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Originally Posted by wilomn

I suppose you're ASSuming that no one who has bothered to answer this post bother or was able to take that into consideration.

Ahhh, if ONLY we were all as smart as you make yourself out to be. What a JOY the world then would be.

The advice she's been given has been pretty good. She's young and if I recall correctly doesn't have much family to fall back on. So we're it for now.

IF she's lying or omitting, she'll learn the folly of that as she proceeds with the move. IF she's not, then hopefully she'll find what she needs here.

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Thank you I took everyones advice and left him today, broke off the engagement, and I havent said a word to him since this morning but Im glad everyone can help here because you are right my family is crap they dont help with a single thing....its breaking my heart right now completely but I just want to thank everyone Im so confused right now but it was good advice

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Originally Posted by python_addict

Thank you I took everyones advice and left him today, broke off the engagement, and I havent said a word to him since this morning but Im glad everyone can help here because you are right my family is crap they dont help with a single thing....its breaking my heart right now completely but I just want to thank everyone Im so confused right now but it was good advice

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It may be hard now, but I believe you did the right thing. You will hopefully find someone who appreciates your interests! You should never have to taylor your life to fit someone elses mold. We are all here if/when you need us! Be strong! :)

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Originally Posted by DemmBalls

Be strong! :)

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thanks but thats extremely hard to do lol

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Originally Posted by python_addict

thanks but thats extremely hard to do lol

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If you need to talk/rant/cry feel free to message me. I can give you my # or email. I sympathize fully, and want you to know that even though you don't really know me nor I you, I'm here for you if you need :)

Better to break up now and still have your snakes than break up a year down the road and have nothing :gj:

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If you need to talk/rant/cry feel free to message me. I can give you my # or email. I sympathize fully, and want you to know that even though you don't really know me nor I you, I'm here for you if you need :)

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Wow thank you! so much you dont even know :) even just saying that made it a little better thank you soo soo much and ill be sure to message you when I need :)

There are a LOT of good guys out there who share your interests. Go to any reptile show and you'll see them. The thing is, many of the young ones, the ones close to you in age, don't know yet that they are good guys. They're still stuck being dorks and geeks and haven't "come into their growth" (in more ways than one and no, NOT that one) yet.

It's hard to make life changing decisions especially when you so little life experience. Think twice move once. You're well able to do the intellectual part, you know that, and you can do the rest, the physical part, actually moving and moving on with some hard work, maybe a few tears, but secure you've done the best thing for you. That's important. Don't forget you need to take care of you first.

You go girl:D Your snake babies are worth the loss, you'll see. Maybe you should celebrate by getting a new one!

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Originally Posted by Melissuhhh

You go girl:D Your snake babies are worth the loss, you'll see. Maybe you should celebrate by getting a new one!

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Im getting new new girls to breed this year :D lol this weekend hopefully

(Becky of Amon Ra)
I just saw this and didn't get a chance to give you advice on your situation. I however can tell you that I've been there and I know how it feels. I know that your thinking " I'll give him another chance" or how much you miss him and asking yourself " what if I was wrong"
I was with a guy who controlled EVERYTHING I did. I gave up my friends and never saw my family. I was in
4-H and waisted my parents time and money they spent on the animals, and that's one thing I regret most. Im by no means the best but I was good at showing and I won first place and grand champions and best of the county. I went to the huge NAILE show in ky. My last two years of 4H I was so lol devoted to that €|+{€{+ I just didnt spend any time with my animals. The one thing I loved I threw away. I flushed away my chances of winning a few different awards you can only get your final year of 4H. In fact I didnt even go to the fair my last year. Because of him. His controlling way turned to abuse. Despite my friends telling me what I couldn't see I stayed. It wasn't until he really did a number on me that I realized I was a dumb ^$$.
Just make sure you made this choice because you wanted it and not because people here said to. We don't want you hating us because you left him over what we said. Just know that will can and will find a guy that loves snakes as much as you do. I know I did lol. Once you find someone who shares your hobby it's awesome. Not to mention bad in a way because he will be right there with you saying " sure we can afford that pied and that mystic" " you know you want it" or Scott's most recent excuse for spending a bunch of money we really didnt have on a pewter... " but I know you've been wanting one" lol.
Just hang in there. It will get easier.