Is this wrong?

Haha thanks. At least I have a new bp! New stuff always helps, specially a new bp!


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I was going to post something all supportive, encouraging and some advice from my horrible past relationship with a night-shift worker (Oh yeah, I went clingy! But I was younger...) My current boyfriend does shift work too. 10-12 hour shifts, nights and weekends. To say that it takes a special girl and a special relationship to understand that is right on. It does take a lot of trust and confidence to not see your partner for huge gaps of time. And when my man comes home, yep, he does need some down time. He's foreman, so he deals with drama and politics all day. Last thing he needs is me dishing him out the same petty BS :gj: So instead, while he has his quiet time, I make dinner and do my own thing. Works out well. I don't push him, he doesn't feel smothered, and we get to spend our time together without picking fights.

But, sounds to me like this girl of yours was pulling the whole: "Fine! You don't want to spend time with me, then I don't want to spend time with you!" routine. Unfortunately, she only did that because she actually -wants- to spend time with you, and was 'punishing' you for not chosing her. Yes, women are complicated, but that's exactly what she was doing. Removing herself from you, taking away your 'reward' of spending time with her. And then getting mad when you didn't tell her how much you need her, need to spend time with her, admit you made a wrong choice, blah blah blah.

Truth is, you need a lady, not a girl. You need a woman that's going to be confident with her own hobbies, comfortable with your line of work, willing to offer resolutions to things that are bothering her and be able to communicate when she feels she needs to. Through that, you can find that balance of give and take, as well as understanding.

I'll be honest: Sounds like you're better off without this one. She needs to do some growing up, and now she has a chance to realize that.

It's well worth the wait to find that right person that understands your life. Once you find them, you'll realize how on earth you managed to put up with everyone else :rofl: