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Originally Posted by Fraido

Welcome to my life! Lmao That's just the way she is, everything she says is right, everything I say is wrong. She's always rude, and none of that is ever going to change, sadly. Nothin' hormonal about it!

You know what's even more annoying?! Yelling at me and being rude as all heck and then 30 seconds later talking to me like it's all good! URGH. So she hauls us over to the hospital at 11pm because she's all concerned that it's some toxic chemical that's causing her to be unable to taste and only smell that nasty smell, we were there until three just for the doctor to say exactly what I expected! Nothing he can do because she is otherwise healthy.. he even frickin tested to make sure she wasn't going looney by asking her to tell him her name, the date and where she was. Sheesh -_- Meanwhile she was expecting them to run all these tests, like, YOU'RE FINE WOMAN.

The neighbours are pretty gross when it comes to smells, but whatever she is smelling I do not smell all that often. Good Lord, give me strength!

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Hate to say it but my life and my relationship with my mom improved a tremendous amount after I didn't live with her :rolleyes:...glad the doctor didn't give in to her hypochondria...wow kind of scary he actually thought she was losing it...has she always been preoccupied by thinking things are wrong? I say live in the moment! If something bad is going to happen or you breath in toxins or whatever you can't do much to stop it so you might as well enjoy life while you're healthy! Tell her to carry some cinnamon or lavender in her pocket to mask the smells.

Once upon a time we had a dead ferret in our small chest freezer (living in an apartment, waiting for a burial opportunity), wrapped up in plastic. When my stepmother came to visit we made sure anything we might want was in the freezer portion of the refrigerator/freezer, and piled all the cast-iron cookware on top of the ferret-freezer.

And now the big freezer has a whole shelf of rats, mice, and chicks, and the get thawed in the refrigerator.

Which is probably a long-winded way of saying that my perspective of what's normal/reasonable to find in the freezer might be a liiiiiittle bit warped. [emoji39]


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Originally Posted by Snoopyslim

Hate to say it but my life and my relationship with my mom improved a tremendous amount after I didn't live with her :rolleyes:...glad the doctor didn't give in to her hypochondria...wow kind of scary he actually thought she was losing it...has she always been preoccupied by thinking things are wrong? I say live in the moment! If something bad is going to happen or you breath in toxins or whatever you can't do much to stop it so you might as well enjoy life while you're healthy! Tell her to carry some cinnamon or lavender in her pocket to mask the smells.

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I didn't live with her for the last 4 years, zero improvements. She's just an overall mean person who sees me as someone incapable of understanding anything, actually she does that with everybody she feels comfortable showing her true colours around. Say something against what she thinks, you're in the wrong. Go as far to actually say she is wrong, she will raise her voice and tell you, "You're not understanding what I'm saying!" Doesn't matter what the topic is, she always seems to think she knows more about it. *rolls eyes* "I don't know why I bother," she says! Me too... v.v

Don't get me started on how I can't accidentally do something wrong, she'll flip crap.. knocked over a potted plant OUTSIDE and tried to put it back together decently, but nothing's ever good enough for her! God, she noticed the plant and spewed about how she can't have nice thing and doesn't know why she even tries and that the plant is probably dead. Ohhhh my gooosshh. That plant is perfectly fine, by the way. ;)

On the plus side, I have succeeded in my goal of getting her to let me take my dog which has been living in a little apartment with my dad with many other animals and not getting the attention and time she needs! Our two week trial begins Monday, though being her I probably won't do a good enough job regardless of how hard I try, but we'll see. Our little place might not be that big, but it's better than that apartment and she'll have a yard (albeit PUNY) and I can properly exercise her and brush her and I'm SO EXCITED.

Starting to think this thread should be called "Fraido's Official Life Thread." Lol

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Originally Posted by Prognathodon

Once upon a time we had a dead ferret in our small chest freezer (living in an apartment, waiting for a burial opportunity), wrapped up in plastic. When my stepmother came to visit we made sure anything we might want was in the freezer portion of the refrigerator/freezer, and piled all the cast-iron cookware on top of the ferret-freezer.

And now the big freezer has a whole shelf of rats, mice, and chicks, and the get thawed in the refrigerator.

Which is probably a long-winded way of saying that my perspective of what's normal/reasonable to find in the freezer might be a liiiiiittle bit warped. [emoji39]


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Lol, we probably have similar perspectives. ;)

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Originally Posted by KaylaEliuk

I was thinking her problems with her nose may be hormonal. You know how when a person is pergnant they can smell everything, and a lot of things taste off?
Notsuggesting that she is pregnant of course! Just thinking that a hormonal imbalance could maybe cause it.
She should try seeing her GP and calmly talking about her symptoms, but she sounds like she won't listen if you suggest it.

Good grief that must suck.

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Nope, she probably wouldn't listen at all! I know what she's smelling, it was strong not this past Monday but the one before, it was a really nasty smell. I thought it smelled similar to spoiled milk, but if I tell her that she gets mad and shrugs me off because that's not what it smells like to her. Like, I can't really help that it smells like that to me?! Regardless, I haven't really smelt it at all since a couple days after we first smelled it. If I'm out side for long enough I will get the occasional wiff, but not really.

There has been many nasty smells from there, it's mostly just fish because they cook it a lot. All she can do is complain to the landlord and see where it goes, I feel fine, my boyfriend feels fine, so it's her with the issue. She's going to bring it up with our family doctor when she has her appointment next week, hopefully she'll get some answers and stop complaining about it all the time. She's not even home tonight because she wants to see if being away from the smell helps.. peace and quiet for me!

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Originally Posted by Fraido

I didn't live with her for the last 4 years, zero improvements. She's just an overall mean person who sees me as someone incapable of understanding anything, actually she does that with everybody she feels comfortable showing her true colours around. Say something against what she thinks, you're in the wrong. Go as far to actually say she is wrong, she will raise her voice and tell you, "You're not understanding what I'm saying!" Doesn't matter what the topic is, she always seems to think she knows more about it. *rolls eyes* "I don't know why I bother," she says! Me too... v.v

Don't get me started on how I can't accidentally do something wrong, she'll flip crap.. knocked over a potted plant OUTSIDE and tried to put it back together decently, but nothing's ever good enough for her! God, she noticed the plant and spewed about how she can't have nice thing and doesn't know why she even tries and that the plant is probably dead. Ohhhh my gooosshh. That plant is perfectly fine, by the way. ;)

On the plus side, I have succeeded in my goal of getting her to let me take my dog which has been living in a little apartment with my dad with many other animals and not getting the attention and time she needs! Our two week trial begins Monday, though being her I probably won't do a good enough job regardless of how hard I try, but we'll see. Our little place might not be that big, but it's better than that apartment and she'll have a yard (albeit PUNY) and I can properly exercise her and brush her and I'm SO EXCITED.

Starting to think this thread should be called "Fraido's Official Life Thread." Lol

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Some people just can't be pleased unfortunately.

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Originally Posted by aahmn

Lots of vets take Care Credit now. That is now the payment plan people get - 6 months interest free. Just where I work I know we've had to eat a lot of bills of people that promised to pay back when we did do regular payment plans. There are very high costs associated with running a clinic, and it sucks, but without those things being paid, there's no more service. Vets can't afford to repeatedly eat those costs.

For exams, you pay for the doctor's time and knowledge. Veterinarians by far graduate with the highest debt to income ratio in all medical fields. That education isn't cheap, and neither are the enormous piles of debt they graduate with. They pay the same or more per credit as someone in med school, have to learn multiple species, yet their services are not considered to be worth nearly as much. For comparison, average billing charges for mechanics are close to $100/hr, but you can bet that the mechanics themselves don't make that much and they certainly didn't pay nearly as much for their education.

Businesses cost money to run, and those costs need to be paid. That's just how things work, unless you find a place that takes donations in order to provide low cost care.

Sorry. Did not mean to derail the thread...

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I don't think we have Care Credit in Canada, I think there's something like it, but I can't remember what it's called. I was looking into Care Credit at one point in time and was disappointed because I couldn't use it here. The HealthSmart company my vet uses supposedly has 12 month plan with no interest, according to their website, I'll find out soon!

I just think there should be solid payment plan options, nothing that people can just disappear and stop paying, because I understand that.

Part of me wishes vets were tax funded, or whatever, haha. Probably not reasonable, though.

I can understand why costs are so high, but that doesn't make the bills any easier to pay!

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Originally Posted by KaylaEliuk

Some people just can't be pleased unfortunately.

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Unfortunately, indeed. Every way I try to something is never the right way for her, and she wonders WHY I don't ever do anything. *rolls eyes* I guess I can't complain, I don't have to pay rent or anything. 😜

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Originally Posted by Fraido

God I hate myself. -_- Of course I spill half the bottle of antibiotics on the floor. No way I am buying another 60 dollar little bottle of it, so I guess I'll just give it to her as long as I can. UGH. Why must I ruin everything? Sheesh.

The vet said it's only going to keep her "comfortable in the meantime," because things will just get stinky and uncomfortable for her again without the procedure, but she shows no signs of discomfort right now anyways. So even without the full course of antibiotics she should be fine until I can get it done.

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You can still give them to her, as long as they didnt fall into some liquid or other poisonous chemical.. Surely dusting them off wnt hurt. Kinda like the 2 second rule. I wouldnt discontinue the treatment of her issue. It is more than just a stinky thing..their mouths hurt when they are infected. Much like ours. And not treating it can lead to other health issues. I realise you have to wait for her surgery.. But I certainly wouldnt discontinue meds if it wasnt neccessary.

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Originally Posted by Jeanne

You can still give them to her, as long as they didnt fall into some liquid or other poisonous chemical.. Surely dusting them off wnt hurt. Kinda like the 2 second rule. I wouldnt discontinue the treatment of her issue. It is more than just a stinky thing..their mouths hurt when they are infected. Much like ours. And not treating it can lead to other health issues. I realise you have to wait for her surgery.. But I certainly wouldnt discontinue meds if it wasnt neccessary.

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It was liquid medication!

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Fraido, glad to see you on the mend. It was sad about the snake / cat encounter also but good thing that you were there to intervene. As far as the rats in the freezer, I think it would help to consider purchasing a compact freezer for all the snake food and anything rat or mouse. That would probably alleviate some of your mother's anxiety. Compact freezers are reasonably priced on amazon, maybe even shop craigslist for a second hand one.Try to be more understanding of your mom's fears and concerns bc she is older and could use your support rather than your resistance. We only get one biological mom. Best of luck. Remember you get more cooperation with a smile than with confrontation.

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Fraido, glad to see you on the mend. It was sad about the snake / cat encounter also but good thing that you were there to intervene. As far as the rats in the freezer, I think it would help to consider purchasing a compact freezer for all the snake food and anything rat or mouse. That would probably alleviate some of your mother's anxiety. Compact freezers are reasonably priced on amazon, maybe even shop craigslist for a second hand one.Try to be more understanding of your mom's fears and concerns bc she is older and could use your support rather than your resistance. We only get one biological mom. Best of luck. Remember you get more cooperation with a smile than with confrontation.

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She actually doesn't care about the feeder rats being in there, yes she says it's gross, but her issue was with my boyfriend's pet rat that's in there waiting to be cremated. For some reason she thought it was poisoning her, by contaminating everything in the entire fridge somehow. Finally she realized it had nothing to do with it being in there. She would never go for another appliance being plugged in, she complains about the hydro bill, I don't blame her though. I have a mini fridge that could very well house my feeder rats, but she doesn't want it plugged in.

It's just difficult to deal with someone who is always rude to you, doesn't support the things you love, and constantly complains like you're the worst, most useless thing on the planet. I try to understand, but she makes it difficult. She has the "I'm always right" mentality, and it's just so frustrating, I can understand that yes she's been around for some time and theoretically knows a lot more about a lot of things than I do, but she is far from a master of everything and it doesn't matter what the topic is, somehow she obviously knows more about and what she says about it is what's right.

The thing about thay last sentence you say is, there is no cooperation from her, very rarely. If I ask for something, she refuses to hear me out on it, she refuses to hear my thoughts, because mine don't matter. I understand that it is her place, but shouldn't things I really want, the things I love, the things that keep my happy, shouldn't they at least be given some thought?

It's just hard with her, it always has been, some people say we're too much alike. I don't know. Things should improve eventually.

2 questions
1: regarding you and your mom, how old are the two of you? And listen, no judgment about how old a person living with there mother should be; everyone's situation is different, just trying to get a feel for the generational gap, bc sometimes it can make a huge difference in how two people perceive the same situation.

2: boyfriend's rat in the freezer waiting for cremation??? Huh???
i mean, ok, he liked the thing, I'll accept that, but cremating a rat requires what, some lighter fluid and a coffee can?

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2 questions
1: regarding you and your mom, how old are the two of you? And listen, no judgment about how old a person living with there mother should be; everyone's situation is different, just trying to get a feel for the generational gap, bc sometimes it can make a huge difference in how two people perceive the same situation.

2: boyfriend's rat in the freezer waiting for cremation??? Huh???
i mean, ok, he liked the thing, I'll accept that, but cremating a rat requires what, some lighter fluid and a coffee can?

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18, I believe she's 35.

That rat was his baby, and he caused its death unintentionally. Our rats are loving pets in our life, not a source of food for our snakes.(: He wants to get his heart rat cremated, and I sort of want to do the same with my own when the time comes. He's getting him cremated and having the ashes put into a little necklace.

It could partially be a generation gap thing. Maybe its time to look for other housing for yourself, etc. Sometimes it just doesnt work living w our parents after we become young adults. You have your opinions, she has hers. And not trying to sound mean or anything, thats not my intention in anyway.. But it is her house. She isnt required to accomodate you or your interests at this point, you are a young adult. Know what I mean?

I speak from the point of view of a parent of young 20 somethings. Our son was living in our home after he turned 18, he became a little too big for his britches and was disrespectful, wouldnt work, wanted us to foot his cigarette bill and expected us to accommodate all his wishes because he still viewed himself as our "kid" so we owed it to him. He just couldnt grasp that he is a young adult and now responsible for himself. Eventually he was booted out of our home. He is now on his own and has learned a new appreciation for us, his parents. Now that he does have to take care of himself. He takes less for granted now. And appreciates the freedom he has living in his own domain, not ours. Our home, our rules.. His home..his rules.

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The other thing to consider.. Even at 35, she could be experiencing menopause.. Menopause can cause one to smell things more accutely..or think they smell things. My mom went thru this years ago.

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It could partially be a generation gap thing. Maybe its time to look for other housing for yourself, etc. Sometimes it just doesnt work living w our parents after we become young adults. You have your opinions, she has hers. And not trying to sound mean or anything, thats not my intention in anyway.. But it is her house. She isnt required to accomodate you or your interests at this point, you are a young adult. Know what I mean?

I speak from the point of view of a parent of young 20 somethings. Our son was living in our home after he turned 18, he became a little too big for his britches and was disrespectful, wouldnt work, wanted us to foot his cigarette bill and expected us to accommodate all his wishes because he still viewed himself as our "kid" so we owed it to him. He just couldnt grasp that he is a young adult and now responsible for himself. Eventually he was booted out of our home. He is now on his own and has learned a new appreciation for us, his parents. Now that he does have to take care of himself. He takes less for granted now. And appreciates the freedom he has living in his own domain, not ours. Our home, our rules.. His home..his rules.

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I literally just moved in with her, haha. Just finished highschool at the end of the June, I lived with my grandparents in a small town for my highschool years, I chose to move in with her so I could be back in the city where I would be able to walk to a job since I don't drive. Right now I'm taking a break from the stresses of school and work, and I can't even begin to explain how much happier I am because of that. Anxiety runs through my mom's side of the family, my mom deals with it, and I really see it in myself. I'm taking this time to relax, look after myself, and psych myself up for getting a real job in a few months. Not to mention think about what I want to go to school for and how.

We may not get along all the time, but I do follow her rules and I do try to respect her opinions on things. I don't have an issue with her rules, I have an issue with her attitude towards me. I just don't think it's wrong of me to want the respect someone expects from me returned?

