Prayers/Best Wishes Please....

Sorry for your loss, Having lost a possible gravid female and a girl I love in the basement I feel your loss. We tried the lie thing with the kids when they were small but the guilt thing sucks bad. Whatever you decide good luck and I am sure it will all work out in the end.

Joanna,


I'm not sure how I missed this thread earlier today, and I know how heartbreaking this past week has been for you. I also know how gut-wrenching it's been for you to try to decide how best to handle it.

Sounds like it's unanimous to tell him, and it sounds like you have decided that's what you and Mike will do.

It does not surprise me in the least that both Chris and Adam stepped up and made such a generous offer! Makes me even more proud to know both of them!

Acck I problably wasn't as clear in the earlier post as I should have been. I was a bit overwhelmed and weepy with Chris and Adam being such sweeties.

We are intending to tell Mikey that his Helori has escaped and may not be alive but we will hope and pray she is. We are actually going to tell him tomorrow (Monday) as he's down with the flu today and is feeling crummy enough, poor kid. We feel that it's only right to be honest about it being a different snake and help Mikey through the loss of Helori (thank you all for your collective wisdom on this). I know he'll love his new snake as well but it's only right he be allowed the truth.

Just my first instinct as a mom to do anything to avoid seeing one of my kids cry. That's just me and why I'm a bit hard on myself over not locking Helori down properly that night. I do expect a lot from myself when it comes to the kids or the pets and their safety and happiness. I know most of us parents here are exactly the same and it just comes with the territory once you have a little person in your life.

Thanks again though everyone for the wisdom, support and caring attitude. It's been more appreciated than you all know and just another example of what makes this BPNet a great place to be!

A special thanks to Robin who was the first person I called when I found Helori gone. Robin's an amazing friend and has been there through the death of Teagan and the loss of Helori. Most of you may not know that Robin herself sent us a lovely 06 female BP she purchased in Daytona when our Teagan died suddenly right after we purchased her. Thanks my friend for always being there. After a relatively easy time of it with the snakes having two losses in the past 6 months has been a bit shocking. Guess it is something one must come to accept but wow it's been a time of it lately.

Joanna I'm sorry to hear about Mikeys Bp. I'd go with the truth, who knows you might find her with Mikeys help. Adam and Chris you guys rock, guys like you are what makes this community so special.:teamwork: :clap:

Joanna, it's easy being your friend! Your friendship has meant just as much to me! :hug:

I'm really sorry to hear about this, Joanna :(
If I remember correctly, Helori is a clutchmate to Trey, the snake Chris gave my daughter.
I agree that honesty is the best way to handle this situation, I know we all have memories of our first loss, it's all part of growing up.

Chris and Adam really are the greatest.

Thanks Sarah, that's very sweet of you. I'm not sure which ones Helori was related to as you have a snake from Chris as does Jen (Genieve).

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Originally Posted by frankykeno

I'm not sure which ones Helori was related to as you have a snake from Chris as does Jen (Genieve).

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They are all siblings from my very first clutch of ball pythons. There where four total, three girls and one boy. Helori to your family. Luna to Jen's family. Trey to Sarah's family. Dot is here with me.

The second week out of the egg Helori escaped from her tub. My ball room is small and secure but I could not find her anywhere :confused: I finally checked on top of the sub adult rack that is 5' off the floor with nothing next to it to climb. There is a ~1" space between the top of the rack and the wall. Sure enough, there she was. Just relaxing and looking at me with her tongue out :P I still have no idea how she did it but was glad to see her. I wish the same result this time. That she will turn in up in the most random place, perhaps in a cereal box.

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Originally Posted by Adam_Wysocki

Chris (cueball) is one of the best guys you'll find working with these amazing animals and just one of the best guys period ... I'm not surprised one bit that he was the first to step up and offer to help. He has a huge heart and I'm honored to call him my friend.-adam

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I'm blessed to hold your company and recieve your kind words. I look forward to many years of enjoying your knowledge, friendship and business relations. You have inspired me all along :hug:

jo i am so sorry to hear about helori. i think you have made the right choice in telling mikey the truth and think that he will be thrilled to learn of his new pet snake from adam. how wonderful of adam and chris to immediately offer their help!

you may well still find helori. it may be months down the road when suddenly you stumble upon her just chillin' in your closet in a shoe (i think that happened to smulkin and smynx one time :) ). my prayers are with helori, that she is doing fine and will resurface soon. :sunny: