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Its definately not just for the baby. My older daughters mom and i tried that. Doesnt work.
I guess its just her and i have the same past. Being abandoned and adopted, so i see her fears. And having been cheated on by every other girl, im getting good at seeing the truth. I was just brutally blindsided by what she had said.
If i could afford counseling i would go. For myself as well as my relationship. But the opinions and advice here is helping me alot with what i should do. Who knew you could get everything on a ball python forum!
Lol so, anyone got extra cash or snakes lyin around?? Joking.
Re: Any therapists/counselors here??
My biggest worry was she did it to gauge your reaction. If you still were willing to accept her after she cheated, well maybe it's safe to do it in the future without losing you.
I also wouldn't stay in a relationship because of a child. As was mentioned, you can be a great parent anyways. Many people including myself are the product of divorsed parents and arn't any worse for the wear. To a kid it just means extra Christmas and Birthday present from new family members! =P That, and if it happens when the kid is young, then they will never remember anything different, it will feel natural.
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No... She wont think its safe. I was pretty pissed.
Kept my cool, but ended up telling her it was over. Till she showed it was all a test
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I personally can't stand it in a relationship when someone feels that they need the other person to pass some sort of "test". What's that all about? I've been in relationships like that, and left them too. I don't have time for games. Either you trust me and my love for you, or you don't. I am also adopted.
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rabernet
I personally can't stand it in a relationship when someone feels that they need the other person to pass some sort of "test". What's that all about? I've been in relationships like that, and left them too. I don't have time for games. Either you trust me and my love for you, or you don't. I am also adopted.
I agree.
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STEW
Also, Using a child to stay in a relationship is the worst advice ever. You can be a great parent either way. Sometimes its more healthy for the child when the parents are not together.
My mom divorced my dad 5 years ago and she's doing great, and so is he. They are both great parents, even though they can sometimes get me a little steamed, I love them to death and would never choose one over the other. I do actually like it better that they are divorced (for certain reasons), and I do see both of them each week (go to my dad's on Sunday and come home from school on Tuesday then stay with my mom until Sunday again).