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The other thing to consider.. Even at 35, she could be experiencing menopause.. Menopause can cause one to smell things more accutely..or think they smell things. My mom went thru this years ago.

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I suppose that is a possibility, who knows. She is sort of having health issues right now, regarding her nose and a couple other issues. I don't doubt that she is experiencing issues like it might have seen in my previous posts, but I just doubt it has anything to do with the neighbours. But she is trying to figure out what's going on, getting it all dealt with at the doctors and hopefully they'll find a way to help her.

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Originally Posted by Fraido

18, I believe she's 35.

That rat was his baby, and he caused its death unintentionally. Our rats are loving pets in our life, not a source of food for our snakes.(: He wants to get his heart rat cremated, and I sort of want to do the same with my own when the time comes. He's getting him cremated and having the ashes put into a little necklace.

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ok, that is interesting - i am 34, and although my oldest just turned 4, i teach college First-years (mostly 18-y-o) so i have some inkling of that age gap. now especially if you haven't lived together in years, i'm going to suggest (and i think its safe to say that i, as everyone here, am speculating wildly, but with only good intentions) that the conflict between you may bear more resemblance to sibling rivalry than parent/child. you two are at opposite ends of the same age group, in many ways you are peers. Think of the mild distain your graduating class had for the incoming freshmen, well we 30-somethings have that for you millennials in spades (not to say that any of it is valid) so take that awkward dynamic and then factor in fact that one of you gave birth to the other, and in doing so may very likely have missed out on a great deal of the fun of early adulthood which you are now enjoying, (which is fine btw, i'm not suggesting you should feel guilty for acting your age) and you have all the ingredients for a stew of psychological and emotional turmoil that could manifest itself in any number of ways from the fairly common, "she's always right and i'm always wrong" to the more novel, "she smells phantom odors". So i'm not trying to say, "hey give your mom a break, she's had it tough." I'm saying that your relationship is very unique and if you consider all the non-traditional aspects of it, you may find resolutions that you had not thought of before.

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ok, that is interesting - i am 34, and although my oldest just turned 4, i teach college First-years (mostly 18-y-o) so i have some inkling of that age gap. now especially if you haven't lived together in years, i'm going to suggest (and i think its safe to say that i, as everyone here, am speculating wildly, but with only good intentions) that the conflict between you may bear more resemblance to sibling rivalry than parent/child. you two are at opposite ends of the same age group, in many ways you are peers. Think of the mild distain your graduating class had for the incoming freshmen, well we 30-somethings have that for you millennials in spades (not to say that any of it is valid) so take that awkward dynamic and then factor in fact that one of you gave birth to the other, and in doing so may very likely have missed out on a great deal of the fun of early adulthood which you are now enjoying, (which is fine btw, i'm not suggesting you should feel guilty for acting your age) and you have all the ingredients for a stew of psychological and emotional turmoil that could manifest itself in any number of ways from the fairly common, "she's always right and i'm always wrong" to the more novel, "she smells phantom odors". So i'm not trying to say, "hey give your mom a break, she's had it tough." I'm saying that your relationship is very unique and if you consider all the non-traditional aspects of it, you may find resolutions that you had not thought of before.

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I can see what you're saying. Perhaps you are correct. I don't know!

[QUOTE=Fraido;2460583]I literally just moved in with her, haha. Just finished highschool at the end of the June, I lived with my grandparents in a small town for my highschool years, I chose to move in with her so I could be back in the city where I would be able to walk to a job since I don't drive. Right now I'm taking a break from the stresses of school and work, and I can't even begin to explain how much happier I am because of that. Anxiety runs through my mom's side of the family, my mom deals with it, and I really see it in myself. I'm taking this time to relax, look after myself, and psych myself up for getting a real job in a few months. Not to mention think about what I want to go to school for and how.

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Ok, let's try this again...

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I literally just moved in with her, haha. Just finished highschool at the end of the June, I lived with my grandparents in a small town for my highschool years...

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Thaaaat's probably part of it - I bet she hasn't completely processed that you're not the same age and maturity level as when you moved out for HS. It can be hard as a parent adjusting to teens/twenty-somethings' growth when they live with you full-time (am there, doing that [emoji846]), and being away likely makes it harder.

