I don't know who I pissed off

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Originally Posted by dsirkle

I think that your mother would be making a mistake to have your sister turn herself in unless the neighbor has called the police. And if she ran into the neighbor's house she probably isn't yet ready to learn to drive.

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Originally Posted by PythonWallace

I agree with all this. Turning her in will only end up costing your mom money and time since your sister doesn't have a job and can't drive. It's not like they'd make her spend the night in jail to teach her a lesson. And if you smash into the car in front of you, unfortunately it is entirely your fault. Good luck getting your car fixed.

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Originally Posted by snakecharmer3638

I agree also, I don't know if turning herself in is the best thing. Like stated above it will probably just end up costing your mom money. I would however keep track of any additional cost and make her pay you back when she is old enough to get a job. Even if it's only a little at a time.

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Agree, agree and agree. Your sister needs to know what she did is no acceptable and she needs to pay you back most definitely no matter how long it takes. It also show she's not close to being responsible enough to actually have a license. Turning her into the police would scare the crap out of her but would cost your mother a lot of money in the long run. So I would NOT suggest turning her in. I would however not allow her to get her license until she was 18 but even then if she lives in your moms house and/or drives someone else's car your mother and/or registered car owner could still be held legally responsible.

With regards to the neighbor. If there isn't any damage to his house with the exception of the lawn being torn up, I don't see him putting out the money for a lawyer to sue you. He may be the one to call the police and make a stink and you'll probably have to fix his lawn. If I were you I'd offer to fix the lawn because as the registered owner of the car you would be held responsible along side your mother.

I'm amazed that your sister would think for a second it was okay to drive your car period. I have two daughters and neither of them would have ever tried something like that. Don't get me wrong, we've had our issues but they both would have been way to afraid of what psycho-mom's punishment would have been. I think that makes me the meanie!!!

But . . .Jay_Bunny, if you think you've got bad karma you'll have bad karma. The positive is she nor anyone else was hurt. Lesson learned, unfortunately on your dime.

She's not turning herself in. We are worried about the neighbor for now. He hasn't said anything yet. He might not even notice his lawn. He mostly stays in his house and watches t.v. Oh and in addition to the damage done to my car, she also hit my brother's car. Its a car he had worked on for a few months and was about to get it painted. Now it has a big dent and a crack in the door. The entire door has to be replaced and the painting pushed back until he can get it fixed.

I really don't think this has sunk in for her yet. My fiance is going to help me get the pictures off my phone.

I hope that your sister is remorseful about what she has done. If not, she will probably keep your mother from getting bored for the next several years.

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Originally Posted by dsirkle

I hope that your sister is remorseful about what she has done. If not, she will probably keep your mother from getting bored for the next several years.

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I was thinking the same thing except bored is not the word I'd use. Teenage girls are a handful, seems like someone flips a switch on the backs of their necks at age 13.

omg I would be hissed too if my lil bro(just turned 15) decided to take my car for a joy ride. she is really lucky she wasn't killed... Not all stoners are bums just the stupid ones... aka "stupid stoner". Hope he isn't the kind of person you think he is. Good luck!

He is that kind of bum. He's a very strange individual. To each his own, I guess. I have friends that smoke pot and they are not the "stupid stoners" so I'm not one of those people who think everyone who smokes pot is dumb. This man just happens to be a "stupid stoner."

She is sorry for what she's done. We just can't figure out why she did what she did. Causing thousands of dollars of damage in one single action. We asked her why she did it and she said she didn't know. I know at 14, my most rebellious thought was "I want to get my belly button pierced." My mom told me to wait till I was 16, so out of respect of my mother, I did, and sure enough at 16, as promised, she took me out to get it done.

I don't know how sorry she is, if you had to discover that she also damaged the back of the car on a tree, and also hit your brother's car, without her TELLING you this. That's almost lying about it. That doesn't show one bit of remorse in my mind.
Yes, I think you were at fault for hitting the car in front of you, and the fact that your sister wrecked the car more, and damaged the neighbor's lawn(not the house?), and your brother's car is partly your mom's fault, and mostly your sister's fault.
I'd be having her do every chore around the house, while doing yardwork or cleaning for neighbors, giving you EVERY dime she gets from anything until the total amount is reached, and she wouldn't get a license even if she DID reach 18, until she paid it all back.
But I'm more of a meanie than most folks on here. I'd have dragged her down to the police station in addition.
AND made her fix the neighbor's lawn, AND apoligize to him, AND do his yardwork for a month too.

She hit the brick portion of his house, so no damage was done. The houses in the neighborhood tend to have a brick base.

What I don't get is why she didn't stop after you brothers car was damaged, unless that was the last thing she did. I'm 14 and so far in my life I have had the most rebellious thought of "I'm gonna leave the school grounds" It's a closed campus. Maybe she had an adrenaline rush. Does she have a friend you don't like. I did bad things (leaving school campus duing lunch hour and coming back at the) when hanging around with my friend my parents didn't like. I dunno. But wow, your a good person. As I said before if I did that, all that would be found of me would be a toe.