Please help. :(

Boundaries Kevin Boundaries, her mother gave in because it was easier to give her her way.

My 3 year old grandson, would throw a tatrum, whining crying etc. then his mother would give in to shut him up, after seeing this a time or two, I flipped on her! I told her that if she continued with this crap, it would only get worse! and when he became a teenager she would have hell to pay. He didn't display this behavior while in my care, or at school.
It is a learned behavior.

Maybe you should be honest with yourself and sit down and think.

How would I feel if we weren't together? (Not the break up, but in life)
How would I feel, if we broke up today?
How would I feel a week from now?
A month from now?
What could I do without her that I couldn't do with her?
Could I get number to that cute girl that sits next to me in class?:D

Cutting herself with a razor is crazyness and I wouldn't want to be around a person like that NOR have children with a person like that!


I hate girls you guys... I really do.

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Originally Posted by aldebono

Maybe you should be honest with yourself and sit down and think.

How would I feel if we weren't together? (Not the break up, but in life)
How would I feel, if we broke up today?
How would I feel a week from now?
A month from now?
What could I do without her that I couldn't do with her?
Could I get number to that cute girl that sits next to me in class?:D

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OH come on!!
He doesn't want to break up, he needs help coping. I belive she can change her behavior, but that means Kevin will have to change his, in order to accomplish this.

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Originally Posted by kevinb

I have thought about having a break from it all, but last time I tried that she grabed a razor and starting cutting her self and saying she would kill herself if I left. That's not why I'm with her. I'm with her because she undersrands me and loves me for me and I love her too. But it really scares me of the what ifs.

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She wouldn't kill herself, you know why? Because even if she cut herself bad enough you'd call the police/fire department, they'd transfer her and then she'd be held for a mandatory psych eval. It's called a section 12, and I think you should tell her mom to contact her primary care physician and have her ask about a "section 12"...it's much needed IMO.

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I have thought about having a break from it all, but last time I tried that she grabed a razor and starting cutting her self and saying she would kill herself if I left. That's not why I'm with her. I'm with her because she undersrands me and loves me for me and I love her too. But it really scares me of the what ifs.

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Once again, bratty bratty behavior, what does her mother say about all this, her behavior etc.?

OMG, I can't tell you all the red flags I see here. Please, please, please get away from her. You cannot let her mental illness jeopardize your mental health. This is so much more than attention seeking behavior. People who are cutters are very seriously ill. From what you've described, I certainly see Borderline Personality Disorder. Please look it up. This is nothing to joke with, and nothing that you can help her with. I can't stress to you how serious the situation is.

This is seriously a giant fuster cluck...YOU REALLY DON'T NEED TO BE DEALING WITH THIS. You have your own problems and you're only compounding them by keeping her around. I'm sure this situation doesn't put a smile on your face. And not to undermine your relationship but you've spent a year on this relationship and it's crap? There is no future with this person. Get out now.

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Originally Posted by llovelace

OH come on!!
He doesn't want to break up, he needs help coping. I belive she can change her behavior, but that means Kevin will have to change his, in order to accomplish this.

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Gotta think about your happiness first sometimes! And he said he though about breaking it off first. It was just food for thought. Besides, he may have a crush on that girl next to him and class and want her number...

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Originally Posted by aldebono

Besides, he may have a crush on that girl next to him and class and want her number...

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For some reason, he doesn't really strike me as the kind of guy to jump into something else after a long term relationship with a crazy person (even if it is a "friend with benefits" sort of situation). Being single for a while isn't all bad ya know. ;)