Any others who don't want to have kids?

I don't want kids either. Maybe my views will change. I doubt it though. I don't dislike them, I just think i'd make a junky parent;)

Parenting isnt as easy as it used to be. Cant rule a household like my grandparents used to (with a belt and firm rules) anymore. (what the heck is Child protective sevi-someting or another) haha just kidding.


I think everyone has to look within themselves and ask themself "with how society is(you know what im talkin about), education across the country, the economy, my financial stability, my judement, my available time and resources, will I make a good parent in 2007(or whenever).

Sure Id make mom of the year in 1956 but ya know what...it isnt 1956.
If you as adult ( i wanna stress that word) can handel the responsiblility and the level of maturity to raise a healthy (to whatever degree that may be for some individuals) being, then go for it.

Now finding a partner who wants the same and is on your level is another story. (parenting is a team thing (if you have a partner) and not always do people agree on parenting skills and what to do)

Those who dont want to have and raise children, its not all that bad.Sure it wont be as easy making friends with your neighborhood full of childrenfull families but that doesnt mean your not a family! Family is what ever you wish it to be and where ever you find it. For instance my two good friends have small children, when their kids bdays come around what do i do.....
I rent my nephew and take him along. I get the enjoyment of running around after him, making him smile, learning the evil construction and function of the CARSEAT(am i the only one who finds some of those things difficult) and at the end of the day I give him back to his mommy. I get the enjoyment of the partent without all the hoopla that comes with it. "rent-a-family" Dan and I do it all the time.

Your young, 25 isnt when your womb dries out and says"too late sucka". Give it some time. Your still growing into the person you are ment to be till you get old and have to wear a hearing aide and velcro shoes.

*What makes me sore is anyone women who wants a baby(saying all her babymaker parts are working) can have a baby, but does anyone notice how hard it is to adpot a fricken pet from a humane socitey!!??? *

You're not alone. I know a lot of folks who prefer to live "child free" for all the reasons listed above and more. Nothing wrong with it in the least. I've often leaned that direction, but Karen's talked me into considering the idea of adopting someday. Preferably an older kid who really needs us and is comfortable/gentle with animals.

There's tons of kids already born who badly need good homes, and it seems rediculous that there's SO much pressure to pop out your own. Even in the GBLT community, frozen sperm and what have you... and I find that appalling. It seems to me that when people who can't have kids really want kids they should look to the children already on this planet who need them instead of to science. I'd really like to see more people who really want children adopt.

And for those who don't really want children, that's just fine too. "Because it's just what you do" isn't a good reason to have kids, imho. Don't try to put a square peg in a round hole and be yourself. I'm happy with just critters around, I'm more comfortable around animals than people as a general rule anyway. If that changes, we'll see who needs us.

I have a 9yr old daughter, there isn't a moment since having her that I consider my life with out her. My life revolves around my daughter, my husband, my household and my pets!


With that said, I'm not one of these woman who carries 200 pictures of their kids in their purse or has 200 pictures and drawings all over the office, or shoves their kid stories down everyone throats that will or won't listen! I mean come on, this woman in my office has a 5yr old who is lovingly called "DAMIEN" and she thinks he's a sweetheart! The whole office knows every time this kid urinates on the carpet or bites his sisters leg, every time she brings him here the screams can be heard throughout the building and she just laughs!!…it's not cute!! Most of these kids are spoiled BRATS that desperately need to be taught the word "NO".

I think woman in general are each others worst enemies, in my office there are about 20 woman and all but two have kids. All of them have two-three kids, I have one. I can honestly say the woman with kids clearly treat the other woman as less! I have one and get the, "you're not a mother unless you have at least two!" comment all the time! They've all but pushed these two poor girls away because all they talk about is kids, kids and more kids! Any other topic/subject turns to kids! Your not a woman unless you have kids!

Same goes for family, your family is always pushing you to have kids 24/7! It doesn't matter if you're not in a stable marriage, or financially can't support a child, or are about to get a divorce, they seem to think a child will instantly fix everything and is required!

I say, live your life to the fullest the way you want to live, kids or no kids!

[QUOTE=MedusasOwl]I've often leaned that direction, but Karen's talked me into considering the idea of adopting someday. Preferably an older kid who really needs us and is comfortable/gentle with animals. QUOTE]

I saw something on Discover Health in which this husband and wife adopted 23 special needs children. some that were prodcuts of rapes,some with congenital defects, downs syndrome, etc. They had a mini community in their home. They taught each child and adult skills they needed to make it in there community and in the world. from making your bed, doing dishes, cooking, paying bills or making purchases at the grocery store, yard work and house maintence, and caring for each other. These were children who could have spent most of their childhood in homes, in facilites and in hospitals. It made me look at my own life and what I really want out of it. If i have that unconditonal love within me and can afford mentally, physically and financialy to raise a child that might spend what little time her or she may have in and out of homes due to their special needs....why not.When my life reaches that point..and that road is layed before me..I'll always consider it.

Adopting an older child is a wonderful thing. I couldnt imagine being a teen or preteen and seeing all the infants being adopted out and knowing I might spend the rest of my adolesence a ward of the state and not part of a family.

besides...diaper chaning isnt for everyone!;)

I'm 34 and I've never wanted kids either although I'm open for discussions should Rick and I decide to "go there"...but I've never been a "kid person". When I was high school and friends of my parents would ask them if it would be okay if I babysat their kids, my folks would always be like "oh, that's probably not a good idea." LOL!

I totally appreciate other people's children, that they changed their lives forever and it's a wonderful experience...but it's not for me, not now and not in the forseeable future.

My parents will have to deal with having grandbaby cats and snakes (muwhahahha!).

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Originally Posted by 4Khan

Adopting an older child is a wonderful thing. I couldnt imagine being a teen or preteen and seeing all the infants being adopted out and knowing I might spend the rest of my adolesence a ward of the state and not part of a family.

besides...diaper chaning isnt for everyone!;)

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Lol, yes, goodness knows I have enough poo to clean up around here! ;) But yeah, 2 of my best friends were adopted, and I think it's really a beautiful thing... and sad that so many people are reluctant to do it in favor of artificial insemination and fertility drugs etc. Maybe someday :) Although I honestly don't know if I'd be able to handle a special needs child... the folks who can have my utmost respect and admiration!

thought this article was interesting.....
it made me think of this thread


http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/06155/695303-109.stm

Hey either you do or you don't , being a parent has been the most amazing and fulfilling part of my life.I love them more than anything , I would walk the whole planet for them.When I look into their eye's it's the best feeling in the world.The day my kid's were born I cried , I'm not afraid to admit it.To me they are what life's all about.