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I am assuming you're talking generally. Generally, I rely on my faith for confidence. I know that as a human, I am flawed and will always be while I live. So relying on someone else or even myself can be setting myself up for failure. I have lots of things I could be depressed about if I focused on them. Instead I try to focus on the good things the I've been blessed with and be grateful for what I do have and what I can do. But I also pray for what I do not have and can not do. It can be difficult to be humble yet not complacent. I am certainly not the best at it. But I do have my God to lean on. Without Him nothing I do can lead to anything permanently meaningful.

I pray the Lord will lead you to where you need to be.

I went through a rough patch once and I made myself a ton of note cards like this:

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y21...9/IMG00247.jpg

I posted them all over my house, the dash of my car and kept some in my purse. It helped to remind me to smile and the others kept me from answering when he called!

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Originally Posted by python_addict

how do you gain self confidence when you have been broke down to nothing left? without people lying to you just to make you feel better....

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Self-confidence is good, if it's justified, but it's not everything. Are you sure that it's self-confidence you need, and not happiness? Perhaps you are simply depressed?

Evaluate your thoughts for things that are irrational. For example, if you think "I never do anything right", that's obviously stupid--you managed to tie your shoes, right? You prepared breakfast, didn't you? There are many things you do right, so thoughts like those are irrational, and they feed depression. They also, incidentally, feed into a lack of self-confidence. If you catch yourself thinking those things, or saying them--immediately correct yourself.

Make a list of all the things you do right. Write them down on paper. It's going to be a long list, take your time.
Then, make a list of things you WANT to do right, that are achievable goals. Do NOT write down things you have done wrong in the past--only things you want to do right in the immediate future. The past is completely irrelevant--it's gone, and it can't be changed, so ignore it.

Write down HOW you can do those things right. Then treat yourself to something you enjoy, and get started. :)

Remember--YOUR self-confidence does NOT rely on the opinions of other people. Only your opinion counts, that's why it's SELF-confidence, and not just confidence.

Couldn't tell ya. I've had suicidal thoughts and have been insecure since the 6th grade. Now going to be a freshman. Fun stuff

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Actually I can help. You are a reptile lover and that individuality is something not too many carry. You need to vilipend what others think. Maybe keep a journal. Between my guitar, snakes, and writing I am able to somewhat clear my mind. Now quit being upset and let's all make some b.a. Snakes!!! YAY!!!

Vitamin B and exercise. This is what we recommend to my sister. Its not a cure all by any means but a daily walk and some vitamins can be effective as a start.

Good diet and exercise can certainly help. I think it's important to realize that the way you feel is not who you are--it's as much a result of what is going on inside your body as it is a result of your personality. If your car breaks down, you take it to the shop--if your body breaks down, take it to the doctor, and fix it. Nutrition and exercise can have a dramatic impact on mood.

Tell your doctor how you feel.

Just learn to use the phrase ":cens0r::cens0r::cens0r::cens0r: happens". It's also a good thing to learn to "not give a :cens0r::cens0r::cens0r::cens0r:". You'll be over it in no time once you don't care anymore.

A few things I keep in mind to get me through rough times.

"The past is History
Tomorrow is a Mystery
Today is a gift...
That's why it's called the Present"

" I had the blues
because I had no shoes
when I chanced to meet
upon the street
a man who had no feet."

" Life isn't about waiting
for the storm to pass.
It's about learning
to dance in the rain. "

" To the world,
you may be just one person.
But, to one person
you may just be the world."

" It is better to be Hated
for who you are,
than to be Loved
for who you are not."

" You've got to Sing like no one is Listening
And Love like you'll never be Hurt.
You've got to Dance like no one is Watching
And Live each moment like it's your last on this Earth. "


Gale

Aw Lacey. I know how you feel. I've been hurt too, not exactly like you have, but the emotional aftermath was the same.

Firs thing I did was make a list of all the things I love about myself and the world. A very silly list. Once I was done, I read it and laughed until I cried. And then I felt better, because I had an entire list of things that make me happy.

Here's a short exert of it, copied straight from my Word file called "ME THINGS!!!!!!" ... a little piece of me to help you get that little piece of you back.


"25. i think i look different in pictures
26. i feel like dancing
27. i shake my leg when im sitting
28. so is one leg going to get way stronger than the other?
29. inheritance cycle book 4 comes out in 36 days
30. WOOHOOO!!!
31.i like that theres mud on my shoes
32. i want to watch planet earth
33. me and bianca could write for snl, i just know it
34. a girl said she liked my hedgehog sweater, weeeehooooiee!!
35. this is so fun to write!!!
36. what would i look like with red hair?? hmmm...
37. dont hate me for being fabulous!
38. lolololol
39. trees make me happy, they just keep growing
40. lions are cool
41. i wish i had a diabetic friend
42. i love kelsey, that fox
43. my hands are colddddddddd
44. hilary duff is pissing me off
45. wheres a snuggie when you need one?
46. i drink too much coffee
47. and have a severe drug habit
48. but dont worry, they're prescription!
49. muahaha i had you going there didnt i? woohoo insulin!
50. turtles are so cool
51. and manta rays are rad"

It's literally 250 entries of pure ridiculousness. And I read it every time I feel badly about myself, because it reminds me of how freakin' awesome I am and how much I love the world.
It worked for me, and I bet it will help you. But only if you completely let loose and be as silly as possible! :rolleye2:

I hope you feel better.

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Originally Posted by angllady2

A few things I keep in mind to get me through rough times.

"The past is History
Tomorrow is a Mystery
Today is a gift...
That's why it's called the Present"

" I had the blues
because I had no shoes
when I chanced to meet
upon the street
a man who had no feet."

" Life isn't about waiting
for the storm to pass.
It's about learning
to dance in the rain. "

" To the world,
you may be just one person.
But, to one person
you may just be the world."

" It is better to be Hated
for who you are,
than to be Loved
for who you are not."

" You've got to Sing like no one is Listening
And Love like you'll never be Hurt.
You've got to Dance like no one is Watching
And Live each moment like it's your last on this Earth. "


Gale

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I love all of these. The one- To the world you may just be one person, but to one person you may just be the world, makes me sad. I put that on a picture board I made for the funeral when my father in law died. He was the best dad I ever had. :(

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