Ex wife not wanting me to see my son because of her fear of snakes

You said you did presentations with the snakes at his school, right? That's a BIG one. If a school has said the way you transport and handle the animals is safe, that's a pretty important thing.

Seconding what several people have said about the burm though. I seriously doubt the way you're keeping it is dangerous to the kid, but the legal system doesn't like big snakes. If you did keep it, you might have to keep it in a separate room with a lock on the door and another on the enclosure. My family has had some experience with the whole custody thing, and it probably wouldn't be a good idea to have the big snake in a room that your child thinks of as fun/safe to go into otherwise even if he's always supervised.

If you son is truly scared of snakes, it doesn't matter HOW much he wants to please Daddy, he wouldn't go near them. Let alone carry them, wrap them around his neck, etc.

It sounds like your ex might be jealous, and angry. She can't just take your rights away without going to court and dealing with a judge.

You've never answered if your cages are secure or if they're in a separate room. If you can get them they're own room, with a locked door, I can't see how she could complain that he's in danger.

I wouldn't give up your burm either, as long as its in a secure, locked, escape-proof enclosure. You say you're son is a bit weary of it, so I doubt you bring it out in front of him.

You guys are looking at this with ignorant and biased opinions lol.

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Originally Posted by Bobbafett

If you son is truly scared of snakes, it doesn't matter HOW much he wants to please Daddy, he wouldn't go near them. Let alone carry them, wrap them around his neck, etc.

It sounds like your ex might be jealous, and angry. She can't just take your rights away without going to court and dealing with a judge.

You've never answered if your cages are secure or if they're in a separate room. If you can get them they're own room, with a locked door, I can't see how she could complain that he's in danger.

I wouldn't give up your burm either, as long as its in a secure, locked, escape-proof enclosure. You say you're son is a bit weary of it, so I doubt you bring it out in front of him.

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Yes I keep them in a seperate heated, humidifier, and in racks except the but he is in a glass aquarium with a lockable sliding lid, ANd most importantly THE ROOM HAS A LOCK ON IT (keyed entry lock)


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Burm not but. Lol


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Originally Posted by Mike41793

You guys are looking at this with ignorant and biased opinions lol.

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IMO its just like a gun rack. I mean, if it's always locked and in a separate locked room, what's the big deal?

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Originally Posted by Bobbafett

IMO its just like a gun rack. I mean, if it's always locked and in a separate locked room, what's the big deal?

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I think he might be referring to the states(meaning any western government, not America in particular) habit of favouring mothers in custody issues, refusing to prosecute mothers breaking court orders, etc.

Logic ceases at the steps to any family court.

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Originally Posted by bradthebanker

Yes I keep them in a seperate heated, humidifier, and in racks except the but he is in a glass aquarium with a lockable sliding lid, ANd most importantly THE ROOM HAS A LOCK ON IT (keyed entry lock)


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There you go. You're doing it right.

This is a visitation issue, not a custody issue. It's much, much harder to lose visitation than it is to lose custody. At least in AL, you have to get the courts involved BEFORE you can keep a kid from the visiting parent, even if it's due to safety reasons. If she's not involving at least DHR, she can't keep him from you. The burden of proof lies on the parent claiming unsafe conditions.

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Originally Posted by Parysa

There you go. You're doing it right.

This is a visitation issue, not a custody issue. It's much, much harder to lose visitation than it is to lose custody. At least in AL, you have to get the courts involved BEFORE you can keep a kid from the visiting parent, even if it's due to safety reasons. If she's not involving at least DHR, she can't keep him from you. The burden of proof lies on the parent claiming unsafe conditions.

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Pretty sure it's the same here, she can't just decide on her own (no parent can) that the other parent is not going to be allowed their time with the child, if they do then it's most likely contempt of court.

To the OP... Obviously you know you need to talk with your lawyer, I would suggest setting up a meeting in your house with your child, your lawyer and DCS (NOT the ex) and you try to keep back as much as possible so that the people from DCS can see your childs true feelings about the snakes without your influence.

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Originally Posted by rascal_rascal_99

To the OP... Obviously you know you need to talk with your lawyer, I would suggest setting up a meeting in your house with your child, your lawyer and DCS (NOT the ex) and you try to keep back as much as possible so that the people from DCS can see your childs true feelings about the snakes without your influence.

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No way would I bring DCS into my home, invited or not. People tend to be more prejudiced against snakes than firearms. A video of the OP's son handling his favorite snakes and being cool with it should be enough.