Twenty years old and I still can't talk to girls....fml

I used to be like that, Then College happened. And well I walked up to every girl i seen on campus and parties.

Some were nice, others not so nice but the majority wont be rude directly to your face but give you hints for you to up and walk away.

I could care less what people think of me especially women, Ill talk to them and if they show no interest i move on and done.

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Originally Posted by FkNdRk

Being the flirtatious sort I never had much of a problem. Just be confident, be yourself and being humorous never hurts. I once jokingly told a girl that I was gonna marry her and she was going to have my babies after just meeting her. It works with my personality, I wouldnt recommend you say that though, granted I did end up marrying her and she has had two of my children thus far. I am pyschic I suppose.

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lmao. Thats really funny actually!

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Originally Posted by FkNdRk

I once jokingly told a girl that I was gonna marry her and she was going to have my babies after just meeting her.

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:O That's exactly how my twins ended up being born :O

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Originally Posted by evan385

Any time I want to talk to a pretty girl

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That's your first problem right there. Stop thinking about looks first. Is it easy to talk to girls you're not immediately going 'ga-ga' over?

I highly recommend OK Cupid. I don't know any guys who use it but many girls who do. It seems to be a popular dating tool, and since some ridiculous % of relationships these days start online, you might as well take advantage of it. If I understand things correctly, you basically start to get to know people via text/IMs/wall posts, all of whom are interested in dating. I'm lucky enough to be one of the few these days who is in a long term relationship (almost 6 and a half years!) that started as a friendship in college, the good old way of doing it :P

You'll probably be a little awkward at first, but practice makes perfect. Seriously though, offer to take a few girls out bowling and getting a few sodas and onion rings is a great way to start dating in a low-pressure situation.. or anything else similar, a fun and easy activity. Save the dinner/movie dates for later, start with plain old fun.

If you're in college and have the choice, opt to live on a co-ed floor. Making friends with girls you have no specific intention of dating is important if you've never done so in your life. I'm still surprised at how segregated by sex much of our society is these days, particularly in youth.

Getting over the 'jitters' for anything in life is usually only done by exposure.

An addendum:

I have zero issues talking to any women these days partly because I've been in the same stable and loving relationship for over 6 years, and most of all.. the only friends I hang out with anymore are women :rolleye2:

Somehow all the guys I knew in college up and left the great state of Minnesota, and all my close female friends ended up staying.

It's all about exposure, the comfort will come in time.

Dont think about it dude, its just a girl. Dont force yourself to go talk to a girl because it will probably be awkward. When the right moment comes along it will just happen. Meanwhile dont think about it so much.

I am no expert but i do have 6 older sisters. there were always girls around when i was growing up so i never had trouble talking to girls. I've had my fair share of rejection. probably more than my fair share. The best "pick up line", in my opinion, is "Hi, my name is _____."
I would say most importantly though would be dont try to be someone youre not. Now get out there and get you some! :cool:

Confidence bro.

Striking out is good. It's practice and most the girls that just shoot you down off the bat aren't worth your time anyways.

I've dated probably 100 different girls and struck out probably close to just as much.

Just start talking about things you're interested in and find out her interests and if she shares some of those common interests you'll be surprised at how easy it is to talk to her. Even if you don't end up dating the girl you'll have a good in because likely she'll have friends too and maybe she'll have a friend that's perfect for you!

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Originally Posted by cecilbturtle

The best "pick up line", in my opinion, is "Hi, my name is _____."

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THIS!^

I honestly have a really weird method for it. I currently have a girlfriend, but when I was single I wasn't super confident either. So what I would do is talk to them and pretend that I had a girlfriend. Because for me when I saw them as just someone I was trying to be friendly to it wasn't so scary.

Im the same way actually I am very confident online lol but I am super shy. Guys are always trying to talk to me but I never know what to do so I walk away....I am a loner lol