That doesn't excuse lack of respect, but maybe it can help you think of ways to help her adjust to the now-you, instead of 4-years-ago you.

You might also point your bowser at captainawkward.com and look at posts about dealing with parents.


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Thaaaat's probably part of it - I bet she hasn't completely processed that you're not the same age and maturity level as when you moved out for HS. It can be hard as a parent adjusting to teens/twenty-somethings' growth when they live with you full-time (am there, doing that [emoji846]), and being away likely makes it harder.

That doesn't excuse lack of respect, but maybe it can help you think of ways to help her adjust to the now-you, instead of 4-years-ago you.

You might also point your bowser at captainawkward.com and look at posts about dealing with parents.


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LOL. I was so confused, I was like, uhhhhhhhh I have no idea what this post is supposed to mean.

I could see how that might be the case. I can clearly recall a couple months ago I wanted to light a candle and she was questioning my capabality of using a candle because she "knows me." I was uber frustrated and I literally told her that, 'with all due respect, you have no idea who I am anymore,' because she really didn't. While I did frequently bring up stuff and talk about things that went on, she has no idea who I have become and what I'm capable of. It was just so insulting to have someone (your mother making it even worse) believe so little in you, so much so that I can't even manage the tiniest of responsibilities.

I shall take a peek at that link!

Anybody got suggestions on a good sized snake hook for him? I realize I really need one. Lol

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Get one that can't collapse/rotate! Probably not a thing with bigger hooks, but we've got a couple small one that does, and the rotation can be a royal pain.

One of my husband's co-workers made us a bigger hook in his metal shop, I just need to put a handle on it (works without, but a handle/grip would make it easier to use).


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I would definitely never get one that rotates or collapses!:p

I wish I had a handy friend. Lol I know someone who is willing to sell me a hook, I'm going out there today to look at it, gotta make sure it's a good size.

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I am the worst at progression type threads, lol

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I sort of have to wait for specific times to take him out, my mother doesn't want him coming out. *rolls eyes*

Looks like we're gonna have a shed, soon! Pictures to come!

Gross hide has been removed, just so everyone knows. Lol

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Phatty (I think that'll just be his name, lol) is in deeeep shed right now, has been dull for the last week, his eyes are now blue. http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...0c507c3cbd.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...946462c1af.jpg Still a loose skinned guy, I've been giving him a large rat every other week, thinking of changing that to every week to put some more weight on him.http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...b46787283f.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...02408dad5b.jpg

Finally shed lastnight! http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...da9fe6de40.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...295e354596.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...0e726a3e3d.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...83d8d1c4d6.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...8085ee5f1e.jpghttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...025e5f05ec.jpgI love taking photos of this guy, he's incredibly photogenic! 😄 We hung outside for a couple hours with the neighbours. They just got a baby bp and I highly suggested this website, hopefully they join. ☺

Phatty is quite the handsome dude! He looks really good, you've done a great job with him Fraido.

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Thank you! I love him. 😊

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I was asked if I'd consider trading this guy for a couple hognose juvies yesterday (if the deal could be worked out).. NEVER! I love my guy, as much as I would love a hognose I'd never trade him. One day I will have a hoggie, but not yet. :)

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Stepped on the scale with this guy and he's 20lbs! http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/2016...b2577e5921.jpg

Oh, Fraido! What a thread! I chanced on this thread while looking for as much as I can find about Sumatran red bloods, as it seems the snake rescue lady we have worked with has managed to convince me they're the perfect lap snakes / tv companions. And so now maybe we need one... :rolleyes:

Phatty is gorgeous and seems to be thriving in your care. To paraphrase what someone else (Reinz?) said earlier in the thread, thanks for being such an enthusiastic supporter of this great hobby of ours.

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Oh, Fraido! What a thread! I chanced on this thread while looking for as much as I can find about Sumatran red bloods, as it seems the snake rescue lady we have worked with has managed to convince me they're the perfect lap snakes / tv companions. And so now maybe we need one... :rolleyes:

Phatty is gorgeous and seems to be thriving in your care. To paraphrase what someone else (Reinz?) said earlier in the thread, thanks for being such an enthusiastic supporter of this great hobby of ours.

