

There should be no piece of a$$ so tempting that it should cause you to lie and cheat to someone you love.

Period.

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This. You are worth more than this guy! No one deserves to be cheated on and there are no excuses for it.

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Originally Posted by stickyalvinroll

i think he loves you. guys are very sexual creatures. he went out of his way for you not to find out. so give him another chance. there's a lot of temptations out there. some are just too tempting.

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This ^^ bunch of crap. Move on. You are better than that.

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Originally Posted by DrDooLittle

This ^^ bunch of crap. Move on. You are better than that.

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If you had posted this yesterday I would have pegged you as one heck of a sensitive dude. I would have been nicely surprised.

But now that I know a married mommy posted it.....................it just isn't the same.

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Originally Posted by stickyalvinroll

i think he loves you. guys are very sexual creatures. he went out of his way for you not to find out. so give him another chance. there's a lot of temptations out there. some are just too tempting.

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And you, my friend, are the reason why nice guys get a bad rap with the jerks. It's called self control and respect, it will annihilate any "temptations". A real frickin man knows this. Have a temptation? Remove it. Simple as that.

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Originally Posted by Skiploder

If you had posted this yesterday I would have pegged you as one heck of a sensitive dude. I would have been nicely surprised.

But now that I know a married mommy posted it.....................it just isn't the same.

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Meh, been down that road before, they simply aren't worth it. There IS somebody better out there, keep looking. Maybe I am just a bull headed, but I don't put up with crap.

My husband and a couple co workers were talking about their wives, because one guy had to go home, In the middle of the work day, because his wife couldn't handle their 3 children. He came home and told me about that and I couldn't even believe it. How can you not handle your children, and need your husband to leave work, and come home? He said that, yeah, him and his friend/coworker were talking, and said they would take their strong, independent, stubborn, (sometimes annoying :p) wives that could take care of themselves, and get things done, over a needy whiney one, any day!

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I used to be a cheater, but I'm not sure that I could have stayed with the person that I cheated on and not end up doing it again. I think that once a cheater changes they need a new "environment", i.e. partner, in order to not continue their behavior. That said, it is possible to stop with the same person but it may take a break and a new mindset for him.

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Originally Posted by melodyb1985

none of them are in stable relationships

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I haven't read the rest of the posts in the thread, but this jumped out at me. You're predicating your question on the fact that you ARE in a stable relationship.

You are NOT.

A stable relationship doesn't have this problem. Not being in a stable relationship, do you have the same investment that you would if it were a stable relationship or have you been sold a bill of goods?

Perspective. How much do you REALLY want to see? How gullible, or not, are you?

Cheaters change sometimes.

Sometimes cheaters don't change.

But the fact that he's broken your trust, that needs some consideration. Is it the only time? Will it BE the only time?

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Originally Posted by wilomn

Cheaters change sometimes.

Sometimes cheaters don't change.

But the fact that he's broken your trust, that needs some consideration. Is it the only time? Will it BE the only time?

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I agree with the wise one.

Honestly,some relationships can survive infidelity (or any severe breach of trust). Some can not.
You need to decide if your relationship with this man can survive a breach of trust such as this one. You need to decide if you would ever be able to forgive him, and if you would be able to let him build trust back up.

Will you ever be able to let this go? Will you hold it against him and use it against him if you get into fights?

Only you can (and should) be able to decide these things for yourself.

Good luck.

IMO this guy has a serious character flaw. There is no way you could ever trust this guy again. Period... If you can't trust this jerk to keep it in his pants do you think you can trust him when it really counts. Especially when the chips are down. Doubt it. This kinda thing shows you what this cone head is made of. Do yourself a favor and dump this scumbag before he hurts you again.:mad:

There is one thing all of us, readers, posters, all of us should remember.

We have ONE side of a story here that we have no proof to back up. It sounds like it's true, but I don't know this girl. I've given my opinion, and am in no way excusing the guy, if there is one, but I thought I saw a guy carrying a cross a while back and I'd swear I caught a whiff of kerosene a bit ago and damned if my sheets didn't go missing of the line this afternoon...

Prove guilt FIRST

THEN crucify.

The other way can lead to messy explanations and long rambling speeches about mob mentalities and how video games desensitize today's youth to violence.

Try to remember than in crowd situations or when the pilings on seem more than usually one-sided.