Re: My day to freak out...
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Originally Posted by
4Ballz
I only ask about the smoking and drinking, as my wife was the smoker and i was the drinker. She has stopped smoking, coming to 8 years in Nov, and my drinking has been cut down to 80% (which is a lot).
Congrats to your wife on stopping smoking. That's great!
I have no vices. If anything, I like to think of myself as a pretty decent 'keeper'. My only 'vice' is making supper. I like making new things. But it doesn't cost anymore than our usual supper. So it's not really anything critical there.
Unfortunately, this topic is going like I'd hoped. After discussing the differences in pay, he makes more than double I do at this point. But a comment he made while over at a friend's house the other day has made me feel somewhat taken aback. They were talking about costs of moving out (as his friend just moved out with his girlfriend). His friend was like: "Whatever my baby girl wants, she gets." To which my boyfriend replied: "I can see helping out occasionally, but it shouldn't be all the time. You need equality when it comes to who is paying for what."
So I was definitely shaken. Especially since he said to me when we moved out that he was taking on a new position at work so that we'd have more money for 'us'. But it appears that our relationship isn't at 'that point' just yet.
Guess we're going to be doing our own thing with our finances for the next little while. I don't want to turn it into a fight, so I'll wait until there's a better moment to address my concerns. Otherwise I'll just come across as if I'm trying to get his money, which I'm not.
I'm sure we'll talk more about it in the next little while so I dont want to keep pushing it right now.
This seems like it's painting him in a bad light, but usually he's fantastic and understanding. But the money topic... I've hit a tender spot with it, it seems. And I'm not sure why.