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😁 Thank you!

You totally need to get one, haha! He loves to hangout under the blanket where it's nice and warm, definitely an excellent lap snake. 😊

So cute. Whoever said snakes can't be cuddly just hasn't met the right one... :)

Exactly.. aha. 😋

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Wow, what a great story! I found myself reading all of the pages. :rockon:

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Wow, what a great story! I found myself reading all of the pages. :rockon:

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It's a pretty dramatic thread! 😁

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The stare that gets me every time... Lol
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Originally Posted by Fraido

Wanting opinions, my mother has been going crazy, and she is so freaking rude I can barely stand it. I can't stand the "I'm always right" attitude she has 100% of the time, so I want opinions. We live in a little housing complex, supposedly the neighbours had been seen pouring what she suspects is grease and stuff down the storm drains, and apparently our water tastes and smells funny, and so she's constantly yelling at me about it because I don't smell or taste ANYTHING. That's been going on for the last week and a half. She is so crazy about it she is going to the city water people and she is going to get it tested because that is "not right." Her theory is that it must somehow have something to do with the neighbours and their pouring of grease. According to her she can't stand it so much that she can barely stand washing the dishes because she doesn't want her hands in the water.

Now she's screaming at me about how the freezer smells funny and apparently I am stupid and wrong and need to be yelled at because once again I don't smell ANYTHING. I have smelled everything she is freaking out about, nothing. She calls me down to ask what was in a box in the freezer, my boyfriend's rat is in there because he passed away early June and he is pending cremation, so I tell her that and she freaks out about how she doesn't want it in there because according to her he's obviously "contaminating" everything in the fridge and poisoning everybody because now suddenly the bottled water doesn't taste right and it just MUST be him. I have smelled the box, I have tasted the water, NOTHING IS DIFFERENT. I am getting beyond frustrated. She goes as far to imply she's going to freaking die from the apparent "poisoning" that is happening, she tells me she has a doctors appointment next week and that she's going to bring it up to him and she says, "If I f***ing make it that long." JESUS.

She complains about the neighbours having a little compost and putting crap in their gardens because it stinks, she made me go into the backyard earlier today and smell because apparently it smells metallic yet all I could smell was gross poopy grass from the stupid other neighbours which just let their dog crap wherever. Of course she starts yelling at me for not smelling it.

Like, sounds to me like something is wrong with HER nose, smell and taste go together and she's the one having issues with both of those things. In the beginning when she was complaing about the water I could smell a faint metallic smell, but I don't smell anything now. She claims to smell it in the backyard where the hose pipe thing is and even when she showers. UGH. I can't stand being in the wrong all the time somehow just because I can't smell or taste what she is smelling and tasting.

So, there is no way Choo (rat) could be "contaminating" anything, right? It does not make sense, I have other frozen rats in the freezer for the snakes and it doesn't make sense that apparently Choo is causing a problem when the other rats aren't. (I even had her smell the package of frozen rats, and I had both me and my boyfriend smell Choo.)
What the heck do you guys think of this situation?!

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Does your mom have some sort of mental illness? This sounds like something I'd expect out of someone with paranoid schizophrenia, manic depression, bordlerline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or some other mood/personality disorder in the same vein. Especially if you say she's always been this way. Not saying this is the case, but that could be an explanation, and you did say she has anxiety, which can be tied to any number of other mental illnesses.

As others have suggested, talking it out with her and figuring out how she works may help. It may just be a case of a conflicting image of who you are and her anxiety causing her to run away with her imagination rather the very serious disorders I immediately thought of above. Maybe some family therapy time is in order?

I used to live with an awful parent, although he didn't rail and nag on me like your mother does, he was not a joy to live with. Now that we live separately, we sort of get along but he's still irritating to interact with a lot of the time. Sometimes it's generation gap, sometimes parents just won't/can't work past their issues, my father and I only semi get along because we rarely interact. He's still the same person, I just don't really have to deal with him.


Also, wow what a scary situation! A similar situation (but reversed) is why I no longer let dogs or cats come into contact with my snakes, I almost lost my oldest boa to a cat attack. All 3 (maybe even 4) cats had ganged up on him and scratched him up really bad. My mom didn't even tell me this happened, I learned about it when I came to visit a couple weeks later to see my baby covered in a bunch of big white scars. The snakes leave the room and the dog/cats are locked up. I mostly keep them in their respective rooms, though. Most people laugh me off or get aggressive ("I know my dog and s/he's very well trained, you don't know what you're talking about!" - usually don't care about what the snake might do), but you don't realize just how quickly things can get ugly until it happens.

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Originally Posted by CloudtheBoa

Does your mom have some sort of mental illness? This sounds like something I'd expect out of someone with paranoid schizophrenia, manic depression, bordlerline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, or some other mood/personality disorder in the same vein. Especially if you say she's always been this way. Not saying this is the case, but that could be an explanation, and you did say she has anxiety, which can be tied to any number of other mental illnesses.

As others have suggested, talking it out with her and figuring out how she works may help. It may just be a case of a conflicting image of who you are and her anxiety causing her to run away with her imagination rather the very serious disorders I immediately thought of above. Maybe some family therapy time is in order?

I used to live with an awful parent, although he didn't rail and nag on me like your mother does, he was not a joy to live with. Now that we live separately, we sort of get along but he's still irritating to interact with a lot of the time. Sometimes it's generation gap, sometimes parents just won't/can't work past their issues, my father and I only semi get along because we rarely interact. He's still the same person, I just don't really have to deal with him.


Also, wow what a scary situation! A similar situation (but reversed) is why I no longer let dogs or cats come into contact with my snakes, I almost lost my oldest boa to a cat attack. All 3 (maybe even 4) cats had ganged up on him and scratched him up really bad. My mom didn't even tell me this happened, I learned about it when I came to visit a couple weeks later to see my baby covered in a bunch of big white scars. The snakes leave the room and the dog/cats are locked up. I mostly keep them in their respective rooms, though. Most people laugh me off or get aggressive ("I know my dog and s/he's very well trained, you don't know what you're talking about!" - usually don't care about what the snake might do), but you don't realize just how quickly things can get ugly until it happens.

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Not as far as I'm aware, but geez I wouldn't be surprised if she actually does. Well, I'm pretty sure she had/has depression, but I don't know.

I'm not sure any amount of therapy can really help her and I, we're just such different people and it causes conflicts all the time. Not much has happened since the nose/smell problems, thankfully.

I think her plan is to move out in a year or two, thank the Lord..

It's crazy how things can go wrong so quickly like that. It's one of the reasons I'm not going to get a Giant in a loooonngg time, if ever. I want to have a good separate snake room, so I can keep everybody separated 100%. I'm not going to perma-ban my cuddly kitty from my room. Can you imagine if that had been a big burm or a retic? I would have had no chance and even from just a tag she could have been really hurt.

Fraido, did you ever get the snake hook that you wanted?

If not, I may have some information that may be helpful.

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Fraido, did you ever get the snake hook that you wanted?

If not, I may have some information that may be helpful.

I got one, it's just too small. It's the perfect size for maneuvering his head like you're supposed to, but I really want one to fit around his body so I can just pull him a little closer when he's in the enclosure.

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Gosh, I forgot about this thread - I hope you and your mom are doing better now, or at least smelling better :D

I love the picture of Phatty next to your boa, I think I found another picture of them together...



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The only thing I use a snake hook for is getting them out from under the bed or from behind the couch, etc.

When I got my large Boa, I didn't like the standard snake hooks. Since she had a large girth I was afraid of doing harm trying to get her out of tight spaces behind the furniture.

I could not find any hooks with a large "U" in the hook for larger snakes. So I asked this guy on a very popular bidding site to make me a larger hook and a 48 inch long shaft.

The hook is about 5 inches across at the widest point, but has a slower taper to the most narrow.

I'm not 100% sure, but I think that this is the guy below.

Best

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PM me if you want the name of the guy.

Phatty cons: He can't chill around my neck without rolling off or choking me 😣 Lol

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